Guest StuCotts Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 By way of preface, and for whatever it may explain, I don't recognize much of myself in the recently formulated rules for what it takes to be a good reviewer and a good client. I lusted after a certain escort for a long time based on his pics and a long string of reviews that I knew were good, though as usual I didn't read them. Due to circumstances and contrary to my habit of keeping things brief, I contacted him far in advance of when we ended up getting together. We had a long (for me) exchange of e-mails and phone calls, during which I grew to like him as a person. The day came and we met. Face-to-face, he was all charm and personality. Physically, he was what I hoped for, even to his unconventionally beautiful face. In bed his moves lived up to his looks, but his cock never did get fully hard. I was determined to make it all work, and so I did. We parted on the best of terms. Before the event, I had made the mistake of getting my hopes up of having a glowing review to write. After the fact, I had the choice of taking the most prevalent course of least resistance and writing that glowing review, which could only be misleading and make me uncomfortable, or of doing my customary thing and writing one that told the minuses with the pluses, which would leave me dejected for doing that to a guy I like. This was the first and only time I've had to face this type of dilemma. I agonized. Finally, circumvention won out and I wrote nothing at all. Does that make me a good client and reviewer or a bad one? No idea. In any case, this post represents the final step in laying this matter to rest in my own mind. Quote
TotallyOz Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 The articles written are really for those inexperienced in hiring escorts. I don't think someone like yourself or Marc Anthony would ever view them as something you need to do as what you are doing works and works well for you. Some clients however are very inexperienced and often need a little help in getting started. Once started each person will do their own thing. Me, I tend to hire someone and if good try to turn them into a live in "lover." Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Most of the time, the chemistry is just not there for someone long term. As far as your review or lack of review of this guy goes, I have been there so many times it hurts. I have often had experiences where I wanted to write a glowing review but just would not do that as the session itself was not glowing. I have tried to be fair in all my reviews but when I come across someone that does not live up to expectations, I have a dilemma. I don't want to hurt their business but I also want others to be prepared for the same thing. The most common thing for me is that the photos do NOT live up to the actual person. If someone shows me photos of a six pack and they actually have a little gut, it is a huge disappointment for me. I much prefer something honest and real as opposed to someone that is misrepresenting himself. You came to a decision and decided not to write the review. I understand that decision. I have done that in the past as well and most likely will again in the future. I have also come to the conclusion that if others may get a disappointing experience from the guy that reviewers need to make that known and they often do in either reviews or in posts on this message board. I am often too subtle in my words when I should be more expressive but I try t get the point across. Quote
Members TownsendPLocke Posted February 8, 2009 Members Posted February 8, 2009 StuCotts I think each of us have different levels of satisfaction when it comes to what we need from working fellas. If you were satisfied with the encounter and do not feel that you were ripped off than that is probably what you need to include in a review. However if you were left dissatisfied and feel the fella took an easy out than that needs to be included. I have had the same thing happen with very well reviewed escorts.It is often OK for me=but it makes me notch down the review a little and give a second thought to hiring again or giving a complete enthusistic recomendaytion when some other John ask for a reccomendation. I have had fellas ask for a redo-I am always a little wary of these as well. Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 What I obviously didn't make clear at first is that this thread isn't about looking for advice on how to review a disappointing encounter. I've had more experience at that than I ever wanted to have. It's about how too cozy a relationship between client and escort can vitiate the reviewing process. Quote
Guest EXPAT Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Whenever I have had less than satisfying experiences, I have generally skipped the review. I suspected that it was just a chemistry issue and it's not fair to downgrade the guy for that. I would write a negative review if there was a specific negative thing that happened, etc. For example, I picked up a guy at Rounds in NYC way back and he stole from me. If we had had this service then, I would have definitely reported it. I just told the manager of Rounds about it and he wouldn't let him work in the bar anymore. So that was my way of "reviewing" back then. Quote
Members TownsendPLocke Posted February 8, 2009 Members Posted February 8, 2009 What I obviously didn't make clear at first is that this thread isn't about looking for advice on how to review a disappointing encounter. I've had more experience at that than I ever wanted to have. It's about how too cozy a relationship between client and escort can vitiate the reviewing process. Ah-yes. I have had this experience also.But sometimes I do not mind it ,sometimes I do. Often times this can lead to great(but a tad expensive)threeway fun Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Ah-yes.I have had this experience also.But sometimes I do not mind it ,sometimes I do. Often times this can lead to great(but a tad expensive)threeway fun I give up. You win. But before retreating I'd be remiss if I didn't remark in all friendliness that your command of non sequitur is breathtaking. Quote
Guest Rian Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Whenever I have had less than satisfying experiences, I have generally skipped the review. I suspected that it was just a chemistry issue and it's not fair to downgrade the guy for that. I would write a negative review if there was a specific negative thing that happened, etc. For example, I picked up a guy at Rounds in NYC way back and he stole from me. Coming from the other side of the deal I agree with you on that one. Although the majority of my meets go really well (although like I said before everyone isnt into posting reviews!), rarely I'll meet someone who the chemistry is just not there (for me). Recently I met someone who was attractive but I will say he came off rude from the start. First he wanted to slash my rate, of which is the typical rate for the area. Then he wanted me to meet him in 30 minutes, which I had told him I'd need more time. When I got there at the time I told him I would, he then went on to ask why I couldnt meet him in 30 minutes instead of the amount of time I told him I needed. On top of it all, he mentioned wanting to be versatile on the phone but only wanted to bottom when we met (had he told me that it would have taken less time for ME to get ready). By the time we got to that point my mind was more on how inconsiderate he came off. The chemistry I had was gone and so we just ended off on good terms. I know that wasnt related much to reviews, but just wanted to make an example agreeing with expat why it wouldnt be fair to write a bad review in those situations. Quote
Members marcanthony Posted February 8, 2009 Members Posted February 8, 2009 Stu: My 2 cents. The issue here is actually nothing to do with good client/bad client or good reviewer/bad reviewer. It's strictly an affair of the heart (and Ive been there, done that). Your extended pre-meeting interaction with this escort along with your imagination of what things might be like caused an emotional attachment to him which simply didn't allow you to factually document what actually took place on the actual day. And your own character didn't allow you to submit what you felt was a biased report. Your story is not a "technical" one that is answered by any kind of analysis. It's the heart and mind in conflict. Oldest story in the book, and not news! Quote
Guest mineallmine Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I had a similar situation where an escort I was with we had a pretty odd interesting chemistry. Things we discussed didnt happen also it was really focused on him and not so much on me. I figured it was just me and decided against writing a review that bashed him since he seems to do bang up business with other guys...maybe I was a fluke. Maybe im a bit of a bleeding heart for not wanting to hurt his business. Its an interesting delima. Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Thanks to Oz and Marcanthony for your helpful common sense. Quote
AdamSmith Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Stu (I trust you and I have already been over this enough that I can get away with the following): So you too are human! Welcome, that is to say, to the pleasures & pitfalls of the Overinvestment Tango. Ain't it grand? Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Stu (I trust you and I have already been over this enough that I can get away with the following):So you too are human! Welcome, that is to say, to the pleasures & pitfalls of the Overinvestment Tango. Ain't it grand? Human? A momentary aberration. My return to my habitual state of lapidary callousness is well under way. Bwa-ha-ha! Grand isn't among the adjectives that crossed my mind while in the throes. Quote
