Members TownsendPLocke Posted December 20, 2008 Members Posted December 20, 2008 This is a rather personal confession-but one that I know is shared by many of the MERmen. I am getting old Last night I had a very hot boy grinding his stuff ito my lap at Numbers.I was beng (VERY)generous to him but when he reached down to see if he was having any "effect"on me he was,,,, dissapointed. I was having a good time,it was hot,he was hot.....but I was not hard which seemed to really upset hi-and he whispered that in my ear.I assured him it was not him-rather it was the very public setting. I have never been enthusiastic about lap dances in bars-even those that have semi private spaces for this activity.If there are private rooms for play(such as Montreal bars have)then I might get a little more into it. But more than that is the decrease in my libido which I assume is a condition that came with the onset of middle age.I do not take any of the so called Erectile Dysfunction medications because when the time is right everything works just fine.I am just not that likely to pop wood in the situations I used to as quickly. Rather than question this as if it were a failing of my manhood I just chalk it up to the march of time. Now I know this is a VERY personal topic,and most of you will not want to share on the subject.However I thought if I was upfront and totally honest some of you might want to chime in. Quote
AdamSmith Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Time is the enemy, all right. I have not quite reached the point of asking my doc for Cialis, but I have tried several over-the-counter pills and capsules from the adult vid stores. The red capsule named StiffNights is the most effective one I've found so far... http://www.stiffnights.com/ ...and thus far it has not given me a headache or heart attack! Quote
Guest Conway Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I'm pleased to say that, as my 45th birthday approaches, I can pop a boner as easily as I did at 20 when the circumstances arise. A few years ago, i began sleeping with a CPAP machine due to sleep apnea. It worked miracles in the erection department for me. I wake up every morning standing at full attention and have no problems at any other time of day. Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 This is a rather personal confession-but one that I know is shared by many of the MERmen.I am getting old Sir! You presume! You come perilously close to affronting those of us who live in the certainty of being forever younger than springtime and gayer than laughter. On the practical side, getting old has its compensations, main among them that it beats the crap out of the alternative. Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Time is the enemy, all right.I have not quite reached the point of asking my doc for Cialis, but I have tried several over-the-counter pills and capsules from the adult vid stores. The red capsule named StiffNights is the most effective one I've found so far... http://www.stiffnights.com/ ...and thus far it has not given me a headache or heart attack! Many thanks for the tip. I hesitate to send for it via the website. Is it available in chain drug stores? If so, which ones? And what section would it be in? I'm not aware of one labeled Senescent in the CVS I patronize. Quote
AdamSmith Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Many thanks for the tip. I hesitate to send for it via the website. Is it available in chain drug stores? If so, which ones? And what section would it be in? I'm not aware of one labeled Senescent in the CVS I patronize. I get it at my local adult-video/sex-toy chain store. I've seen it in Manhattan adult-vid shops also. Quote
AdamSmith Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 I'm pleased to say that, as my 45th birthday approaches, I can pop a boner as easily as I did at 20 when the circumstances arise. Wait til your 50th approaches. Amazing how quickly things can start falling off. Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Amazing how quickly things can start falling off. Especially public interest in how much of your potency you've retained. Quote
Guest Conway Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Especially public interest in how much of your potency you've retained. Well, catty Christmas to you, too. Quote
AdamSmith Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Especially public interest in how much of your potency you've retained. Thus the transfer of wallet to the front pocket! Ashes to ashes, dust to dust, wad to wad. Quote
AdamSmith Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Well, catty Christmas to you, too. Conceivably Stu intended that not as a dig at me, but a general lament about life. Quote
Guest TNTTed Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Anyone care to try for 70? We’re all different physically and I’m sure we all experience the effects of aging at different times and to different degrees. I can remember being able to piss on a fly on a wall five feet away from me, but now I’m just happy not to dribble down my pants. As for ED, up to only a couple of years ago, my erections were still "respectable". Certainly not to the same degree (literally and figuratively) as in my earlier years, but they seldom failed me. Then, gradually I noticed that no matter how horny I was, I couldn’t really get it up “on demandâ€. And the steely hardness that I once experienced didn't happen that often or for that long. And now, even with Viagara, it’s never certain. I surely agree that it aging has its compensations and that it beats the alternative, but then, I wonder, will I always think that to be true? Quote
Members TampaYankee Posted December 20, 2008 Members Posted December 20, 2008 Time marches on for all of us... at different paces to be sure. I haven't reached Ted's milestone yet but I'm well beyond Conway. Compromised performance is the basic reason I cannot justify $300/hr for anything...lol. Now if I was still the randy 18 yo I was once I could put up a pretty good run for that money -- definitely worthwhile experience then, but that is history. Got to live in the here and now unfortunately. Quote
