College Students Using 'Sugar Daddies' To Pay Off Loan Debt

[TotallyOz]

Humm, interesting idea. I wish I thought of Sugar Daddies!

NEW YORK -- On a Sunday morning in late May, Taylor left her Harlem apartment and boarded a train for Greenwich, Conn. She planned on spending the day with a man she had met online, but not in person.

Taylor, a 22-year-old student at Hunter College, had confided in her roommate about the trip and they agreed to swap text messages during the day to make sure she was safe.

Once in Greenwich, a man who appeared significantly older than his advertised age of 42 greeted Taylor at the train station and then drove her to the largest house she had ever seen. He changed into his swimming trunks, she put on a skimpy bathing suit, and then, by the side of his pool, she rubbed sunscreen into the folds of his sagging back -- bracing herself to endure an afternoon of sex with someone she suspected was actually about 30 years her senior.

Taylor doubted that her client could relate to someone who had grown up black and poor in the South Bronx. While he summered on Martha's Vineyard, she'd likely pass another July and August working retail in Times Square.

A love match it wasn't. But then again, this was no ordinary date.

A month prior, faced with about $15,000 in unpaid tuition and overdue bills, Taylor and her roommate typed "tuition," "debt," and "money for school" into Google. A website called SeekingArrangement.com popped up. Intrigued by the promise of what the site billed as a "college tuition sugar daddy," Taylor created a "sugar baby" profile and eventually connected with the man from Greenwich. ("Taylor" is the pseudonym she uses with men she meets online. Neither she nor any of the other women interviewed for this article permitted their real names be used.)

In her profile on the site, Taylor describes herself as "a full-time college student studying psychology and looking to meet someone to help pay the bills." Photos on the site show her in revealing outfits, a mane of caramel-colored hair framing her face. But unlike other dating sites, where a user might also list preferred hobbies or desired traits, Taylor instead indicates preferences for a "sugar daddy" and an "arrangement" in the range of $1,000 to $3,000 a month.

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[Guest hitoallusa]

Well nowadays, kids from a middle class family who is getting enough support seek sugar daddies too to secure for money for their entertainmnet. I have never seen a single good thing happening to these kids. They never meet their goal and their graduation gets delayed at least one year and they never fully become what they dreamed of. Well there must be a rare exception but I have seen a lot of these kids fail to achieve their goals they had.

I have seen sugar daddies don't always look out for the best interests of their babies. I sometimes wish that some clients or so called "friends" of escorts truly care about their friends. The relationship brings destruction and poverty (in most case mentally and sometimes literal poverty) to all the parties involved.

In that sense, TotallyOz, I believe that it is a good that you didn't think of finding a sugar daddy when young.

[TampaYankee]

Well nowadays, kids from a middle class family who is getting enough support seek sugar daddies too to secure for money for their entertainmnet. I have never seen a single good thing happening to these kids. They never meet their goal and their graduation gets delayed at least one year and they never fully become what they dreamed of. Well there must be a rare exception but I have seen a lot of these kids fail to achieve their goals they had.

I have seen sugar daddies don't always look out for the best interests of their babies. I sometimes wish that some clients or so called "friends" of escorts truly care about their friends. The relationship brings destruction and poverty (in most case mentally and sometimes literal poverty) to all the parties involved.

In that sense, TotallyOz, I believe that it is a good that you didn't think of finding a sugar daddy when young.

While what you say it sometimes true, I think it is a broad over generalization. There are bad arrangements for sure. That doesn't make all arrangements so. A smart dedicated student can do quite well in these arrangements. As long as they make good assessments of individuals and make clear well understood rules by both parties it can be great for both sides.

Given the proper set up, where I suspect the greatest problem may arise is that some students will fall to the temptation of the easy lifestyle and lose track of their goal and the discipline it takes to reach it. That takes dedication and discipline that not all possess in appropriate strength.

[Guest hitoallusa]

Yes TampaYankee after I wrote it and read it a couple hours later I thought it was a bit extreme. I wanted to point out that I'm not generalizing anything. It is solely based on my experience only. I have seen many unfortunate things happen to them. Yes I do hope the best for them and they are great clients out there too. The issue is not debt for them, however. They can study hard and become the best and then get a good job. Instead of doing that they are getting a short cut. A short cut that eventually negatively affects their great potential. I am not saying that escorting is bad. A physically challenged person like me (impotence) needs escorts. What I am saying is that students should focus on their studies.

While what you say it sometimes true, I think it is a broad over generalization. There are bad arrangements for sure. That doesn't make all arrangements so. A smart dedicated student can do quite well in these arrangements. As long as they make good assessments of individuals and make clear well understood rules by both parties it can be great for both sides.

Given the proper set up, where I suspect the greatest problem may arise is that some students will fall to the temptation of the easy lifestyle and lose track of their goal and the discipline it takes to reach it. That takes dedication and discipline that not all possess in appropriate strength.