Members TampaYankee Posted October 30, 2010 Members Posted October 30, 2010 This forum provides a segregated space, similar to the Politics Forum, for problematic threads that some may not wish to view on a daily basis or at all. Inclusion of threads is by invitation only. Members may not initiate a thread in this forum but may respond to existing threads. From time to time eruptions occur between members who have personal differences of no interest to the general community. Other times, some may refuse to let go of issues that have been previously aired and closed, choosing to replay, in vain, their disaffection with the outcome. Such a thread inspired the creation of the forum at this time. In a prior thread generated by Matrix: Image and Video Forum http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/index.php?/topic/5227-image-and-video-forum/ he posed the legitimate issue of whether a separate forum should be created posting photos and videos. After much discussion and input, Management created a separate forum. In that thread Matrix objected to the fact that login was required to view forum attachments. (See post #1, para #4) Management explained the reasons for the policy and why it would be retained. (See post #13) Matrix acknowledged and seemed to accept the legitimacy of Management views and concerns without further continuing exception. (See post #24) End of discussion, that is until the thread that inaugurated this forum. Less than one month later, after the issue had been discussed and closed, and the Management decision explained, Matrix decided to drag out his soap box in the middle of the night, climb up on it and begin railing about the attachments/login policy all over again. The issue was closed, the policy explained. The only thing to be gained by this was a public pissing and moaning exhibition about the outcome which it seems he came not to accept. I was a bit ticked about this meaningless exhibition over a closed issue designed solely to piss on the Management decision. My first thought was to delete the post. However, we are very reluctant to delete posts at MER except in cases of extreme policy transgressions. Not so much out of respect for the poster but out of respect of the community. Oz and I have been a regular posters in communities where posts or threads suddenly go missing without explanation. It is very dissatisfying and the general members deserve better consideration in our opinion. Hence our strong reluctance. I next considered removing the thread to the Moderator’s Forum to languish for eternity. Better than deleting the post but still disrespectful to the community. Finally, I decided to create a forum for problematic threads that impose on the comity of our main forums, whether by individuals with personal differences or those pissing at windmills about things that don't go their way. At first I was not sure how I felt about this forum as a long term feature of our Message Center. I decided to give it a week to see how I felt about it. Also, I wanted to see what others thought about the new forum. I chose not post about it because I did not wish to color member responses. Very few chose to respond. Those who did were not generally favorable to the new forum. I have to believe there is a quiet majority out there who are supportive. As time passed, the idea of the new forum actually grew on me. Had this forum existed in the past it would have been the appropriate venue for a number of rancorous threads. Not a large number but definitely a number of unpleasant episodes better segregated out of the main forum. I’m sorry that we didn’t institute this forum from the beginning. Some argue that assigning threads to this forum is disrespctful to posters. My view is this is where disrespectful threads belong. This forum is in no way an assessment of posters. Anybody can have a bad day and let it overflow into a post. It is an assessment of problematic threads. If a poster becomes overly associated with problematic threads, that is an inference for readers to make, not management. This forum is here to stay. It’s charter and appellation may be fine-tweaked over time but its mission will remain constant. Quote
Members MsGuy Posted October 30, 2010 Members Posted October 30, 2010 TY: "I wanted to see what others thought about the new forum. I chose not post about it because I did not wish to color member responses. Very few chose to respond. Those who did were not generally favorable to the new forum. I have to believe there is a quiet majority out there who are supportive." So now we are playing the silent majority card? Hmmm, where have I heard that before? Silence does not necessarily equal approbation. Quote
Members TampaYankee Posted October 30, 2010 Author Members Posted October 30, 2010 Silence does not necessarily equal approbation. I guess the tongue-in-cheek tone didn't quite come thru. Quote
TotallyOz Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 I guess the tongue-in-cheek tone didn't quite come thru. Hey, I had a great tongue-in-ass boy tonight. Is that the same humor? Quote
Guest Matrix Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Hey, I had a great tongue-in-ass boy tonight. Is that the same humor? I don't personally believe that humor was ever at the core of any of this. Except, of course,unless it was between the two of you who sanctioned the shit can to begin with. Quite the opposite, if you read my FINAL post in the now "old" shit can forum. The shit can - you can't "sand box" it away. Quote
Members MsGuy Posted October 30, 2010 Members Posted October 30, 2010 You know, Matrix, initially I thought that creating the shit can forum was one of TY's less inspired moments, but the further you carry on with this, the more you remind me of why he thought it necessary (or at least justified). ---- Now if it had been me that grated on TY's nerves enough to get myself shit-canned, I think I probably would have posted some self-deprecating comment making light of the situation and then gone on merrily posting away (always keeping an eye peeled for chances to tweek his nose to the point that I drove him mad with despair). Just a suggestion. Quote
