Inappropriate Use of Cameras

[Guest]

More than once, I've had a boy get his smart phone out in bed to take action photos.   Typically, a photo of him with his mouth full.

I can't imagine that's going on his Facebook page.   I'm not sure what his motivation was & don't lose much sleep over that.

 

Much less desirable, when I was in Laos, one lad managed to whip his camera out and get a shot of him with his mouth full and most probably my face in the background.   Since the law apparently takes a dim view of locals fornicating with foreigners, this is possibly too good a record of the event.   

Nothing went wrong, but this is the kind of thing I would prevent if quick enough & I shall be much more alert in future.  

 

 

[reader]

1 hour ago, z909 said:

....this is the kind of thing I would prevent if quick enough & I shall be much more alert in future. 

You're going to premature ejaculate?

[TotallyOz]

Z, I have noticed this trend as well. When they pull out a camera, I gently take it and set it by the bed.

When I see them bring it into the bedroom, I gently take it and set it beside the bed. If they reach for it, I gently say no.

Like you, this is worrisome and I try to stop it from happening but have noticed this more often.

[vinapu]

# me too, only recently I noticed  that trend and my NO was firm , angry sounding and loud.

Few years ago I recommended  boy to one of our members from old forum. While service was good as expected he did not like boy and experience. Reason? Boy showed him several pictures of his clients, nothing compromising but he recognized one or two faces actually as guys  he saw in passing somewhere around boy bars 

[spoon]

I havent had this issue yet, but some boy that i really like, its me who ask the boy if i can take his picture. I only took picture of one boy really, of which, to my delight, he is ok with it. And its not a picture of me and him but rather him alone, no face. I showed the picture i took of him and it is only for my collection. And not during the action though.

[JimmyJoe]

4 hours ago, vinapu said:

 Boy showed him several pictures of his clients, nothing compromising but he recognized one or two faces actually as guys  he saw in passing somewhere around boy bars  

This is exactly what I experience with one repeat of mine. I like that he is very chatty and tells me all kinds of trade "secrets", secret to me at least. He's only too happy to go into great detail about encounters of his, porn he's done, online brokers of his (I had no idea that existed) said broker gets him 6 tricks a day when he's in Bangkok (at 1500B a pop, interestingly enough). Yes, the boy has stamina. Anyway, this boy gleefully shows me pics of his customers! I want him to give me tips on boys, who is nice, etc. and show me boy pics. He wants to show me his customers, including dick size, sexual perversity. Ick. So, we need to be careful.

[Boy69]

You should be careful if he's willing to show his you his customers pictures he might show your pictures to others...

[JimmyJoe]

Absolutely. He is not a boy to be trusted with private information. He has no pictures of me...I hope.

[Guest]

Interesting.      

I've been pretty laid back about this, as long as the photos include his face and not mine.  

However, after the incident described in the first post & reading Jimmy Joe's comments, I shall probably be clamping down on this, just like Michael & Vinapu. 

[vinapu]

12 minutes ago, JimmyJoe said:

. He has no pictures of me...I hope.

make sure you know where his phone is. You may not notice but he may try to record your fun together.

Once I noticed that my guy takes great care about how his phone is positioned on the desk beside the bed. I did not say anything because I liked him but ostensibly covered it with my baseball hat, he did not say anything either. When we met next time few days later his phone was nowhere to be seen so I think message was received.

I never even ask to take boys pictures , never mind record our time together , on another hand sometimes they ask me to take their pictures and sometimes I oblige although not necessarily keep them. One even asked me to take souvenir picture of his impressive and rigid member ( no, I will not share it , LOL ) 

 

[vinapu]

8 minutes ago, z909 said:

  

I've been pretty laid back about this, as long as the photos include his face and not mine.  

 

watch for mirrors in the room, few years ago one of our posters in his travel report on old forum placed proudly picture of his boy in the room. Poster's  face was clearly reflected in the glass wall of the shower stall, somebody alerted him but I don't remember if he asked to remove picture or just shrugged it off.

Years ago , not on this forum in either version  but somewhere else I recall hearing about  commotion about well known poster's  ChristianPFC face pick placed somewhere by other poster he met just for a chat. So not only boys may be indiscreet, we are not any better sometimes. 

[GWMinUS]

AHHHH the times have really changed. When I first visited Thailand in 2003 I always asked for Souvenir Pics of my Offs. And most all said yes. Such fond memories!!!

[vinapu]

7 hours ago, GWMinUS said:

AHHHH the times have really changed. When I first visited Thailand in 2003 I always asked for Souvenir Pics of my Offs. And most all said yes. Such fond memories!!!

the was well before world started polluting facebooks, instagrams etc  with pictures of everything and everybody

[Guest]

13 hours ago, GWMinUS said:

AHHHH the times have really changed. When I first visited Thailand in 2003 I always asked for Souvenir Pics of my Offs. And most all said yes. Such fond memories!!!

I sometimes ask for pictures of my Offs and they frequently agree.    

The difference is, I ask, whereas the boys may quickly go from holding their phone to taking pics with it, without asking.    

