strange situation

[Guest josephga]

Had a situation with a client yesterday guess I'm questioning how i handled it. I felt I did the right thing

This person booked a massage asked no questions I guess made
assumptions . I tried to engage him asking how does he normally like his massage I received very little response. I always ask because some guys don't like deep tissue and just because your listed on massage m4m doesn't always mean they want sensual either.He gets on table and less than 5 minutes in changes his mind and offers to pay.
I decline payment. I even offer to make a suggestion on someone else he might like if he tells me what he is looking for. His response I’m looking for lunch I think. This thing has never happen b4. He would not openly engage on what he was expecting. I got the impression he was expecting
a discount escort and was surprised to find a real therapist and a professional
setup. He left 20.00 behind even after I said I didn't want his money

[Guest hitoallusa]

It's very difficult to understand what people really want. There are all sorts of people.. Please do not take it personally.

[Guest josephga]

some say I should have taken full payment because i set the time aside and he gave no clear explanation to why he changed his mind. Allot of times people won't say what they want. You don't get in a chair and just let them cut your hair. you tell them what you want same with this. some don't realize I advertise with gyms and DR's Those people don't expect a release and I don't do it unless the client wants it. some actually don't and find reaching down and touching their privates offensive. I tell people even though I offer sensual massage it is a real massage and that the therapeutic element is mandatory with my sessions. People have to learn to ask questions I'm not a mind reader and I can't be everything to everybody. that 20.00 he left on the table I ended up giving to a homeless woman at kroger this morning I didn't want his money

[Guest hitoallusa]

Well I hope you feel better . Maybe he was a bit shy or uncomfortable. It's hard to communicate sometimes but giving the benefit of the doubt is good for both parties...

[caeron]

I suspect he was conflicted about what he wanted, and too hung up to talk. It sounds like you were more gracious than you needed to be.

[Guest CharliePS]

I think you did the most reasonable thing you could, under the circumstances. It is not your fault if a customer won't tell you what he wants or explain why he is not satisfied. It does sound like someone who was very inhibited or conflicted, or maybe just changed his mind at the last minute.

[lookin]

You were polite, professional, and kind. I don't see how you could have handled it any better. Without being a mind reader anyway.

[TampaYankee]

I agree that you did all you could do in that situation. Obviously he was conflicted about something and that conflict extended to talking with you about it. You will never know what went on in his head but I suspect he just wasn't ready, in his own mind, to do what he thought he wanted to do or what he thought might happen. You should move on with a clean conscience.

I remember when I faced that Rubicon for me. It took some time for me come to grips with it and I would not proceed with doubt or in a half-hearted manner. I didn't want to freeze in the headlights so to speak. Ultimately, I decided that must explore the other bank of that river and I never looked back.