Posters and Lurkers

[Lucky]

The posting community here at male escort review is rather small. We know each other pretty well by now, so when someone new comes along, it's a welcome thing. New blood so to speak if you are into that vampire stuff. But, we also have many "guests" who view the forums, but stay silent. Well, this is an invitation. Please sign up, and start participating. Just as you might like to see what people are saying, we like to know what you are thinking. And, if you add your thoughts, you just might encourage another lurker to sign up too. Isn't that a win for all?

[Lucky]

hehehe...22 views so far, and I'll bet 20 of them were lurkers!

Come on, someone- sign up!

[TampaYankee]

hehehe...22 views so far, and I'll bet 20 of them were lurkers!

Come on, someone- sign up!

How many of those do you think are participants of the other site but can't bring themselves out of the closet over here? Honestly, I have no idea but wonder.

[Lucky]

At the risk of starting a controversy, I will offer an answer. Since god sent me away from Paradise for giving his apple back to him, I rarely look at the other site. But, when I do, I see all of these new names that weren't there before. My suspicion is that these are folks who made a point during one of the meltdowns that they were leaving, but really just came back under another name.

So, if they don't have the balls to follow through and really leave, then I doubt they would register here. I think the posters that have made a success of posting on both sites, such as MsGuy, for one example, have made real contributions to both sites. It's people like him that we are lookin to attract, whether from the other site or brand new. There's is no reason you have to leave one to use the other, unless, of course that is your preference.

[OneFinger]

Wonderful invitation and I would like to see more active posters.

But, I remember when I came back here after the most recent Daddy meltdown. My first post was berated by one the resident assholes (whom I now have on my "ignore" list).

But, it makes it tough for people to participate when some of the long-time old farts sling arrows and make you feel totally unwelcome.

I don't come here to have my posts blasted. So, I'm usually one of the registered lurkers.

And, I've stopped posting reviews after one of MER's finest read my positive review, hired the excellent escort, and then tried to blackmail him. I felt terrible when that happened and I swore I would never do another review.

Plus, there are some posters here and there that love to dissect a review and question the accuracy of the escort and the reviewer. Sorry, I don't want to play those games.

I've been lucky enough to find some excellent escorts. But I'm keeping them to myself and I'm keeping my posts here infrequent. This is not a real friendly environment.

[Lucky]

Wonderful invitation and I would like to see more active posters.

But, I remember when I came back here after the most recent Daddy meltdown. My first post was berated by one the resident assholes (whom I now have on my "ignore" list).

But, it makes it tough for people to participate when some of the long-time old farts sling arrows and make you feel totally unwelcome.

I don't come here to have my posts blasted. So, I'm usually one of the registered lurkers.

And, I've stopped posting reviews after one of MER's finest read my positive review, hired the excellent escort, and then tried to blackmail him. I felt terrible when that happened and I swore I would never do another review.

Plus, there are some posters here and there that love to dissect a review and question the accuracy of the escort and the reviewer. Sorry, I don't want to play those games.

I've been lucky enough to find some excellent escorts. But I'm keeping them to myself and I'm keeping my posts here infrequent. This is not a real friendly environment.

Well, I don't want to blast your post- I have always liked you- but I think most of us are friendly and know enough to ignore certain digs that get thrown. None of us is perfect, but overall I think this is a friendly place. A locker room atmosphere sometimes prevails, but we get through it, usually with humor.

As for the person blackmailing the escort you reviewed, I'd condemn that too, but I know nothing of the event. I doubt very much from posting with you all these years that you would make such an accusation lightly. I am sorry to hear it and ask that you don't hold it against the rest of us.

[TotallyOz]

And, I've stopped posting reviews after one of MER's finest read my positive review, hired the excellent escort, and then tried to blackmail him. I felt terrible when that happened and I swore I would never do another review.

This is news to me. Have I forgotten about this? Did I know about this? If you would send a PM with more information, I would appreciate it as I don't think I've ever heard of an escort being blackmailed.

I don't come here to have my posts blasted. So, I'm usually one of the registered lurkers.

Sorry to see you feel that way. I thought the tone of the board and it members is generally excellent. Perhaps I need to start reading more carefully.

