Guest Declan69 Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 What are your guys thoughts on this. Quote
Guest ryanasia Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 If you even look slightly happy or successful you will be subjected to internalized homophobia for no apparent reason. Good luck. Quote
kokopelli Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Forget it. Been with my Thai bf for 15 years and would never, ever consider marriage. You have not given any details so impossible to properly respond to your post. TotallyOz 1 Quote
Guest ryanasia Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 Forget it. Been with my Thai bf for 15 years and would never, ever consider marriage. You have not given any details so impossible to properly respond to your post. Marriage isn't an option available to you so I don't see what you wouldn't consider. Not in Thailand anyway. Quote
NIrishGuy Posted April 10, 2017 Posted April 10, 2017 I'm not sure what the question is - is it actually asking how we feel about marriage equality in general OR do you mean ( to be fair exactly as you say) about how do we feel to marriage equality to a THAI guy ( any more than a guy from any other Country perhaps ?) Quote
Guest Promsak Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 A couple of days ago, there were reports and photos of an ex staff member of Telephone Pub getting married in Thaialnd to his farang partner. It was also reported on Thai TV. One million Baht dowry, half million in gold and a one carat diamond ring. The marriage has no legal validity in Thailand (or elsewhere) but they will be going to the U.K. later this year to legalise their marriage. Full story https://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/977762-a-million-baht-dowry-and-a-hundred-foreign-guests-as-gay-british-tour%C2%A0boss-ties-the-knot-with-thai-man/?utm_source=newsletter-20170410-1319&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=news As an edit:- sorry just remembered that there is a already thread on this story. Quote
PeterRS Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 I have several friends who have married their Thai partners. The marriages took place in London and one couple lives there. Even with a 25 year age difference, they have never noticed any homophobia, strange looks etc. either in the west or on their regular trips back to Thailand. Another couple also has a big age difference and have lived together in Bangkok and once in Chiang Mai for 15 years. I have spent quite a bit of time with them. Again Ive never seen any signs of homophobia, open or repressed. Quote
NIrishGuy Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 A couple of days ago, there were reports and photos of an ex staff member of Telephone Pub getting married in Thaialnd to his farang partner. It was also reported on Thai TV. Just out of interest was the "marriage" being reported as "marriage" or a blessing and was the emphasise just on the fact that it had happened in general to a well known bar manager ( as I wouldn't have thought that would make the news particularly ?) or was it more a report on the size of the dowry that had been paid etc ( which again I wouldn't have thought was THAT strange in terms of white guys getting screwed out of their money for nothing other than a monk chanting a bit at him for a while) Quote
kokopelli Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 Marriage isn't an option available to you so I don't see what you wouldn't consider. Not in Thailand anyway. Marriage is available to me in my home country if I wish to purse that course. The OP was vague in his initial post, so don't know what he really was asking, does anyone? Quote
a447a Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 I read it as - Would there be any downside to marrying a guy from Thailand? Maybe he's heard stories of Thai guys (and girls) taking the farang to the cleaners and is wondering if it's a good idea. We need more information, declan. Quote
Guest ryanasia Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 I read it as - Would there be any downside to marrying a guy from Thailand? Maybe he's heard stories of Thai guys (and girls) taking the farang to the cleaners and is wondering if it's a good idea. We need more information, declan. If that is the case nobody can really offer valid advice as none of us know who he would marry. Other than the fact you can only have a commitment ceremony here I can't think of any reason not to in all honesty. Do your ceremony in Thailand so you can test the waters before you go do it somewhere it is legally binding. Quote
kokopelli Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 No one will know what the OP had in mind until he decides to clarify his post. Another reason that newbies who post something are suspected of trolling. Wait and see. Quote
KhorTose Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 Marriage is available to me in my home country if I wish to purse that course. The OP was vague in his initial post, so don't know what he really was asking, does anyone? I agree vague, but why not answer the main meanings. Marriage equality in general---Great idea, with many legal rights attached. Marriage for gays in general---Depends on the people involved. Marriage between young and old--Depends on the people involved. Marriage between members of different cultures--Depends on the people involved. Marriage for me and a Thai man--working out so far 7+ yrs PeterRS, kokopelli, traveller123 and 1 other 4 Quote
Guest ryanasia Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 Koko comes off as some repressed homo. To the OP do what you want to. Quote
