Does hiring an escort change a relationship?

[Guest Anton]

Hi all,

From time to time I get a request from a couple. I expressed it before, it's always big fun. Nevertheless it raised a question, especially for the couples who hire an escort as a third playmate now and then.

Most men like variety when it comes to having fun, and I can imagine that when you're in relationship and mainly playing with the same partner for years and years, the sparkle may not sparkle that much any more.

So I wonder what happens in a relationship when you ask a third guy to join in for a change. Does it stimulate your sex life because of a "change of meat"? Does it cause jealousy (i.e. when the escort is not professional enough and gives one of the two more attention than the other)? Does it do good for the relationship or does it do bad for the relationship? Does it change anything unexpectedly?

Somehow I wonder if hiring an escort changes a relationship between two guys.

This may be a very personal question, so remember, nobody's obliged to answer.

Nevertheless I hope to get some responses, because I'm really interested.

Warmest, Anton/Amsterdam.

[TampaYankee]

I have no personal experience to offer here. However, I suspect that it does alter the relationship often but certainly not always. Some cases for good and some cases for ill. This has got to depend on the personalities involved and on what they are seeking in a relationship.

Some seek love and total commitment. An ownership relationship or undying personal commitment on a different plane with no room for other individuals. The relationship is intimate on a needy level, at least for one. This type of individual may see/measure his self worth through the desired total commitment from another. External influences, even on an anonymous pay basis, may cause jealousy to raise it ugly head or cause damaging doubt about the true level of commitment. Needy personalities do not harbor doubt well.

Others seek long-term companionship with someone that can be counted on to be there in times of need or just to share a cup of coffee in the morning and dinner with wine in the evening. Sometimes external sexual encounters can relieve pressures or possibly enliven the relationship for both. These relationships are intimate on a comfortable and casual level. The need is in the constancy of a comfortable compatible companion to share everyday life.

[KYTOP]

Must not be any of us in relationships.

I would think the same could apply to any couple involved in a 3 way. If they do it just to make one of them happy, the other one that just went along to make him happy will probably have a hard time with it. If either party gets jealous easily it could end in disaster. Some people that think it will be fun, think different once they see someone else fucking or kissing their partner. Some people just have very open relationships and it just adds some spice to their sex life.

At the same time I've had many escorts say they can't keep a relationship because they escort. Also had some say their partners are ok with them escorting but set limits. Some limits I've been told are no kissing, no 3-ways with another escort, and one escort that ad's say he is a total TOP but he really loves to be the bottom. But he doesn't bottom because that is the limit he and his partner set. His ass only belongs to his partner.

[Guest SouthernMan]

> Also had some say their

>partners are ok with them escorting but set limits. Some

>limits I've been told are no kissing, no 3-ways with another

>escort, and one escort that ad's say he is a total TOP but he

>really loves to be the bottom. But he doesn't bottom because

>that is the limit he and his partner set. His ass only belongs

>to his partner.

How absolutely more ridiculous could one possibly get than this????

"His ass" BELONGS to someone else????? Who the HELL would want to be with anyone, much less an escort who would let SOMEONE ELSE own any part of him???? :-( :-( :-( :-(

[Guest Goodetaste]

I'm a married guy who discovered the "other side" in the past couple of years.

I have had three-ways with others and would really enjoy seeing my wife being "paid attention to" by another guy.

I personally feel like the experience is shared by the couple and it should be taken as nothing more serious that one amazing time.

Going in with that attitude would be ideal.

Not sure every couple would be like that.

[TotallyOz]

I have 2 long term partners. Both were with me for over 4 years. I always enjoyed 3-ways with them. I was OK if the attention was directed at my boyfriend. I was also OK to sit sometimes sit back and watch. My last long term boyfriend learned the trick. He and the other guy got me off first. When I came I was ready to sit back and relax. I just loved the show afterwards. I was never jealous or angry.

Having had many 3ways over the years, I can say it really made my relationship stronger. Different strokes for different folks I am sure. But, for me, it was always a great treat.

[Guest ChicagoACE]

some guys dont have any sex life after being together after a while and dont get if from each other