favourite boys and regulars

[jason1975]

I am sure we have our own favourite boys from the Thai gogo bars and massage shops.

 

Do you meet your favourites EVERY trip? (Because you promised them the previous trip that you will meet them the next time you go to Thailand)

 

How then do you fit in new boys whom you would like to try out?

 

On my trip this week, 3 of my favourites are in town. I only have 4 days and nights. Dilemma!

[witty]

You can be charitable to your favorite boys by offing them short time during the afternoon, and going long time with new tricks in the evening. If you really got the energy for it, why not?. Up to you.

[Londoner]

One of the lessons I learnt on my second trip in 1996 was that many of the  the guys I had met on my previous trip or had noticed before and planned to get to know this time  were no longer working. "He go home, long time." 

[ggobkk]

I’ll be meeting a regular tomorrow. Over the last three years we have come to an understanding that I will be with others as well as him. If I’m interested n someone while with him, he will happily approach them with my interest. He once found someone I’d been interested in but lost contact with and brought him around for “negotiations” after I’d mentioned I’d like to see the boy.

[Guest abang1961]

Make hay while the sun shines.... that's my observation in Thailand.

If I see someone I fancied, I will attract his attention and if he reciprocates, I just walk over to chat.

 

Same with commercial sex.

See someone you like, grab him before he's taken or gone.

Many a times, the transmigration of guys from one region to another, from one bar to another is much too great.

Stop procrastinate, no more  mañana.

Act quick and act now.

[Gaybutton]

On my trip this week, 3 of my favourites are in town. I only have 4 days and nights. Dilemma!

 

My opinion - I don't see a dilemma.  You will be in Thailand for a very limited time.  This is your holiday and your money.  You are perfectly entitled to spend your time and money however and with whomever you wish.  You owe yourself a good time.  You don't owe your previous regulars a thing and most likely all they're truly interested in anyway is your money. 

 

Give yourself permission not to feel guilty, especially since there is no reason for you to feel guilty in the first place.

 

If you wish to seek out different boys, by all means do so.  If you happen to encounter any previous regulars, but have lost interest at least during this trip, tell them maybe next time - emphasis on maybe.

 

As the Thai boys say, "Up to you."

[Guest]

Do you meet your favourites EVERY trip? (Because you promised them the previous trip that you will meet them the next time you go to Thailand)

 

1   I tend not to make any promises about future trips.  So that removes any obligations.   Although, of course some keep pushing for an off.

 

2   If someone is a true favourite, of course I will WANT to see them, rather than be pressured into it.

 

3   In some cases, favourites change.    One whom I first met about 5 years ago has had some breasts fitted since my recent trip.  I may well still see him once on the next trip, to see how it goes.

Another one used to be quite good in bed, good to talk to and happy to do long time.  Now some of his family have moved down, he's put on significant weight, did short time, didn't hold much of a conversation & wasn't so good in bed.  Remembering that they only meet if paid, I don't see any reasons there to have a repeat of the experience.

 

And in reply to post #3 by Londoner, well a lot of boys may be there one year & gone the next.  Then there are a handful who are around for 5 or more years.

[Travellerdave]

There is a lot to be said for making contact with a boy whom you have had experience previously. During my recent trip in February, staying in the Complex I had a good time with one that I had encountered in September. He was from Laos, 20, and spoke some English and knew how to please me in bed, during the three nights I had him with me in my room at the Zing. Unfortunately he had to go Back home to sort out his visa, and he didn’t appear again till I had to leave. I thought I had found a substitute with a nice looking boy who via google translate told me he liked to top and let me kiss him in the bar. The reality was that he was very inexperienced with gay sex and was also nervous when we went to my room. I had to terminate the liaison with a small tip and spent the night alone. This has happened to me very occasionally over the years and is disappointing when you have only limited time on holiday.

[vinapu]

I used to butterfly religiously not only offing any boy only once but also visiting bars and massages in rotation so never had repeat visit anywhere during the same trip.

But with time, around 9th or 10th  trip I smartened up and started seeing an advantage in engaging with the same boy multiple times , sometimes even 2-3 days in row.

 

Why to hunt for unknown if known I was happy with is at hand?