Guest chillmaster01 Posted December 20, 2008 Posted December 20, 2008 Time marches on for all of us... at different paces to be sure. I haven't reached Ted's milestone yet but I'm well beyond Conway. Compromised performance is the basic reason I cannot justify $300/hr for anything...lol. Now if I was still the randy 18 yo I was once I could put up a pretty good run for that money -- definitely worthwhile experience then, but that is history. Got to live in the here and now unfortunately. Well Tampa Yankee Then dont see the guy I wrote a review about from Tampa then as this guy will try his damness to get you off three times let alone the one time we usually are happy with. He will also try to ride you soft, chubby or anyway he can He is the hottest Active Bottom I have ever experienced. He has done porn under name of Anthony Hendrix and you will need your heart pills with him for sure Quote
Guest StuCotts Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Conceivably Stu intended that not as a dig at me, but a general lament about life. You're right. Apparently my remark was more ambiguous than I intended. It's firmly rooted in my own experience, as I think I've said here before, but isn't limited to it. Besides, Conway, I can't think of even one reason for being catty to Adam. I treat myself to the indulgence only with great restraint and only in the most deserving cases. Quote
Members msclelovr Posted December 21, 2008 Members Posted December 21, 2008 Well Tampa Yankee Then dont see the guy I wrote a review about from Tampa then as this guy will try his damness to get you off three times let alone the one time we usually are happy with. He will also try to ride you soft, chubby or anyway he can He is the hottest Active Bottom I have ever experienced.He has done porn under name of Anthony Hendrix and you will need your heart pills with him for sure Sounds like this guy could raise the dead so what is the name of the guy, please? And if you have more details, that would be great. I did check the reviews filed under Tampa, but there is no uber-hot bottom reviewed that I can find Quote
Members RA1 Posted December 21, 2008 Members Posted December 21, 2008 This is a rather personal confession-but one that I know is shared by many of the MERmen.I am getting old Last night I had a very hot boy grinding his stuff ito my lap at Numbers.I was beng (VERY)generous to him but when he reached down to see if he was having any "effect"on me he was,,,, dissapointed. I was having a good time,it was hot,he was hot.....but I was not hard which seemed to really upset hi-and he whispered that in my ear.I assured him it was not him-rather it was the very public setting. I have never been enthusiastic about lap dances in bars-even those that have semi private spaces for this activity.If there are private rooms for play(such as Montreal bars have)then I might get a little more into it. But more than that is the decrease in my libido which I assume is a condition that came with the onset of middle age.I do not take any of the so called Erectile Dysfunction medications because when the time is right everything works just fine.I am just not that likely to pop wood in the situations I used to as quickly. Rather than question this as if it were a failing of my manhood I just chalk it up to the march of time. Now I know this is a VERY personal topic,and most of you will not want to share on the subject.However I thought if I was upfront and totally honest some of you might want to chime in. As long as the answer to this next question is correct, you have nothing to worry about. The question? Who are you going to satisfy with that thing? The correct answer: me. Best regards, RA1 Quote
Guest chillmaster01 Posted December 21, 2008 Posted December 21, 2008 Sounds like this guy could raise the dead so what is the name of the guy, please? And if you have more details, that would be great.I did check the reviews filed under Tampa, but there is no uber-hot bottom reviewed that I can find The review is pending and it will be under his name Anthony Hendrix but google his name as his porn will come up. He is super hot. In his scene with Broke Straight Boys he while the bottom is the one doing the fucking even the top says there is no work for me here. PJ Quote
Guest Rian Posted December 22, 2008 Posted December 22, 2008 Last night I had a very hot boy grinding his stuff ito my lap at Numbers.I was beng (VERY)generous to him but when he reached down to see if he was having any "effect"on me he was,,,, dissapointed.I was having a good time,it was hot,he was hot.....but I was not hard which seemed to really upset hi-and he whispered that in my ear.I assured him it was not him-rather it was the very public setting. I dont see why he would get upset about that. I mean, its a public arena. Not getting hard doesnt always mean someone isnt aroused. Unless you just got up and walked off I would just take it that the atmosphere wasnt comfortable rather than feel the vibe wasnt there. Quote
Guest JamesWilson Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 But more than that is the decrease in my libido which I assume is a condition that came with the onset of middle age. I do not take any of the so called Erectile Dysfunction medications because when the time is right everything works just fine. I am just not that likely to pop wood in the situations I used to as quickly.Rather than question this as if it were a failing of my manhood I just chalk it up to the march of time. Speaking as someone who has always been attracted to mature men exclusively, I've never found it a problem if/when my partner takes a bit of extra time to fully rise to the occasion. In fact, I welcome it... not only do I get to try lots of ways to find what excites him most, it also gives us more time to enjoy the foreplay/buildup (which for me is one of the most important parts of intimate encounters). If your partner is not able to recognize that, then I'd say that is his failing, not yours. Quote
caeron Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I can so relate. My first boyfriend gave me a tshirt with "everyready" on it. Those times are way too far in the past... Quote