Guest samebb Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Not limited to bars, I've found that in Thailand it's usually sufficient to reply in a gradually unfriendlier fashion. First I say "no thanks" with a genuine smile, and if necessary it will go downhill from there. That even works with Asoke ladyboys, they're worse than the worst mamasan I've ever encountered. Just ignore them. The minute you say something they harras you. If they harras you anyway and worse try to physically assault you, do what you need to do to protect youself. I was in pain for a week after my incident. I wont let it happen again. That slimebag is still in Bangkok but gives me a wide birth. Quote
Alexx Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 Well I guess I've just been lucky, I've never been assaulted in all my years here. When people approach me in the street, I usually do acknowledge them with a friendly "no thanks", but I don't stop and just keep walking. In the rare event that someone has grabbed me or blocked my way, I've never had a problem to gently escape their clutches. Responding with violence probably does more harm than good, although I'd agree that it might be well deserved occasionally. Quote
Guest samebb Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 All I will say is, the skin and flesh on the underside of my upper arms is very sensitive. When someone with big nails clasps and yanks me to one side by that area, it freaking hurts! Try it on yourself. Your reaction might be knee jerk as mine was. Quote
spoon Posted July 19, 2017 Posted July 19, 2017 I see a lot of grabbing in vietnam too, especially in ben thanh market. However they dobt bother grabbing me since i look like local lol My limited experience in Bangkok also have not experience any grabbing by tout. Quote
gerefan Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 Another way to get rid is say " no English" ...it works ! Quote
Guest Posted July 20, 2017 Posted July 20, 2017 Another way to get rid is say " no English" ...it works ! This is no use if they remember you from previous visits. I've used this when approached by some schyster on the streets of Phuket, with some success: Q: Do you speak English ? Me: Nein Q: Nihongo ga dekimasu ka ? Quote
vinapu Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 This is no use if they remember you from previous visits. still may work, on few occasions in bars I was known I still used ' I like the girls ' line and a message to leave me alone was understood Quote
ChristianPFC Posted July 21, 2017 Posted July 21, 2017 I have very little interaction with mamasans and will keep it that way. But interestingly, for others it seems to work to do all their interaction via mamasan: It has happened that a mama san has advised me, regretfully, that none of the available boys at her bar will suit me (I am arriving late) and has then taken me to another bar which her network tells her has boys I will like and has introduced me to the mama san there, for a happy result all around. Quote
alex303 Posted July 22, 2017 Posted July 22, 2017 I just treat them all individually depending upon whether they are actually helpful or just taking the piss and trying to line their own pockets... Toyboys & Powerboys for example have Mena & JoJo who are both great Prisma (before that 360 and WWB) had the vile Leila who I cannot abide...but even then you just have to be direct with them i.e. had a conversation with Leila and told 'it' back at 360 that if he tried to talk or get anything from me I would not even step foot in 360...after that 'it' just left me alone. Funny thing is the waiters in 360 (back when it was ok) did a much better job than Leila ever did if I needed any info prior to an off.... Quote