I've been lucky enough to find some excellent escorts. But I'm keeping them to myself and I'm keeping my posts here infrequent. This is not a real friendly environment.

In all honestly, I have always thought this was a very friendly environment. I really do and am surprised to hear this.

[Guest FourAces]

OneFinger is referring to a post I made. But OneFinger did not read the post .. he assumed it was in response to him. It was not and if anybody read it it was in response to EVERYONE who runs over here from there without appreciation for the community that OZ and TY keep open here. Then run back to daddy when he calls them home.

IRONICALLY and yes I am shouting had OneFinger read another post I made prior to the one he refers to I had welcomed him to the forum here.

OneFinger might have a overblown sense of self importance because he took a obvious generic post and felt it was aimed only at him.

As far as the blackmail stuff I have no clue sounds pretty cloak and dagger to me.

[BiBottomBoy]

If there was a blackmale issue that should have been a post here so it could have been addressed.

[TampaYankee]

If there was a blackmale issue that should have been a post here so it could have been addressed.

I think you mean 'blackmail'? What would Freud say?

[RA1]

I was hoping he was talking about a cute black male, but, apparently, no such luck.

Back to the original topic. I use a different name on this site from the one I use on the "other" site but it isn't to hide any thing. I just thought it appropriate to register using a different name at the time, sort of like using a different password for different accounts. However, I sign with the same close as the other site, therefore, anyone who knows me from the other site will also know me on this one. At one time I thought about changing the name here to match the other but that also seemed a bit of a bother.

Best regards,

RA1

[BiBottomBoy]

Maybe I was calling for blackup.

[RA1]

You are watching too many cop shows on TV.

Best regards,

RA1

[Guest lurkerspeaks]

I thought this thread meant Lucky was having large posters made in my honor....

[Lucky]

I thought this thread meant Lucky was having large posters made in my honor....

Well, if you come to Palm Springs for the next weekend, we could see about a lurker poster....but you'd have to bring a very cute date!

[TampaYankee]

Wonderful invitation and I would like to see more active posters.

But, I remember when I came back here after the most recent Daddy meltdown. My first post was berated by one the resident assholes (whom I now have on my "ignore" list).

But, it makes it tough for people to participate when some of the long-time old farts sling arrows and make you feel totally unwelcome.

I don't come here to have my posts blasted. So, I'm usually one of the registered lurkers.

One really cannot participate in an online forum without having to deal with antagonists. It is just part of the environment as much as air and water are. Unfortunate but true. One has to either address or ignore them and participate with those of interest. Thin skins won't be comfortable. What I find interesting, as an observer, is that the anonymous environment doesn't always thicken up those thin skins. Its one thing to deal with confrontation in person or with a real identity and another to interact through a keyboard behind a screen name. That anonymity is what I attribute so much online prickliness to. Nevertheless, it doesn't always seem to work that way.

And, I've stopped posting reviews after one of MER's finest read my positive review, hired the excellent escort, and then tried to blackmail him. I felt terrible when that happened and I swore I would never do another review.

I find your phrase which I highlighted above offensive. What makes you think that he is any more one of MER's finest than you are. He does not represent us anymore than you do -- which means not at all.

We are an online site open to anyone who can read information that you choose to share with others. Anyone can join who is over 18. We don't vouch for any of you. We offer you and others a platform to discuss and share information about escorts. We do our best to vett reviews and go a hell of a lot further than others to do so IMNSHO. Quite frankly, your attitude as indicated by your choice of words SUCKS. If that offends you then (edited for decorum).

Oz will address the facts of your complaint if you stick around to read them. I don't give a damn whether you do or not as the reply is only important for the others who read your complaint.

I've been lucky enough to find some excellent escorts. But I'm keeping them to myself and I'm keeping my posts here infrequent. This is not a real friendly environment.

Good for you. If I could turn your individual access off to our reviews I would since you feel no need to share and they offend you. If we were into throwing people out for noncapital offenses I'd show you the door just for pissing off the barkeep. But we don't.

Enjoy the site or not, I don't give a damn. Stick this post in your not a real friendly environment folder and file it.

