Which category do you fall in?

[Guest BewareofNick]

One of my son's friends posted this on his myspace page and I found it to be quite fascinating. It's an interesting insight into the young gay mind and in particular how this one boy perceives hismelf and his friends. What do you thnk?

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So i wanted to share a thought, well a theory i have about gay men. I came to realize when i was out drinking one night with my boys and hangin with a group of guys i knew i didn't feel right being with. And this isnt meant to be offensive or coming off too strong - i just think there is a need to really look at who you want your friends to be - and who u just gotta say no to!

So i decided that gay men are divided into five groups/ tiers:

Tier 1: These are the high class gays. This guys will have the best bodies, natural or juiced up, they are treated better because they can have whatever and whoever they want, and they have lived the parties, the nightlife and the scene and been introduced to drugs, random sex, parties, celebrities, etc. And they have the looks and money to do it all, but their cockyness can be a huge turnoff.

Tier 2: So these guys are into clubbin, moderatlely to very goodlooking guys - decent bodies but still nice. In theory these are the people who ride coach but have the chance to take first class every so often. I would like to think i fit into this category. Drink to have fun, but have the ability to be classy and less shallow than the tier 1 people because they don't have everything handed to them in life. These guys although rare, tend to be quality people and value an individual more than an image.

Tier 2.5: This new addition for the gay men who are a little of Tier 2 and Tier 3. They can be funny guys, sweet guys, or just people looking to find themselves, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Tier 3: These guys are kinda like teir 2 but they are more open to drugs and sex. Maybe they don't dress as nice and flash themselves in expensive labels. They can either be blue or white collar professions but tend to be cheap or just thrifty. They may want to strive to be better but really they never will be because of they way they were raised. An they may date more but cheating, like almost all men, is just their reality. Some however are really just nice guys who don't finish first, maybe they aren't as pretty, but the little things make them happy.

Tier 4: These are the whores of the gay world. They do whatever they want - dress however they want and don't care what anyone says. They are not shy of anything and really their only insecurities are a slight fear of rejection after having many boyfriends in a series of months. They fall in love quick and fall right of it quicker. These are the people you try to stay away from and yeah some slutty guys tend to be the comic reliefs of a group but how far can you really trust them?

What tier do you fall into? Would you agree or disagree with this?

[marcanthony]

It is interesting... though not surprising.

It's clear that much of the gay social world revolves around external beauty, drugs/alcohol, and whoring. So it's not surprising that a young gay person classifies everyone, and who he would like to be friends with, according to tiers that classify those areas.

The club scene invites that kind of thinking, though. Even us supposedly "older and wiser" think like that when we're out cruising. And I don't know if that's even unique to the gay world. I think it's part of the clubbing culture. You just hope that you learn over time to choose your friends based on other characterisitics that satisfy a more well refined value system.

[Guest Anton]

Hi Nick,

Interesting ...

... especially because I don't think I fit into any of them.

I don't fit into the 1st tier because I have not been introduced to celebrities and I don't have the money to do it all either (and I don't mind, because I'm healthy and happy which is the biggest gift someone can have :-) ).

Tier 2 isn't mine either because I'm not into clubbing and I don't take first class every so often (and again I don't mind, I'm perfectly happy in coach as long as the stewards and stewardesses bring me my drink every now and then).

Tier 3 isn't mine either, because I'm not open to drugs and cheating certainly is not my reality. x(

Unfortunately, I don't fit into tier 4 either. I'm not a whore of the gay world (sorry guys ;( ), and I don't fall in love quickly (sorry again guys).

Boy do I have a problem now? Do I need therapy? :+ (joking, but only about this last sentence)

Happy tiering everybody. :+

Warmest, Anton/Amsterdam.

psst Nick, I think I disagree with this. :*

[Guest jessedane]

Hmmm, interesting concept, but I don't think those categories are broken down well. At first glance I thought I fell into categorie 2, but after reading more I realized that I don't really fit into any of them at all.

I read something kind of like this before, but it was broken down into about 20 categories and it was really interesting. I felt it was much more dead on and realistic. I'll have to see if I can find that again.