TotallyOz Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 I can’t say that I really know what one is personally. However, I have seen some out there and have always been impressed with the ones that are able to keep them. On a recent trip to my family, I looked around and saw most of my relatives in very stable marriages. My sibling has been married for over 15 years and they are still best friends and romantic. My longest relationship has been 5 years. My longest period of monogamy is 5 months. After that, we seemed to go in different directions when it came to other sexual partners. Most of the gay long term partners I have met have made rules that keep them together. Some vacation separately a few times a year and don’t discuss partners. Some have threesomes. Some are just OK with their partner doing what they want with other guys as long as their friendship is top priority. And, still others I know say it is ok for their partner to sleep around as long as it is for money and an escort. What keys, if any, do you think there are for a LTR? Quote
Members Lucky Posted August 7, 2006 Members Posted August 7, 2006 If someone hed told me years ago that I wouyld end up in a long term relationship, I wouldn't have believed them. But after 23 years I still don't know what makes them work. It is just up to the individuals involved to sort out what they are looking for and work (hard) to balance each others interests. Quote
Members seaboy4hire Posted August 8, 2006 Members Posted August 8, 2006 >If someone hed told me years ago that I wouyld end up in a >long term relationship, I wouldn't have believed them. But >after 23 years I still don't know what makes them work. It is >just up to the individuals involved to sort out what they are >looking for and work (hard) to balance each others interests. My thoughts exactly Lucky. Although I have yet to read the 23 yr mark we have reached the 8 1/2 yr mark. Different strokes for different folks is what I say. Happy 23 yrs to you and the other half and may y'all go for another 23 Hugs, Greg Quote
Guest Johnnybrk25 Posted August 8, 2006 Posted August 8, 2006 I don't think ltr's are necessarily right for everyone. I also don't like the emphasis the gay community places upon having a boyfriend or being in a long term relationship. It feels like frequently being in a relationship is held up as some sort of prize or goal everyone should be striving for. Not all times in your life are right for starting a relationship and in my experience many gay men really need to become more comfortable with themselves as people before trying to become comfortable with someone else. Too many people try to get into a relationship to fix themselves or solve their personal problems. Thats a sure way to fail. Quote
Members TampaYankee Posted August 8, 2006 Members Posted August 8, 2006 >Too many people try to get into a relationship to fix themselves >or solve their personal problems. > Very insghtful, Johnny. A great combo: cute ass with a wise head. Quote
Guest jessedane Posted August 10, 2006 Posted August 10, 2006 >If someone hed told me years ago that I wouyld end up in a >long term relationship, I wouldn't have believed them. But >after 23 years I still don't know what makes them work. It is >just up to the individuals involved to sort out what they are >looking for and work (hard) to balance each others interests. So true! My longest relationship so far has only been 2 and a half years, so nowhere near yours, but I completely agree with what you are saying. Quote