Oz, don't bother trying to smooth this over. He is a weak contributor with a pissy attitude and not worth the effort. TY

[TotallyOz]

And, I've stopped posting reviews after one of MER's finest read my positive review, hired the excellent escort, and then tried to blackmail him. I felt terrible when that happened and I swore I would never do another review.

As I have been in correspondence with OneFinger about this statement, I needed to clear things up on this. The above statement is not true and not based on facts.

I do believe that OneFinger believed this to be true as I am sure this was told to him by the escort in question. However, this escort was the most problematic escort we ever had to deal with on this site.

OneFinger's review was not read by someone who then hired him and tried to blackmail the escort. The two had a preexisting relationship and they did not meet because of a review on MER but they met at a strip club in California. I don't know how much of the blackmail scenario to believe as the escort in question is someone I would not believe or trust in any situation. If the story of the boy who cried wolf means anything.

Unlike TY, I do care if someone is unhappy with the board. But, to condemn the board because of something they believed to be true without ever consulting or talking to us is not really fair to the board. I am always willing to listen to complaints and try to mend the fences. But, there is only so much I can do with limited information. When the above statement was made, I spent over 10 hours trying to find information and piece together the puzzle even though no name was mentioned. That means I read through hundreds of reviews and even more e-mails.

I did that only to get at the truth behind the statement and to try to let OneFinger know that we would have acted should his information have been correct. It was not correct. The statement that was made above is not accurate.

I am sorry that OneFinger feels slighted by this situation. I am sure TY's comments above don't help. My commenting about this on the public board is probably not going to help either. But, I just could not let the statement stand.

[BiBottomBoy]

If it's unclear if blackmail occurred, perhaps this entire thread should be deleted so as to avoid any legal complications.

I don't want this site to go down because someone sues OZ.

[TampaYankee]

Unlike TY, I do care if someone is unhappy with the board.

Sorry Oz, this is not accurate. I do care too but my concern does have limits. Sometimes I suffer piss-poor attitudes not so well. This time I gave expression to my thoughts. It happens on occasion.

[BiBottomBoy]

Tampa, people with piss poor attitudes are why baseball bats were invented.

Andrew Doubleday just found a secondary use for them.

[TampaYankee]

If it's unclear if blackmail occurred, perhaps this entire thread should be deleted so as to avoid any legal complications.

I don't want this site to go down because someone sues OZ.

Please hold your water. Totally unnecessary. Ain't gonna happen. We are not involved in anything. An infrequent poster chose to slur us based on faulty information he was convinced was true. To remove the thread would only give false credence that there is something here.

If the escort was blackmailed that is wrong and unfortunate for him. He has legal remedies although they may not be practical for him to pursue. If there was something we could do we would be supportive. I do not know what that would be. The escort has never contacted us in any way about any blackmail episode.

[TotallyOz]

Sorry Oz, this is not accurate. I do care too but my concern does have limits. Sometimes I suffer piss-poor attitudes not so well. This time I gave expression to my thoughts. It happens on occasion.

Poor choice of words on my part! I know you do care!

[Guest FourAces]

"TampaYankee, on 18 October 2010 - 10:03 AM, said:

Sorry Oz, this is not accurate. I do care too but my concern does have limits. Sometimes I suffer piss-poor attitudes not so well. This time I gave expression to my thoughts. It happens on occasion."

Poor choice of words on my part! I know you do care!

How sweet can I be invited to the wedding

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TY one can only be punched around so much. You are human from what I've heard .. you believe in your site and it was attacked ... I think most of us like the way you handled it.

OZ great detective work happy to see the so called blackmail issue as noted by onefinger not to be accurate.

[Guest FourAces]

@ Lucky Sadly I don't think this thread went quite the direction you were hoping.Its probably a little late to get back on topic but I thought your idea behind your org post was a nice attempt to reach out.

[Lucky]

@ Lucky Sadly I don't think this thread went quite the direction you were hoping.Its probably a little late to get back on topic but I thought your idea behind your org post was a nice attempt to reach out.

No, as it is it was a disaster for trying to lure lurkers into signing up. We appeared to be quite the dysfunctional family. Yet those who know us best realize that the best families all tend to be a little dysfunctional at times! Would you really enjoy being on a completely normal website? Well, maybe for awhile...