 

Now if boy seem to be keen an repeat encounter I tend to go for it although  not necessary day after day or night after night. But at slightest sign that he takes my custom for granted I haste to show that that's not a case. Sometimes this even creates room for improvement next trip as I learned to my great joy with  my first off on the last trip.

 

Yes , before every trip I plan to meet one or more of my previous favorites and hope they will be there but I'm fully mentally prepared for disappointment of not finding them or , even worse that they turn not to be as fabulous as in the first place. At end of day that's the joy of hunting.

[Nasherich]

I think the key is making your intentions clear. If all the boys know you are butterflying, then there's no dilemma. But if they think you are exclusively seeing them, then it's problematic.

 

My experience is that despite the commercial arrangements, many boys would jump at the chance of having a farang boyfriend so not to be clear about the situation could cause an upset.

[a447a]

I've had a regular in Pattaya for many years. He's the only guy I have sex with during the entire time I'm there. (Before him, I had another guy for many years but he decided to leave the scene.)

 

A couple of times he's been back home while I was on holiday and I had to find someone else. It was a bit of a pain but luckily I was able to find someone very quickly. And I tended to see them every day. When my regular was back on the scene, they knew I wouldn't be offing then again. But we did sit together every night in Eros and I'd buy him drinks and tip him. I then left with my regular.

 

In Bangkok I've also got a regular who I've known for years. We have sex every afternoon for my entire stay. During the evening i call on a couple of other favourites and if they are not working I normally head over to Screwboys and find someone.

 

It's so convenient having a regular guy to entertain me. No more running from bar to bar, always worried whether or not I'd find someone suitable. And having to buy a drink in every bar. And worrying about whether or not the guy would perform.

 

And, of course, we get to know each other very well over the years and become very comfortable in each other's company. And when it comes to sex, they know exactly what I like and exactly what to do. There are no surprises for either of us. Except when my Bangkok boy comes up with yet another sex position!

 

I'll never butterfly again.

[witty]

...and it's comforting when you realize that the both of you are growing older together.

[ChristianPFC]

I have regulars in Pattaya gogo bars, but not in Bangkok (too expensive). So when I go to Pattaya for 2 nights, from my pool of regulars I could have one at night, one in the morning, one at night, one in the morning. I wouldn't have to set foot in any bar. But where would be the fun of the hunt? I call it "the lure of the gogo". So in one such trip I usually meet one regular and one new boy.
 

I make detours to avoid being seen by regulars with a new boy, but probably word will spread nonetheless. Anyway, it's my money. Any of my regulars is welcome to have sex with for free at any reasonable place and time of his choice.

 

But I invite all my regular to come to see me in Bangkok when they have business in Bangkok. Here I don't have that dilemma which boy to choose.

[Guest]

I will return to regulars, but certainly not for days on end, well not in recent years.

One exception, back in 2011, I met a lad in Funny Boys and saw him in 6 days out of the last 9 on the trip.  A nice, but rather clingy lad who probably would have followed me around for the entire 9 days after I met him given the chance.   The year after, he had a boyfriend. 

 

I travel around on holidays, but if spending 2+ weeks in Pattaya at the end of the trip, I would now aim to see at least 7 different people in the first week & then go back to some of the more deserving cases again at the end of the trip.

 

A few old favourites get mixed in.   The  longest running one was number #5 from Euroboys in 2011, then seen again in 2015, 16 & 17.

[Vessey]

New boys are a bit of a lottery in terms of how you connect, how good the sex is, but there is always the thrill of the chaice, of someone new, someone different - I get that.

 

But, albeit less thrilling, there is the comfort of the regular who you have seen over several holidays who you connect well with and who you know you are going to have great sex with. 

 

I usually start off with the new, but then, after a few days, quickly settle back down with the tried and tested 'regular' 

[a447a]

The thrill of the chase quickly loses its shine when you discover your catch is a dud, or doesn't live up to your expectations.

 

I'm on holiday for a set number of days so I don't have time to deal with non-performers. I want perfect sex every day.

 

I have 3 regular guys back home here who I can call on at any time. There are lots of other fish in the sea of course, but many of them turn out to be sharks.

