Safe gay sex for the occasional straight man

[Guest Renner]

I am 48 and I am only very occasionally bisexual and my gay experience is very limited. It is important to say I am married and my wife does not know my bisexual side. We have sex together unprotected.

 

When I will be holidaying in Thailand very soon I intend on having sex with a mix of boys and girls.

 

I would like to ask for advice on how to properly have sex with the boys in Thailand. How do you guys on this forum keep yourself safe?

 

On my last trip to Thailand I received syphilis. I had sex with a massage boy. While I was lying on my front he was on top of me rubbing his bare penis on my anus. He did not penetrate me. Afterwards I sucked his cock without a condom and he ejaculated in my mouth which I swallowed. He then sucked my cock bare then I put on a condom and fucked him in the anus. I have not doubt thst I received the syphilis infecton during the time his naked penis was in contact with my anus. (At the time I was tested positive, I had developed a sore on my anus). 

 

On previous trips I mostly received oral sex from boys and occasionally topped them. On this trip I would like to experience much more such as sucking the boys cocks in bars like Goodboys and Eros and I would like to swallow their sperm. I would also like to experience them fucking me anally. But it needs to be safe.

 

Of course I will wear a condom for anal sex. But are there things I can do to make sure it is safe? What is your experience with sucking the boys cocks? Is it normal to receive a std disease during oral sex?

[spoon]

Other than the usual protection (condom etc) visual inspection is also important. Still the foolproof way is to avoid contact, aka, DIY.

[Londoner]

No one can be completely safe from all VDs. The most important thing is of course to use condoms for anal sex though I would not participate in oral sex without one. I know this  view is not shared by all, but  many of us  sometimes see small amounts of blood when cleaning our teeth. These indicate the possibility of lesions  which themselves suggest  that an infection may be transmitted into  the blood stream. 

Thorough washing after sex is obviously helpful.   

[mgb]

I always use condoms (super thin ones) for oral sex and of course, for anal sex and it's going fine till now. What i experiened in Thailand was boys seemed reluctant when i put condoms on them and did oral but at the end, they still smiled.

[Boy69]

VDs can be transmitted via oral sex as well the OP has misconception that only unprotected anal sex is dangerous.

[Travellerdave]

Obviously condom use is essential for anal sex. I always take a supply of strong ones usually the Pasant brand.

When I first went to Pattaya nearly 20 years ago I fucked a lot of boys without - I got away with it but many haven’t !. Be careful for example when waking up in the night with a boy and being under the influence of alcohol.

Thorough washing of the cock and anal area I believe to be important.

When oral is contemplated I use mouthwash before and after, although I’m not sure how effective that is. Also don’t brush your teeth for a few hours afterwards.

I think most gays use propection for anal but not for oral.

[vinapu]

it always helps to remember then when we have sex with somebody at the same time we have it with everybody  they had sex before including those customers who don't care about their  and boy's / girl's health.

 

All advises above seem to be very sensible , if only everybody bothered with obeying them.

 

I believe mouthwash due to alcohol content is quite effective in sealing microscopic cuts in our mouths reducing chances of getting infected that way. When about Bangkok or Pattaya I always carry it with me along with KY and pack of condoms as one never knows when luck will smile.