Falling in love with money boy

[Cheshirecat]

Help think I fell in love long distance 

[aymidios]

On 1/30/2020 at 3:30 AM, Cheshirecat said:

Help think I fell in love long distance 

Welcome to club. I usually remind myself this is just a fantasy, not reality. Took me a while to snap out of it. Remember, call a spade a spade. The boys are meant to fulfil your every desire and you’re just an ATM for them.  

But do share your experiences and thoughts if you’d like. 

[DivineMadman]

I think falling in love is something that we should all do regularly.  Good for you.  Why not enjoy the feelings.  

Falling out of love is often less fun, but as often as not, it happens.  

Given financial disparity and the expectation over here that the more privileged person does "take care" of the less privileged, stick to a budget and be very clear.  Managing realistic expectations and misunderstandings is key.  communicate.  communicate.  communicate.  And stick to the budget you're comfortable with.

I friends who play poker or go on trips to Las Vegas, etc.  They don't sit at home for fear that they may lose some money.  They go and don't risk more than they are willing to lose.  And they have great fun.

So enjoy the trip!

("Take care" doesn't necessarily mean set up in condo with a monthly allowance.  It can mean all sorts of things depending on the situation.)

 

[vinapu]

On 1/29/2020 at 2:30 PM, Cheshirecat said:

Help think I fell in love long distance 

cold shower at 5.30 a.m. 9 days in row should cure it

[Boy69]

I felt in love from distance many times lol some boys from Chaturbate website,3 Thai BL actors. It's a nice fantasy no more no less.

As long as it is long distance and no money transfers involved enjoy your love and keep enjoy your dreams 

[Londoner]

Keep an open mind. One thing I've noticed over the past few years is the number of ageing falangs wandering hand-in hand with Thais in their late thirties. Twenty years ago, the Thais would have been cute twenty-somethings. The reason, I suggests, is that contrary to received opinion on gay forums, some LTRs do work and result in long-lasting relationships.

And yes, my boyfriend, aged thirty-eight, was holding hands with me (rather older) in Terminus 21 last week after seventeen years of.....well, quite a lot really.

[Guest]

On 1/30/2020 at 2:30 AM, Cheshirecat said:

Help think I fell in love long distance 

You might have fallen in love, but it's most likely he's only going to fall in love with your wallet.

[Vessey]

I love falling in love long distance, or, more accurately, falling in lust; I do it all the time.

I while away the lonely months at home in between holidays, trawling Facebook, Twitter, etc., discovering new boys that I fancy the look of. Most are just passing fantasies, but one or two are just (in my mind) so impossibly sexy or cute that I follow everything they post with my fantasies regularly going in to meltdown. Nothing comes of it all, except from the occasional necessity to buy a new box of Kleenex tissues LOL

Now falling in love with the boys that I actually meet on holiday - much more likely, and much more dangerous (to both my heart strings and my wallet), and the subject of a whole new thread perhaps haha.

[Guest]

I tend to rebuff all approaches from guys 2000 km away.   The latest was one in Jakarta today.

It's easier to have sex with someone locally.

If I want some on screen entertainment, there are porn sites.

For chat, I can speak to someone of any age.  

 

Even if I am planning to visit a country, I have tended to have more success hooking up on arrival, than chatting in advance.    

 

[Boy69]

1 hour ago, z909 said:

Even if I am planning to visit a country, I have tended to have more success hooking up on arrival, than chatting in advance.    

Yes I agree there's no advantage for chatting in advance because once you arrive boy is not necessary available , or once you meet him you realise you developed too high expectations from him or on real life you don't have good chemistry with him as you had on line Chet.

[Londoner]

I visited Pattaya on more than forty occasion enjoying the butterfly-life. And then unexpectedly, unwillingly and against what I thought to be my better judgement, I fell in love with a guy I'd been offing regularly, but certainly not exclusively, for a year.

That was in 2004. I am now pretty certain that, had I not done so, I'd no longer be such a regular (three times a year) visitor. Our needs change as we age. Or at least, mine did. 

[Nasherich]

9 hours ago, Boy69 said:

Yes I agree there's no advantage for chatting in advance because once you arrive boy is not necessary available , or once you meet him you realise you developed too high expectations from him or on real life you don't have good chemistry with him as you had on line Chet.

So true. My experience also!

[DivineMadman]

From a purely utilitarian "what will my "offing" experience be" perspective, there probably is no meaningful advantage to chatting up long-distance.

But sometimes it's just fun to do.  Live in the moment.  Why not chat with some far away cutie if you've got the time.  

[Travellerdave]

I’ve occasionally maintained contact with boys I’ve offed multiple times during my many visits to Pattaya. I’m always interested in what has become of them - are they still selling sex, found a long time daddy or maybe out of the game and living a respectable life.  I do agree there is no point in trying to make contact on say Romeo prior to a visit, but I do go on that site a few days before to see what boys are available.

[Cheshirecat]

No money has been mentioned now just good conversation he works in restaurants now so seems to be a nice guy 

[Cheshirecat]

I fly back in may so see how it goes just hope he’s ok he’s sends lots of videos and always says good morning and good night he’s from Phnom Penh originally so Bangkok is. Good life for him just hope he stays off the mb circuit 

[Cheshirecat]

I know it’s once r twice a year I see him so wot he does in Thailand it’s his life break my heart from overthinking tried to let him go but always hes always in my head 

[Boy69]

On 2/12/2020 at 1:04 AM, Cheshirecat said:

I know it’s once r twice a year I see him so wot he does in Thailand it’s his life break my heart from overthinking tried to let him go but always hes always in my head 

I am totally confused you already met the boy or it will the first time you'll meet him in May ?

[Cheshirecat]

Yeah met him at Xmas still in contact every day

[NIrishGuy]

On 1/31/2020 at 4:52 AM, vinapu said:

cold shower at 5.30 a.m. 9 days in row should cure it

Plus three Hails Marys, Two Our Fathers to help you along as well as fucking at least three or four cute twinks in between each prayer session should definitely help alleviate your (DEFINITE and probably expensive) problem ( to be)....if you don't ditch him real quick !  :-) 

[Cheshirecat]

No money r anything ask for just chat

[Cheshirecat]

Xmas 2018 sorry 

[vinapu]

1 hour ago, Cheshirecat said:

No money r anything ask for just chat

that's good sign although can be just part of delicate net knitting. 

[Boy69]

I don't see any problem with that ,If you like the boy and meet him on steady basis every time you are in Thailand and have good time with him . you are in daily contact with him with no money involved it's certainly fine .sometimes buterfling can be exhausted and not always fun if you find the one who is suitable for you when you are in Thailand it's great and you can consider yourself a lucky man.

Maybe you are in love with him but it can't be fulfill because the geographic distance so you have to compromise on see him from time to time as long as you don't make payment transfers to the boy and he is not asking for it you are fine.

[Cheshirecat]

Think too much bout his lifestyle and been a mb way too much to handle the drama off overthinking not good for the soul if I c him bout grand but if not so so butterfly it will be have to keep the options open 555