Riobard

As much a nonstarter as ever. It can be equally argued that homosexual men are the same as everybody else except for what they do in bed, and are different from everybody else except for what they do in bed. The apparent contradiction is exogenously rooted, social construction continua wherein ideological positions and various constituencies of societal attitude are often mutually antithetical, and are not for us to resolve. This is similar to the polarized systems notion of equipotentiality, a grouping of the very same things leading to different outcomes with each outcome iteration, versus equifinality, a grouping of entirely different things leading to the same outcome with each outcome iteration. Homosexual men are only required to try to endure the range of absurdist notions about us that are put before us. This is nothing new and the changing sources and dynamics are not necessarily relevant. This reality eludes any meaningful potential for cogently stationing ourselves within the evolving rhetoric on fluidity. That narrative is more complex and simply superimposed on what has always been unresolvable, one example not the least of which is the nature-nurture dialectic. It helps to explain the inane notion that homosexual men subvert their true (opposite) biological gender by virtue of same-sex attraction. We are not in for a bat-crap crazy ride any nuttier than the carnival has always been. Only the total landscape of additional wannabe ringmasters, players, and the hats they wear may appear to have changed. The idea of homeostasis applies to homosexual men. It is a patent feature, well beyond an idea. The central defining characteristic, a variation of the biological reproductive imperative, absent the procreative component, has been an extremely longstanding constant. If postmodern queer theory aims to alter this particular unique phenomenon, good luck to its proponents. Of course it remains imperative to maintain and exhibit empathic attunement with the full range of collectives that face oppression, while not necessarily getting absorbed into an amorphous undifferentiated mass of activism. Everybody is equal. Nobody is the same.

I get it. I just looked at my apartment cost in the area I booked a while ago for a trip later in the year and for the first time I converted it: 1400 baht.

It’s always only rectal exam season on this message board. (Sorry, it was just there … I’ll let myself out.)

So rude … maybe?? One never knows. Bottoms may be the ones that stick out most, taking all sorts of liberties. Your relentless teasing may be a bad influence on etiquette. 😉

What is comparatively lacking on this board, through nobody’s fault, is an extensive and robust sub-forum geared to providers. That can be accessed via a website named ‘company of men [dot] org’. No harm in being aware of options and determining the best fit, or straddling both.

It was neither necessary nor rude, so half right. No shortage of throwaway comments entered by many of our peers. I don’t apologize for others’ lack of sense of humour. You unwittingly set up a follow-up based on a Mercutio line, a feline line, like low hanging fruit. No fault there but my riffing on it wasn’t obnoxious simply because you’re grousing about it. If it didn’t land, then fine, it wasn’t the cat’s meow and all fours could be a myth. Tough audience; one moves on. That said, I’m glad you have survived your many visits and have your own autonomous way of processing the one mishap you endured by letting the accounting of it all hang out, in fact, several times if I’m not mistaken. No harm no foul there. It’s a reasonable tripadvisor input and the reader can take or leave the vicissitudes of travel, the heeding you may think is obligatory to share. I do wonder, though, how it serves the readership in terms of the assortative aspect you implied, how to make sense of a comparator tale of two cities. Nobody at all is spared an eventual fate worse than a cringeworthy robbery. In truth, The Bard was all over that, inn’t? So hang in there, de-center, not everything is about you. Gallows humour is not a rarity or verboten on this board. Nor is the pressing need to control the narrative regarding another member’s MO, which by the way I would be inclined, in fact, to decipher as myopically rude.

That really clears up the destination decision-making. Rodolfo couldn’t have expressed it better. 😀 Anybody else finding migration patterns migraine inducing? One-stop Barcelona is beginning to look a lot like Xmas.

I have arranged the safety net a few ways, until my repeat visits eventually resulted in establishing solid connections with hosts of a given destination. I occasionally double booked a second inexpensive Airbnb unit so as to avoid getting stranded, albeit unlikely, but that backup only 3 days to enable reorganizing. It happened once due to a host failing to show, as in to err is human, extremely embarrassed and apologetic. The charge was naturally reversed. You need to pay attention to exorbitant cleaning fees for short stays, as some hosts wish to dissuade guests from making brief bookings that may block longer stays. At that juncture when you are actually there some prospective hosts hungry for business will even show you the place in person before commitment, in the event the backup place is merely a sheltered base that spared you homelessness on arrival. In my case the mishap was serendipitous because the 3rd place, the one subsequent to the back-up, turned out to be a gem and I have lodged there for months at a time ever since. I have found these infrequent hassles to be more inconvenient than costly but some people regard any unexpected expense as a stick-up at knifepoint. On balance, particularly for longer stays, Airbnb options have been both cost-saving and better fitting in terms of daily living. Alternatively, a hotel room prebooked for one night but retained, not cancelled, in the event that the Airbnb is not formally cancelled but check-in turns out to be a nonstarter. Again, this is more apt for first-timers content with trading off some cash for piece of mind related to a secure arrival. Hotels don’t fuss about single-night bookings and the wifi quality may facilitate the task of rebooking an Airbnb in the same city. If you have satisfactory host communication right before the threshold of hotel backup cancellation, the prospect of your Airbnb booking fruition is good. Crickets would be the red flag. I realize it may sound exhausting without even yet touching on sex tourism privileges where you shit shave shower. LOL

