Guest Hoover42 Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Women receive compliments and flirty attention all the time (often unwanted); men, less so, I think. But flirting with and complimenting men for us can be risky, obviously. My compliments to men are usually spontaneous, but always honest and respectful, however, despite that, sometimes these compliments are not well received, even if the response is gracious. I'm beginning to think it's better to compliment men on their actions rather than on their characteristics, but I wanted hear from my friends here about what you've found that works for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lucky Posted November 11, 2012 Members Share Posted November 11, 2012 Is there a man who does not appreciate a compliment? Even straight guys can take pleasure in hearing a gay man compliment him. After all, we are experts on men. TotallyOz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest EXPAT Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 I hear all the time at the gym between other guys: "You must work out a lot!" "How did you get that definition?" In Weho, I hear "Nice package!" A lot too when guys see each other or just meet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lurkerspeaks Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Nice package?? Is that referring to the "overall package" or to the crotch area? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest EXPAT Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Vague on purpose I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hitoallusa Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Guys around me seem to appreciate compliments of any kind... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FourAces Posted November 11, 2012 Share Posted November 11, 2012 Depends on where I am. If at work I might say something like you're a handsome young man or wow you're in great shape. I guess being older I can get away with those types of compliments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lookin Posted November 12, 2012 Members Share Posted November 12, 2012 I try to stay away from generalities, where discomfort may arise from cloudy intentions, and focus on something more specific. Rather than tell a guy he looks like he works out, I might try telling him he's a dead ringer for a guy in the book I just started reading. If, in spite of my objectivity, he still feels a bit uncomfortable, I find that dropping my voice an octave and adding a friendly "Bro" or "Dude" can sometimes ease any temporary awkwardness. MsGuy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TownsendPLocke Posted November 12, 2012 Members Share Posted November 12, 2012 "Nice shoes !" Said while staring directly at his crotchal zone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hitoallusa Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 Lol.... If you ever get to see me you better mean that my shoes are nice! Where do you stare if it happens to be a lady though??? "Nice shoes !" Said while staring directly at his crotchal zone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Suckrates Posted November 12, 2012 Members Share Posted November 12, 2012 I just pet their groin. ! :thumbsup: TotallyOz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hitoallusa Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 Oh my Suckrates you are so direct.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MsGuy Posted November 13, 2012 Members Share Posted November 13, 2012 If, in spite of my objectivity, he still feels a bit uncomfortable, I find that dropping my voice an octave and adding a friendly "Bro" or "Dude" can sometimes ease any temporary awkwardness. Lookin contemplates inserting his "bro" a bit earlier in the conversation. lookin 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members lookin Posted November 13, 2012 Members Share Posted November 13, 2012 They don't call me the Feckless Fawner for nothing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdamSmith Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I just pet their groin. ! :thumbsup: Yes!! ...Couple months ago, away on a bidness trip, that got me into bed with a straight guy. Who -- rather than clocking me, thank goodness -- discovered a couple new degrees of freedom! (As the engineers at this conference would put it. ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotallyOz Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 I agree that everyone loves compliments but there is a limit. Words are great. Touches are not. I was swimming laps today and this man twice my size and age starting touching me when I would swim past him. It was very cute the first time and I blushed a bit. But, after a while, he got more aggressive in his touching. Now, he was Arab. I love fucking with Arabs but I think they are generally a bit more upfront and aggressive. So, do you think it is a cultural thing on how much we enjoy and what level of compliment we enjoy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hitoallusa Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 What! AS there was another guy you met on your business trip! I want names! And who is flirting with my Oz! I need to up my survelliance Anyways, there was a hot swim instructor at a pool I frequent. My hand once brushed against his body... I am not sure whether it was intentional or not... But it happened... Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