kokopelli Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 What is your problem, ryan? You come across as a bear with sore balls. vinapu and firecat69 2 Quote
Guest Promsak Posted April 12, 2017 Posted April 12, 2017 Just out of interest was the "marriage" being reported as "marriage" or a blessing and was the emphasise just on the fact that it had happened in general to a well known bar manager ( as I wouldn't have thought that would make the news particularly ?) or was it more a report on the size of the dowry that had been paid etc ( which again I wouldn't have thought was THAT strange in terms of white guys getting screwed out of their money for nothing other than a monk chanting a bit at him for a while) The words big wedding, married his Thai sweetheart, nuptials and traditional wedding were mentioned in the article translated from Thai Rath, but this might just be journalese. I loved the sentence handed over the diamond ring and the dowry was received by Samruay's happy parents Jet, 60, and Samrerng, 57. I'll bet Jet and Samrerng were happy. Quote
sglad Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 The Thai groom is aptly named สำรวย (samruay) which is used to describe someone who is foppish, pleasure-loving or idle-rich. The auspicious circumstances of his birth might have led his parents and/or monk giving him that name and lo and behold, they turned out to be right! I didn't know the word สำรวย could be used to describe men as I've only heard it being used to describe women - you learn something new everyday! Question: why do gay couples often wear matching outfits at their wedding? I find it somewhat nuff and uninspired. And why was Samruay wearing football socks? They both should have worn ballet shoes just for the fun of it! Quote
Guest Posted April 16, 2017 Posted April 16, 2017 I have never seen the point in getting married. Well, perhaps the only advantage that comes to mind is making it easier for your partner to get a visa & maybe passport to move to your own country, if that is what both parties want. Whilst no doubt there are some relationships that work, I would think protecting against potential financial losses with a pre-nup agreement would be wise. Quote
Popular Post traveller123 Posted April 17, 2017 Popular Post Posted April 17, 2017 I have never seen the point in getting married. Well, perhaps the only advantage that comes to mind is making it easier for your partner to get a visa & maybe passport to move to your own country, if that is what both parties want. Whilst no doubt there are some relationships that work, I would think protecting against potential financial losses with a pre-nup agreement would be wise. My partner and I live in Thailand but we had a Civil Partnership in the UK The reason being to try to make it easier for him to access the spouse pension from my pensions when the day eventually comes and I am no more. I meet my guy over 8 years ago and we took it slowly, including us living together for 2 years in the UK so we could both assess what a permanent everyday relationship would be like. He came from a poor family, so I have made a serious financial committment in land and a house (secured for what it's worth with a 30 year lease in my name) I have never regretted it, my financial input has been repaid many times with his emotional input. sglad, DivineMadman, Phet and 2 others 5 Quote
sglad Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 Marriage for me and a Thai man--working out so far 7+ yrs I have never regretted it, my financial input has been repaid many times with his emotional input. Nice to hear of positive real-life experiences with regards to relationships with Thai people. Too often we only hear of negative experiences. Thanks for sharing. Quote
Onlyserious Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 traveller123. beautiful your points of view. I will be very grateful if you could speak in my post "love in Thailand". I thank you and I hope you ll be able to motivate others to write. Quote
steveboy Posted April 17, 2017 Posted April 17, 2017 traveller123. beautiful your points of view. I will be very grateful if you could speak in my post "love in Thailand". I thank you and I hope you ll be able to motivate others to write. Have you asked traveller123 if he has been monogamous for the last 8 years? Quote
PeterRS Posted April 18, 2017 Posted April 18, 2017 Have you asked traveller123 if he has been monogamous for the last 8 years? I wonder why anyone would want to know. How two guys develop and maintain their relationship is surely their own affair. We all know that many gay relationships have a tendency to develop into open relationships over a period of time. But thats not the business of anyone else. paulsf 1 Quote
steveboy Posted April 18, 2017 Posted April 18, 2017 I wonder why anyone would want to know. How two guys develop and maintain their relationship is surely their own affair. We all know that many gay relationships have a tendency to develop into open relationships over a period of time. But thats not the business of anyone else. Oh, I don't care for the sexual life of anyone, I just wanted to relate Onlyserious fixation on monogamy with his admiration for a board member who I suspect does not believe in that. But if an experienced traveler to BKK and Pattaya like traveller123 can stay monogamous for 8 years, my admiration for him! Quote
traveller123 Posted April 18, 2017 Posted April 18, 2017 Have you asked traveller123 if he has been monogamous for the last 8 years? It may surprise you but yes i have, although with my partners approval I have had massages with HJ but never with what I would consider full sex. I found that the older I get (I'm almost 70) the easier it became to be monoganous PeterRS 1 Quote