The closest you can get to a forecast is by communicating with the host ahead of time. But there are 2 levels of entertaining. One is an overnight guest; the other is a briefer visit by your guest. This difference calls for a different kind of inquiry on your part. You can ask whether you are permitted to have an overnight guest that is not on your booking. That may trigger the more stringent requirement of a formal registration, depending on the house rules. I certainly would not expect that I could have a few different guys sleep over during a trip. It is unlikely that you would be able to produce evidence to a concierge/security that a host endorses a free-for-all type of entertaining. Your capacity to hold a host to their word would be reduced because the host may not fully grasp your ask, and is not in charge of a premise’s overall security. My experience is limited because I sleep alone. One may also have a favourite place to book repeatedly and not wish to jeopardize a host’s receptivity to subsequent bookings, in the event that your sex tourism agenda is surmised. If you only plan the prerogative of a short visit by a local “friend” from time to time I would frame the inquiry very differently. Simply state that you have no plans for a group party but that you may want to have a friend in for a drink. Most hosts would likely be reluctant to restrict such an option. Explicitly ask if this type of light entertaining requires any formal step. Most hosts support the idea that, in contrast to a hotel, your stay is your home away from home. Naturally, they would also have likely scanned reviews about you, as a basis for trusting the innocuous and respectful nature of your use of previous bookings, but you may not have any precedents as a novel platform user. As one host put it to me regarding a visit of a few weeks, I am considered as a home renter and the conventional landlord-tenant terms of reference apply in spite of the platform intermediary role. This messaging was spontaneous, not at all connected to an inquiry on my part about 3rd party visitors I might invite. However, make sure that you record the mutual understanding of what is acceptable, eg screenshot of the internal messaging component of the app, in case a concierge or guard challenges you. Of course once you have spirited your friend into the unit there is little to stop you from entertaining until the next day. Any reputation liability would depend on the lodgings infrastructure. However, I would suggest seeing him off the premises the next day. It is unlikely the visit would have been tracked unless there had been a formal signing in. Many places are gated at the street entrance both entering and leaving anyway and you may need to use a key or fob to let him out, or cue a concierge/security to release the barrier, or you may decide to both go out for breakfast. Of course be aware of the optics in terms of what you look like (age, etc) in relation to the total unspecified quantity of nephews, grandsons, etc that enjoy a beer up in your unit when local drinking holes are typically an option.

But you are spread out one floor at a time I would think, in successive rotation. Every place has that one guy.

As also expressed by many a presently skittish nervous kitty cat in Sampa.

I wish some of them would discover rentmasseur, more a happy medium between explicit labour-defining ads for them and needing to second guess and sort for us. Most of them are thematically oriented to the salutary benefits of fitness, nutrition and pampering to begin with. They have more control over what can transpire on the table. Reviews therein tend to be very cryptic and a bit better support the avoidance of unfortunate commercial sex work stigmatization.

Though I warrant the libidinal warranty never seems to expire, as many here will warningly attest, en route to the final stiffie. You may relate to this: once a slut, always … 😉

Hmmmm guy from Recife I met on my recent April trip? Not too many from that neck of the woods. Have we finally shared the same DNA? Blood punters now? If so, will wonders never cease? Can’t fathom it. 😲😮🫢🤣

Your overall impression is similar to mine. Several weeks in Rio each of past 2 winters. I need to get away from northern cold and there is always the hope that a nice volume of impressive looking trade will make the travel distance worthwhile. Fortunately, the cost of living for extended vacationing there is very manageable and nonsexual aspects are fine, though getting rather same old same old routine. Expectations for access to guys that appeal has required some adjustment. Fewer and farther between but generally positive exchanges. Nobody that I absolutely need to repeat with. Not much evidence of “new crop” phenomena. I no longer experience withdrawal upon return home, no longer immediately look at flights to help in coping with missing the opportunities that used to have more ‘wow factor’ and contribute to the regret of leaving. If my home base was Europe I doubt that I would go to Brazil other than for seasonal southern hemisphere climate. I have no strong desire to return to Rio. That level of indifference would have been inconceivable several years ago.