 

[GWMinUS]

YES YES Vinapu! As I said times have changed!! My Nokia did not take good pics. So I had to use my Canon EOS.

But we did have Yahoo Messenger. So it was possible to share Pics when I got home...  

[ChristianPFC]

On 7/22/2019 at 5:35 PM, vinapu said:

Years ago , not on this forum in either version  but somewhere else I recall hearing about  commotion about well known poster's  ChristianPFC face pick placed somewhere by other poster he met just for a chat. So not only boys may be indiscreet, we are not any better sometimes. 

I don't remember such an incident. Someone on the long gone bitchboard (good riddance!) posted a picture of me.

About two years ago I had several boys who wanted to take pictures or video of me, or us, or him, during activities, which I mostly rejected. And if such question comes up again, a clear NO.

The problem is secretly taking pictures or videos. Some boys like to play on their phone before and after sex (some would even during sex), and I haven't found a way to curb that. Best would be to put my phone on a table out of reach from the bed, and to tell the boy to do the same. And dim the light. Most cameras perform poorly in low light. I like to have some light during sex.

 

[vinapu]

7 hours ago, ChristianPFC said:

I don't remember such an incident. Someone on the long gone bitchboard (good riddance!) posted a picture of me.

 

this was  a case I had in mind, I got second hand information about whole incident so was not sure

[Travellerdave]

I like a small amount of light when in bed with a boy which can be achieved by leaving the bathroom door slightly ajar. Just enough light to be able to view the boy and his assets and also to deal with condoms and lube. It’s a good point made by Christian about keeping the boy’s phone out of his reach. After sex I normally just want to go to sleep and this is not promoted by the glare of a phone screen and I certainly don’t want photos taken of me.

[Guest]

On 7/25/2019 at 10:42 PM, Travellerdave said:

I like a small amount of light when in bed with a boy which can be achieved by leaving the bathroom door slightly ajar. Just enough light to be able to view the boy and his assets and also to deal with condoms and lube.

If I've found a hot lad,  I prefer some light so it's possible to admire him.     Generally, using similar reasoning, I think they prefer perfect darkness.

So perhaps I need to tighten up on phone use, as recommended by other members here.

 

[Travellerdave]

Boys playing on their phones whilst in bed with you - I definitely don’t like this. One night after sex I was ready for sleep - it was about 1 am. I always wake up around the same time as if I was back home - that is between 7 and 7.30, so I needed to get off to sleep. Initially it was 90% dark with only a little light from the bathroom door slightly ajar. Suddenly there was glare from his phone and when I looked over he was playing a game - I think candy crush. When I protested he was offended and said it was too early for him to sleep. The night finished with me telling him to go which he did. You gave to realise they live nocturnal lives and their body clocks reflect this causing problems like the one I describe.

[Boy69]

The main problem I faced in long term with a boy is exactly what you are describing sleeping habits difference between me and the boy I am used to sleep between 12 to 2 AM and wake up between 7 to 9 AM and most of the boys I had been with do not wake up before 12 PM and I even had a boy that is not waking up before 16:00 (!) . It's very forstrated I certainly didn't take a vacation to spend my time in sleeping most of the day this is why I probably won't take any boy for LT on my upcoming trip .

[vinapu]

7 hours ago, Boy69 said:

 most of the boys I had been with do not wake up before 12 PM and I even had a boy that is not waking up before 16:00 (!) .

I'd be happy in my long time off stay that long !!!

Specially if he was muscular type

[a447a]

When guys come to my room they almost always take the chance to charge their phones. (I have an iPhone and a Samsung.) 

I refuse to have my photo taken but on a couple of occasions in restaurants I've noticed the guy go to take a photo of the food but then quickly lift the phone up to get me in the picture.

I think they want our photo on their phone for future reference - to remind themselves who we are when we next contact them.

[Guest]

Boys who expect to stay up half the night and then sleep to mid-day or even longer are a bit of a problem.   

That's one of the reasons why I have been doing fewer long-time offs in recent years.    Although there are some who don't use their phone excessively and wake up at a civilised time.   I'm hoping some of these are still around for my next trip !      If I'm having to drag a long time boy out of bed late morning, that also goes down in my notes.  If he was otherwise good, he's more likely to be a short time candidate in future.    A long time boy who is good in bed and sleeps at the correct time is going to get asked to do long time again.

As for the photos, I've never really objected to having my photo taken, providing I have clothes on.   Or if I don't have clothes on, his face needs to be in the picture, not mine.  Remarkably, some of them do like to photograph themselves performing fellattio.   Perhaps I am unwise to permit this ?    I just assume he's not going to post that on Facebook.

Oddly, whilst being somewhat relaxed about that, outside of Thailand, there are many sad people on Grindr whose sole intention seems to be to swap cock pics.  I have no time at all for this. If someone starts the conversation by sending a photo showing just their cock or ass, they get blocked and I NEVER send any pics of that nature either.

 

 

[spoon]

When i open my grindr in pattaya, ive had boys sending me obscene pics, sadly not my type.