 

A regular has to be more than just good in bed and have the type of body I'm after. That alone would not qualify anyone to be a regular for me.

 

Personality is the most important. The rest is a bonus.

[vinapu]

some statistics for me  ( offs and  massages )

 

number subsequent days I met the same boy -9 ( not all offing days but at least we spent some time together )

 

most offs of the same boy on one trip -6 

 

most offs of the same boy night after night -4 

 

number of boys offed at least 10 times - 4

 

highest number of offs  of the same boy- 14

 

number of boys offed long time at least 5 times - 6 (record holder -8 times)

 

number of boys offed short time more than once -6 ( record holder 3  times )

 

most massages with the same guy - 9

 

shortest off - 30 minute / 2 times /

 

longest off -14 hrs ( and still when met that boy by chance at barber shop year later he did not recognize me, thought I was his English teacher, LOL ) 

 

lowest tip 1000

 

highest tip 4000

 

disaster -1

 

big disappointment -5

 

unsatisfactory massage -0

[a447a]

Having a regular guy works well for him, too.

 

He knows he has a steady income for the period of my holiday and can plan his budget accordingly.

 

It's a win-win situation.

[vinapu]

Having a regular guy works well for him, too.

 

He knows he has a steady income for the period of my holiday and can plan his budget accordingly.

 

It's a win-win situation.

one of boys mentioned in my post above , one with 9 days , actually after day 4 asked me to pay him accumulated agreed tip at end of our time together in order to save all that money.

 

Nice plot as he had excuse to ask me  to pay for his small daily expanses as theoretically he did not have money yet but I liked an idea nevertheless so agreed gladly.

[witty]

Not necessarily a good idea.

What if the punter is debilitated, or dies on the penultimate day, the boy will get almost nothing for his efforts but a possible nightmare.

Just pay up by the day.

[jason1975]

Wow! Vinapu, you are so meticulous in remembering all your encounters!

 

Anyway, thanks everyone for giving your two cents' or rather 100 baht's worth of opinions.

 

I was in Bangkok Tuesday to Saturday. Met my 3 favourite gogo boys at least twice each. In fact, I had two of them together for the last night together. Of course, I asked both of them in advance and they said ok.

 

Tried a new boy this trip but he was a dud. Shall hope for better luck next trip.

[vinapu]

Not necessarily a good idea.

What if the punter is debilitated, or dies on the penultimate day, the boy will get almost nothing for his efforts but a possible nightmare.

Just pay up by the day.

mind it was boy's idea , not mine so it looks he assessed my health as NOT COFFIN BOUND

[Vessey]

one of boys mentioned in my post above , one with 9 days , actually after day 4 asked me to pay him accumulated agreed tip at end of our time together in order to save all that money.

 

Nice plot as he had excuse to ask me  to pay for his small daily expanses as theoretically he did not have money yet but I liked an idea nevertheless so agreed gladly.

 

I have sometimes paid long-time boys/girls at the end of the holiday, or even a bit upfront - although that doesn't work as well.

 

But what I have also done on three or four occasions is open a bank-account for my long-time and paid the money into that and he/she walks away with a bank card and 10k or 20k baht 'in the bank', although I suspect it didn't stay there long - but at least I tried. LOL

 

One of my regulars keeps a bank account and I pay him each weekend and he goes to Central and banks it almost as soon as I give it to him, but he is the exception rather than the rule.

 

Generally, it never ceases to amaze me how many of them still stash all their accumulated cash in a shoe-box in their room - and even put proud pictures of it on FaceBook for all to see!

[vinapu]

Wow! Vinapu, you are so meticulous in remembering all your encounters!

 

travel notes help

[Vessey]

travel notes help

 

Absolutely they do, I keep notes on all my holidays - like a sort of diary - takes about 20 mins, occasionally 30 mins each day, with a few photographs to back-it up. Records each day while it is still fresh in the memory.

 

Its amazing how quickly detail and events fade amongst the hurly-burly of a holiday and memories seem to merge into each other.

 

Essential for trip reports, but also good for the long days back home to re-live past encounters and enjoy again the highlights of a holiday, until it is time for the next next one.

 

That and keeping in touch with my regulars on FaceBook, although even they go 'off the boil' during the long months between holidays.