Given a drink. 10 feet deep into a man hole. Shirtless. Covered in sludge. Account not adding up. Sounds like a clear cut case of ‘good night Cinderella’ imposed by a slutty local bottom on hapless tourist.

You pay venue costs when you check out, so you have not paid anything up front in your example. Your locker key number is tracked throughout the entrance trigger, bar, and room booking attendant’s computer systems. In contrast, you pay the escort in cash when your business with him is completed. This might be from cash you have on your person in the example where you prefer to be clothed when obtaining a room with him, or cash in your locker in the event you are wearing a towel unless like some clients you also carry a satchel, kit, etc, or from cash you keep in your locker even if clothed. Some of the escorts remain clothed in the common areas particularly in cooler weather there. I have never had a problem and in my experience the escorts are honest, but I wouldn’t flash a lot of cash in the private room and then leave all that to tempt the escort if you enter the shower cubicle while he is adjacent to your belongings. If you plan to shower in the room bring the towels issued upon entrance as most venues won’t have additional clean towels in the room. I start at R$100 escort fee for 55 minutes at Lagoa, as the attendant insists on a shower suite even if a 30 minute basic room is open. Oddly, the escorts push for the 55 minutes even after having agreed to a foreplay programa. Perhaps reflects confidence; typically not diffidence. For all I know it’s to assist the venue to uptick profit. I don’t mind the room upcharge and the shower is convenient for me and particularly the escort if he is in clothing and hadn’t used the public shower. I keep enough additional cash for optional upgrades depending on whether I want to progress beyond foreplay. I maintain enough overage so as not to kick myself for shorting an experience ultimately desired. This is all not to incentivize, through perhaps it does, as the foreplay is not lacklustre, and it’s not a workaround for possible erectile unreliability or for his goal to speed to conclusion. It’s more a case of being spared the hassle of determining the programa in a priori mode as opposed to in situ. I will go with a guy if I know foreplay at a minimum is desirable. Some of you may prefer to plan and evaluate an experience based on whether everything defined ahead of it rolled out satisfactorily, knowing upfront a scaling/cleaning and cavity drilling is the irrevocable intent. In my own business life transactions were always dyadic, not driven by arbitrary governance. I certainly never prevailed upon third party input to establish a one-on-one deal.

?He didn’t want it get dirty on any of the hotel furniture?

Is there a clang clang clang ding ding ding zing zing zing en route to St Louis? Have you ever made it past the park on your way to prayerful intentions?

Oh I think the rooms are for decaffeinated drinkers as they are more likely to need a nap. Everybody here has such a dirty one-track mind. Otherwise, wouldn’t it be named The Coffee Grindr?

And that’s why you are most likely to be nominated as specifically representative for Sampa Gay Pride parade flag-bearing each year.

More than that, you obviously just simply have the capacity to get it, at an adult developmental level, not just following suit. If my little niece has 20 smarties and asks me for an Oreo cookie, a teachable moment arises if I present 2 equal cookies. One costs 2 smarties; the other 10 smarties. Why? she asks. Because one is made at a Milwaukee factory and the other is made at a factory in a Brazil city. So? It is explained that she gets an allowance of $5 weekly for her piggy bank. Kids in Brazil get $1. Big Macs cost the same in Brazil (for the purpose of the discussion … they are actually 20% less). If she saves for a month she can buy 4 hamburgers. If a Brazil kid saves for a month, 1 hamburger is possible. Factory workers in Brazil are paid $3 per hour and those in Milwaukee $15. Whether it’s Milwaukee or Brazil the same number of cookies are made per hour. Who worked harder to make an Oreo cookie before you? Will you thank the Milwaukee factory worker more than the Brazil worker, or the other way around? Closing the loop. You can pay 2 smarties for the Brazil cookie on your left or 10 smarties for the Milwaukee cookie on your right. However, you may pay between 2 smarties and 10 smarties for the cookie on your left. It is your choice. Each cookie is the same, and yummy. Brazilian factory bakers get paid $1 to your $5 and their kids get an allowance $1 to your $5. Which cookie do you wish to trade smarties for? Brazilian factory workers accept if you pay 2 smarties. Many kids, many of your friends, would pay 2 smarties. Some will pay more because they think that is fair. For example, 3 smarties, donating 1 smartie, or you can keep 18 smarties and not just be lefts with 17 smarties. Extending optionally: Sweetie, if each cookie is given the same value, how many smarties are they worth? 2, 10, or a number of smarties in between. Optionally: Who is more likely the Hamburglar in this lesson.

Respect. You’re too modest to claim but you irrefutably have it down to an art, a complex and nuanced cut above, and actually don’t need to read or report on 💸for 🍆