Compassion for other clients...

[Guest hitoallusa]

A guy claiming to be as a long term member of both MER and Daddy's review sent email to one of escorts to be cautious of me. The escort told me about it and I am curious why that person had to do that? The guy believes that

" Hitousa used to go by greatnesson daddy's until I believe he as removed for stalking a couple of escorts"

When did that happen? That is not true and I don't think you understand why I decided to leave the forum. Most of all, I don't think you know me well enough to make such a statement. Have you ever tried to get to know me or hear my side of the story before you make such an accusation against me? That's unfair and wrong.

I would like to talk to the person who sent out this email to the escort. Please email or call me. Please let's resolve any misunderstanding. If you can't do that please do not hide in the back and make false accusations like that. Thanks.

[MsGuy]

It's hurtful, Hito, but try to let it go. Clearly the escort in question did not give the email much credence or he wouldn't have met with you.

[BigK]

A guy claiming to be as a long term member of both MER and Daddy's review sent email to one of escorts to be cautious of me. The escort told me about it and I am curious why that person had to do that? The guy believes that

" Hitousa used to go by greatnesson daddy's until I believe he as removed for stalking a couple of escorts"

When did that happen? That is not true and I don't think you understand why I decided to leave the forum. Most of all, I don't think you know me well enough to make such a statement. Have you ever tried to get to know me or hear my side of the story before you make such an accusation against me? That's unfair and wrong.

I would like to talk to the person who sent out this email to the escort. Please email or call me. Please let's resolve any misunderstanding. If you can't do that please do not hide in the back and make false accusations like that. Thanks.

I didn't know you were Greatness. Also, I never heard of any rumors on Daddy's, but I haven't been active there in a long time.

I hope you here from the person who sent the email.

[Guest hitoallusa]

I hope I can hear from him or her(just in case) too. If I find out who this person is I will just....

give him or her a hug . It's really no big deal for me. But my point is that he or she should talk to me first before sending out that kind of email. Please have compassion for clients too. Give clients chance to explain themselves before you just hear what escorts have to say and judge them. I think that's fair and right to do. That's what I am asking for. Why is it so hard to do that?

I didn't know you were Greatness. Also, I never heard of any rumors on Daddy's, but I haven't been active there in a long time.

I hope you here from the person who sent the email.

[Lucky]

I don't really understand this post since you have said before that you do not hire escorts.

[Guest hitoallusa]

I stopped hiring for a while. I met one recently to console myself from personal issues. And this was a little bit of surprise. Why would somebody do this? That's what I wanted to know.

[caeron]

The main reason I no longer post/participate at Daddy's is because of all the nastiness that place generated for reasons that completely escape me. (It seems less these days, with a few flareups, but the place is kinda permanently tainted to me.)

I have no idea why people felt the need to get that worked up, create false ids, smear other people. It was just crazy.

I would chalk it up to one of the crazies over there, and let it go. Engaging with a person who thinks it's their business to email escorts about you isn't a good idea. They've already demonstrated that they're wrapped a little too tight. You don't want to engage that kinda crazy any further.

[Lucky]

I stopped hiring for a while. I met one recently to console myself from personal issues. And this was a little bit of surprise. Why would somebody do this? That's what I wanted to know.

Well, I don't support anyone stalking, but you do give out such contradictory information about yourself that it easily could lead someone to wonder what the truth is. I specifically remember you saying that you do not hire escorts, then another time you talked about hiring. You gave as your reason for leaving Daddy's that you were getting married. Somehow that stopped you from posting there, but not here. I don't recall you ever being accused of stalking escorts, and I have never heard that you did. I have never heard that you were kicked out of daddys for stalking escorts. So I don't see how a long-term member of daddy's could have sent this information out to an escort. It's confusing because if you don't hire escorts, or even if you stopped and started again, how would this person know which escort to tell this to? I know I wouldn't, and I have been around a long time too.

[Guest hitoallusa]

I posted a compliment about an escort here and the escort got a strange email about me.

There was another reason I left the forum but I didn't state it. Friends and members tend to email me and express their concerns so I decided not to.

As for my marriage, I don't want to talk about it right now.

What I am asking is an opportunity to explain myself before you place any judgment on me. Please the person or the escort who sent this email contact me at your early convenience. I really want to know what's going on.

[Lucky]

I see. Well, I agree with you that the offending email should not have been sent.

[TampaYankee]

So I don't see how a long-term member of daddy's could have sent this information out to an escort.

I amazed that such a mix of confusion and contradictions allows one to see so clearly. Beyond that I'm speechless on your remark.

Hitoallusa, as someone else remarked I would not contact this other party. One of the escorts I got to know rather well taught me that one doesn't want to engage 'stalkers' in any manner. Especially true for those that operate anonymously or semi-anonimously. They thrive on reinforcement and your attempts to engage provide just that. Any assumption that this guy is just innocently misinformed is misplaced as it is clear that he has gone out of his way to smear you. You are much more likely to get this to pass if you ignore him.

Also, there is no need to attempt to rehabiliate your handle reputation. Those who are familiar with you have made their assessment regarding your credibility and demeanor. For those who are unfamiliar they will learn from your interactions with other members who already know you and from your posted concerns within this thread. For hiring escorts, the handle reputation is a non-issue. You can use any handle you desire in your communications with escorts. To cling to a site handle for that purpose is nothing more than a misplaced ego trip.

