Boy Toys, Escorts And Houseboys, Oh My!

[TotallyOz]

Boy Toys, Escorts And Houseboys, Oh My!

At BoyToy, we use a lot of terms to describe different types of sexual relationships between older guys and young gays. While many of you are familiar with these terms already, we know that many guys cum here who are new to the gay scene. Not everyone becomes strictly dickly when they are 18. Some of us didn't figure out that sausage was our thing until we were older.

With that in mind, we decided to do a rundown on the three most common types of relationships we discuss boy toys, escorts and houseboys. While all are similar in that they involve trading the salami with an up and cummer, there are nuances to the relationships and it's important to know the distinction so that you know exactly what you are looking for from your sexperience.

Boy Toys

For many of us, boy toys are the ideal relationship. It's when we go out on dates with a younger guy who wants to profit from our experience. We take him out to dinner, go to the movies, and cuddle at home.

While there is a financial dynamic in that we probably make more money than they do and therefore pay for drinks and meals and such, it's not an escort or houseboy experience. They don't work for us. Instead, we simply have great nights out and take them to places and events they probably couldn't afford to do on their own.

If we were straight, they would be trophy wives or trophy girlfriends. Because we are happy homos, they are boy toys instead. We get the fun of playing with a hot young body, and they get to be with a guy who can take them to places more sophisticated than Burger King on a date.

While there is a potential for actual romance here, it's generally understood that boy toys are fairly disposable. As they get older, we'll replace them with a newer model and they will move on to dating guys their own age.

As the name would suggest, it's a fun, simple relationship where everyone is in it to have a gay old time.

Male Escorts

Male escorts are at the extreme other end of the spectrum. The relationship is purely financial. While we might take them out to dinner, we don't have to. Instead we can just have them meet us at a hotel room, get our rocks off, and discreetly hand them an envelope full of cash.

Male escorts are generally one-night stands. We meet, we mate, and they go away. While we can, of course, hire them again, if we don't there are no hard feelings. You can be with one male escort on Friday and another on Saturday, and it's just business as usual.

You can hire escorts for longer periods of time a weekend away or for an entire week on vacation, for example but that's the sexception that proves the rule. There is rarely any romantic aspect to the relationship, though you can pay them to act like your boyfriend for a few hours.

Houseboys

Houseboys occupy a land between that of a boy toy and a male escort. It is a financial arrangement, but also a domestic one - and feelings do often get involved.

In a houseboy relationship, you give the young stud a salary to live in your house and take care of tidying up, changing the sheets, doing the shopping and more often than not, cooking dinner.

There is, of course, the expectation that the houseboy will have sex with you when you want it but there is no expectation or obligation that you will be faithful to your houseboy. Also, you'll still be paying your houseboy his salary/allowance even if, for whatever reason, you two aren't fucking for a period of time.

The closest example in the straight world is that of a housewife except a houseboy gets paid for his work, and you aren't tied to them for life. After a year or two, you can give them severance pay and replace them with a new houseboy.

It goes without saying that when you are living with a cute young boy and having sex regularly, romantic aspects and feelings can sometimes get involved. Bu, it's not like dating a boy toy, because the room, board and salary are understood as the reason he is there. And, he is obligated to work for the creature comforts and roof over his head that you are providing.

Many men who don't want to deal with the hassle of dating, but also don't want to risk having bad experiences with random escorts, choose the houseboy lifestyle because it combines the best of both worlds and minimizes the negatives of both experiences.

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[Guest NCBored]

Thanks for articulating the site's terminology. . I wish shorter versions could be tied to the profiles (as I've mentioned elsewhere).

It improves both communication and searching when all parties involved can use consistent terminology.

I was struck by the mention of age differences. I suppose it's an acknowledgment that in most cases, the clients are older (often significantly) than the escorts. This site (managment & members) does seem, to me, to lean more toward younger escorts & twinks.

I am a bit uncomfortable with the 'disposable' terminology - but that's my own prejudice/view. To me, it seems to de-personalize and de-value.

[BiBottomBoy]

Well, I think the difference between a boy toy and a boyfriend is the disposability factor.

[AdamSmith]

Well, I think the difference between a boy toy and a boyfriend is the disposability factor.

That could be read more than one way.

[BiBottomBoy]

I'm more than aware of that.