Members MsGuy Posted October 30, 2010 Members Posted October 30, 2010 I guess the tongue-in-cheek tone didn't quite come thru. Well, in all honesty, I did find it necessary to edit out the smilie at the end of your sentence to make my post work. Quote
Guest Matrix Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 Well, in all honesty, I did find it necessary to edit out the smilie at the end of your sentence to make my post work. It's always been where one (me) was in all of this, alone. Whether you choose to rub up to that fact and feel that is up to you to now recognize that now, That's your thing. I've never asked for your sympathy. Simply because you have been absent here when a voice was necessary to carry on one persons assault or that of the defense of a person who was being assaulted upon here. Except for now, when your voice is easy to interject. And after the fact. Nevertheless, I have always adored you. I think I'm redundant here with that. What-ever. Quote
Members TampaYankee Posted October 30, 2010 Author Members Posted October 30, 2010 Well, in all honesty, I did find it necessary to edit out the smilie at the end of your sentence to make my post work. You'd make a goood Republican politician or analyst... or is it analist? P.S. No coaching the barbarians inside the gates. Quote
BiBottomBoy Posted October 30, 2010 Posted October 30, 2010 If I start a thread in the main forum about Yankees players getting blumpkins from dead male escorts will it get pushed into The Sandbox? I'm not taking this as a personal challenge to be the first person other than Matrix to get bumped here! Quote
AdamSmith Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 I have to believe there is a quiet majority out there who are supportive. Quote
BiBottomBoy Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 Matrix has gotten awfully quiet lately. Quote
Guest zipperzone Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Matrix has gotten awfully quiet lately. Thank the Lord for small mercies. Quote
BiBottomBoy Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 He was entertaining. I sorta wish he'd come back. Quote
Members Lucky Posted February 5, 2011 Members Posted February 5, 2011 He was entertaining. I sorta wish he'd come back. Same for you! Quote
Members Lucky Posted August 19, 2011 Members Posted August 19, 2011 BiBottom boy is not yet back, but I'd rather this thread led the menu than the one about Daddy's deleted comment! BTW, speaking of missing posters, I wrote to the blog that Four Aces said was his. I asked him to return to MER, but he did not respond. Do you suppose it was never really his web site? Quote
Members OneFinger Posted August 20, 2011 Members Posted August 20, 2011 ...BTW, speaking of missing posters, I wrote to the blog that Four Aces said was his. I asked him to return to MER, but he did not respond. Do you suppose it was never really his web site? Not sure which blog you tried to contact him on. But, if I remember correctly, he was in the process of changing the name. Perhaps you tried contacting him at the "old" address. Quote
Members Lucky Posted August 21, 2011 Members Posted August 21, 2011 Not sure which blog you tried to contact him on. But, if I remember correctly, he was in the process of changing the name. Perhaps you tried contacting him at the "old" address. I clicked on the link in his last post and wrote to that blog. Do you have a better address? Quote
Members OneFinger Posted August 22, 2011 Members Posted August 22, 2011 I clicked on the link in his last post and wrote to that blog. Do you have a better address? What have you been smoking?!?!? You actually think I have contact info for 4Aces?? He's the only person on this site whose post I actually blocked so I wouldn't have to read them. No clue how to contact him. Quote
Guest Conway Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 What have you been smoking?!?!? You actually think I have contact info for 4Aces?? He's the only person on this site whose post I actually blocked so I wouldn't have to read them. No clue how to contact him. What was so bad about 4Aces? Quote
Members OneFinger Posted August 22, 2011 Members Posted August 22, 2011 What was so bad about 4Aces? I started posting here after a site "lockdown" on the other site. 4Aces went out of his way to post a very negative remark to my initial post. IMHO he did very little to encourage or welcome participation on this site. So, I blocked his posts so I wouldn't have to put up with his attitude. I've never met the guy and he may well be a wonderful person. But, his brief interaction with me left me with no desire to ever met him in person or participate in his petty, childish posts. Quote
Members Lucky Posted August 23, 2011 Members Posted August 23, 2011 Well, frankly, I wonder if Four Aces has left this world. I can't imagine him not responding to a note from me! Quote
Guest FourAces Posted January 4, 2012 Posted January 4, 2012 I'm sorry I cannot stand looking at the last date last posted here being August 2010 anymore. I hate this forum think it should be deleted but at least the date will be semi current. And to keep with the forums "sand box" topic so I am in compliance please read below: I've paid my dues Time after time I've done my sentence But committed no crime And bad mistakes I've made a few I've had my share of sand kicked in my face But I've come through We are the champions my friends And we'll keep on fightin' till the end We are the champions, We are the champions No time for losers 'cause we are the champions Of the world Queen Quote
Guest lurkerspeaks Posted January 6, 2012 Posted January 6, 2012 If you are gonna play nasty and get sent to the sandbox, you have to be able to WALK LIKE A MAN Quote
Members Lucky Posted August 23, 2012 Members Posted August 23, 2012 When one beats the IRS, it probably does not seem wise to shout it from the rooftops. But I did have a minor victory today and can't stay quiet about it, so I will post it here where no one will read about it except those who think I should be on Twitter- both of you! A few weeks back I got a thick package from the IRS, you know- one of those you dread opening. It said I owed $4000 in back taxes and interest. But, I fought back, and today the IRS said I owed $0.00. That felt good. Quote