Do what any good professional escort looking to avoid trouble would do: let it go and move on.

[Guest gcursor]

Hi:

I agree that this was mean to do. When I started doing this a year ago, I wasn't sure of what to expect myself. It had been a long time since I had hired escorts. I have learned that there are good and bad people here just like anywhere else. Once again, the root cause is usually greed. Somebody isn't making enough money or somebody is making too much money. I've often wondered how much is ENOUGH money but I know the answer to that is NONE. In my years first starting out when I was living check to check, I didnt really chase money. I did things because I enjoyed them. Once you start chasing things because of the money (instead of what you enjoy) then inevitably the quality suffers.

After you get past that initial shock (its about the money) then you have to deal with something akin to SURVIVOR. Alliances. People who will go to their death fighting for the just cause of that one special person or several people. This part was the hardest for me to figure out. I was always brought up to be nice to people. I was taught to say I'm sorry when I do something wrong. I was taught never to cuss at my parents. I was taught money is important but people are more important. Oftentimes I may be saying nice things while I'm trampled under in the mud. It doesn't matter. It's who I am..it is my character. Money can't change that. I go to sleep at the end of the day knowing I tried my best being my best.

all I can say is that when I started doing this last year, I was a bit unprepared by some of the things I would run across. there are a lot of behind the scenes action. it's also very hard to figure out who said what because everybody comes up with a different story that puts theirs in the brightest possible light. i strive never to play favorites, never to make enemies and always do what is polite.

all I can say Hi is not to worry about anything that anybody else says or does. Be yourself and don't let anybody convince you to be anything different. Be who you are and be honest and true and you will be rewarded.

gc

I hope I can hear from him or her(just in case) too. If I find out who this person is I will just....

give him or her a hug . It's really no big deal for me. But my point is that he or she should talk to me first before sending out that kind of email. Please have compassion for clients too. Give clients chance to explain themselves before you just hear what escorts have to say and judge them. I think that's fair and right to do. That's what I am asking for. Why is it so hard to do that?

[Guest Anton]

Hi hitoallusa,

I see good news and a bit of sad news in the situation you described.

The sad news is that one specific escort is warning others to be cautious of you. (I'll call him the anonymous escort.) The good news however, is that another escort informed you about it. (I'll call him the escort who wrote you.)

Just sit down, relax and give that a few thoughts. The first thing you'll realise is that the escort who wrote you doesn't believe the anonymous escort. (Otherwise he hadn't written you, right?) I even find that a bit impressive. Although the escort who wrote you had been warned about you, he didn't think there would be any need whatsoever to be cautious of you. Isn't that really good news and even a bit of a compliment? He had been warned, but he didn't believe the warning!

At the same time the anonyous escort didn't get much credibility from the escort he wrote to. Isn't that a nice relief? Even though the anonymous escort is trying to spread a message, he didn't convince the escort who wrote you. This sounds as the opposite of what the anonymous escort was trying to achieve.

I guess that in a sense this is also what MsGuy wrote.

There can be all sort of reasons why escorts (or clients) are spreading news about others. When I just started escorting I also worked for an agency. At a certain moment another agency warned the agency I worked for. They had a specific client who wasn't trustworthy. However, the real motivation behind the warning was that this client was a dream-client. Their "warning" was an attempt to make sure that this client would be refused by other agencies so he'd be forced to use their services only ...

LOL, hey hitoallusa, are you a dream-client?

No matter what, I hope this helps.

Warmest regards, Anton.

[Guest gcursor]

that is an awesome post Anton and it goes back to what I was saying in my post. A lot of the games people play seem to be based around money all of the time. I really don't understand the need to play the games myself.

gc

Hi hitoallusa,

I see good news and a bit of sad news in the situation you described.

The sad news is that one specific escort is warning others to be cautious of you. (I'll call him the anonymous escort.) The good news however, is that another escort informed you about it. (I'll call him the escort who wrote you.)

Just sit down, relax and give that a few thoughts. The first thing you'll realise is that the escort who wrote you doesn't believe the anonymous escort. (Otherwise he hadn't written you, right?) I even find that a bit impressive. Although the escort who wrote you had been warned about you, he didn't think there would be any need whatsoever to be cautious of you. Isn't that really good news and even a bit of a compliment? He had been warned, but he didn't believe the warning!

At the same time the anonyous escort didn't get much credibility from the escort he wrote to. Isn't that a nice relief? Even though the anonymous escort is trying to spread a message, he didn't convince the escort who wrote you. This sounds as the opposite of what the anonymous escort was trying to achieve.

I guess that in a sense this is also what MsGuy wrote.

There can be all sort of reasons why escorts (or clients) are spreading news about others. When I just started escorting I also worked for an agency. At a certain moment another agency warned the agency I worked for. They had a specific client who wasn't trustworthy. However, the real motivation behind the warning was that this client was a dream-client. Their "warning" was an attempt to make sure that this client would be refused by other agencies so he'd be forced to use their services only ...

LOL, hey hitoallusa, are you a dream-client?

No matter what, I hope this helps.

Warmest regards, Anton.

[Guest hitoallusa]

I am not a dream client and not even close to one.. I have a deeply caring heart for clients and escorts though.I don't mind escorts trying to make money and survive in a very tough business. But if this was a client I want to talk to the person. I guess I will not hear from him or her. It's very unfortunate.

[Guest hitoallusa]

Thank you for your responses. I decided to let it go.