1st timer in Bangkok boy bars needs advises ....

[Guest TyThaiL]

Hi,

First of all, I found this forum is AWESOME to learn about the gay scenes in Thailand ! Thank you and really appreciate your sharing experience guys.

 

Planning my first trip to Bangkok soon, would like to ask:

 

Once I like a boy , want to off him, but want to talk to him first, do I have to buy him a drink a right at the minute he comes sit talking to me ?

If so, if I happen to want to talk to 2or 3 boys before deciding which boy I want to off from the bar, then I have to pay For every drink for each of those boys ?

Please advise !

Besides , I like to off the boy for the long time, all night, any advises how to make sure they know and agree on what I'm looking for ? Be cause I don't want the boy misunderstood and wants to leave early...,

 

Thank you first for you advises guys !

 

Ps: small note: do you tip and how much at the restaurant ? Like local mom & pop restaurant ? Not sure how this works either do please advise...Thanks

[Guest samebb]

You can talk for a few minutes without buying a drink for him. If hes not the one send him back to the stage with a tip and move onto the next. Some boys would rather have the money than a drink so keep that in mind to.

 

My advice is dont try to plan this stuff so far ahead. It will never go as you planned. Read what you can here and go with an open mind.

[vinapu]

, I found this forum is AWESOME 

tell us something we don't know, LOL

 

welcome to the forum

[vinapu]

Besides , I like to off the boy for the long time, all night, any advises how to make sure they know and agree on what I'm looking for ? Be cause I don't want the boy misunderstood and wants to leave early...,

 

 

 

Ps: small note: do you tip and how much at the restaurant ? Like local mom & pop restaurant ? Not sure how this works either do please advise...Thanks

after you assessed you like a boy just tell him in no uncertain terms that you want him to stay with you till breakfast /morning .

 

If you need to translate call mamasan  but in my opinion   it's better to avoid intermediaries.

 

Be prepared that even if he swears on his grandmother grave that he will stay from time to time you will have one who will be looking for excuse to leave sooner / wrongly parked motorcycle is popular excuse /  .

 

In such a case pay him short time rate and at next opportunity when he is looking for an another off from you  tell him that you will not because last time he shortchanged you on time , works miracles. I did this to one of Tawan boys and ever since he will not leave untill green lighted by me / may look for higher tip but that's another story /.,

 

a for restaurant tipping , Thailand is not a tipping culture , specially in mom and pop establishments so you may get away without tipping at all or with just loose change but if you wish to tip like I do you can use my schedule of tips: if invoice is up to 300, I tip 20,  from 301-600 , it's 40, 601-1000 ,  60 baht and over 1000, 10 % of an invoice. Other may be more or less generous.  

[ChristianPFC]

I guess most customers buy a drink if they invite a boy to sit with them, and in many places staff will pester you incessantly as soon as the boy walks to your place. I had cases where staff just asks the boy what the wants to drink and does not get confirmation from me, the first time I sucked it up, the second time I had that drink I did not order removed from the bill.

 

But there is no rule you have to buy a boy a drink. I usually do not buy the boy a drink. However not tipping would be rude and quickly get you a bad reputation.

 

If they don't want to stay long time, they will come up with all kinds of excuses to renege on the deal made in the bar. Ask Vinapu. There is no way to make sure a boy who agrees to long time in the bar really stays long time.

 

Street food and small restaurants do not expect a tip. Fancier places often add 10% service charge (of which only a small amount might be distributed to staff, I vaguely remember reading on the internet that one owner uses the service charge to pay the electricity bill, or something like that).

[Londoner]

My advice is not to assume that a guy you meet in a bar and take off is dishonest. Take reasonable precautions (with valuables for example) , treat your new friend with respect and kindness, pay him the going-rate - or more if you wish- and relax.  Most of the guys are trying to make an an honest living in difficult circumstances; a newcomer to Thailand will soon learn how important parents are to them and how much of the money they make is immediately sent home.

[Guest ryanasia]

Immediately sent home? Can't say I agree on that.

[vinapu]

 There is no way to make sure a boy who agrees to long time in the bar really stays long time.

 

Actually there is  - if you offed him previously and he stay  long time,  one can safely assume he will not renege on a deal next time.

 

But it needs to be said that while from time to time some boys will try excuses still most of them will try to earn their tip honestly and will soldier on till morning.

 

If they don't , my advice to newbies will be  just to chalk it off to experience and don't make any drama out of it. But for early leaver reduce tip accordingly.