RockHardNYC

I've always been spiritual. The nuns used to tell me I had the face and smile of an angel. I, too, was homeless and broke once: the first three weeks after I moved to NYC. I didn't know anyone here, so I lived with strangers in a Brooklyn house, far, far away from Manhattan. Two of the sons were hot, straight teenagers. One of them gave up his bunk bed for me. Both slept in their underwear. It was great fun watching them wake up with hard-ons in the morning. I had no serious money back then. I felt liberated being in NYC, but there was no joy in being broke. It was a challenge paying for theater tickets, and I had to see everything. I remained unemployed for almost a year, living on salad and bagels. I was a holding out for a dream job, and it took a long time before coming through. Eventually, it did. And more and more dream jobs came after that. Liberation for me is never worrying about money anymore. But, today, good health means the most.

There isn't enough money to make a homeless person content. I've done the research. All this place needs is a little visit from Benjamin Nicholas and Oliver Saks. Then it might stand a chance. As long as the TROLL is permitted to run amuck, there's little hope for either board.

You need some new weed.

Only one person here falls into that TROLL category.

You're smart.

Well, that's one way of looking at it. I'm glad the new links bring pleasure to your reading habits, Lucky. Unfortunately, I don't think it's possible to end the "juvenile waste of bandwidth." One person's shit-reading is another person's entertainment. I have no objection to organizing that makes good sense. Some of my favorite employees are great organizers. Certainly, getting theater reviews from the Ebert-wannabees out from the Lounge made perfect sense to me. I wouldn't have called the new forum "Comedy & Tragedy," but there are a lot of creative decisions made over there that I think are silly and amateurish. When I read about "The Arts," I think one forum is enough. The audience and membership isn't large enough "over there" to warrant a tree structure of folder hierarchy.

Good grief. The owner of the "other site" provides a service that many gay men enjoy. A few queens are addicted to it, including THE troll and his girlfriend Ann. And the service is FREE to most of the addicts, unless you fall for Daddy's donation trap. I have no desire to invite B into my friendship circle, but I'm human enough to realize he's worth more to some gay men than a foot-stomped cockroach.

Extraordinarily odd? Really? These are your words: "I responded with a blistering PM saying how utterly stupid, not to say commercially suicidal, that was to put an 'employee's' feelings and interests above those of the site's 'clients.' I shortly followed up with an even more hotly worded PM..." Granted, I didn't actually see the PMs. But am I wrong about the perception of the words in bold? I don't think so. I trust you know best about your motive and intent. I'm simply responding to the information, the words, you offered.

Thank you for the synopsis, AdamSmith. It's sounds like another "breakdown" event from "over there." B is a drama queen, and most likely a control freak. These are common ailments in the gay community. B sounds more desperate than ever, and he's no longer shy about sharing his desperate state. It really is difficult to see how that board can last. Life tends to get more difficult as we age. If cash flow is tight, whatever money you can get your hands on will go to the bare necessities, which need to be paid first. The financial future there does not hold promise. Many people claim privately that B is a mess, but they foolishly think the board will last forever. Nothing does. I noticed recently someone reorganized the Comedy & Tragedy Forum. Some cleaning nutcase, probably high on some fierce ganja, felt she had to go in and completely reorganize a closet. And she picked the Comedy & Tragedy Forum to make her mark. Closets are a great exercise in control. You get to pick and choose what goes where, and nobody can tell you otherwise. Forum design is nothing more than someone's closet. Many computer users feel they need to create a folder for every word or phrase they think of. After awhile, too many folders get created, and you can't find the simple information you're looking for. It's no longer fun to enter the closet and deal with its content. After the reorganization, I stopped visiting the Comedy & Tragedy forum. I had to dig too deep to find the information I wanted to read. IMO, the name Comedy & Tragedy should have simply been changed to THE ARTS. No sub forums were necessary. Let the titles of the threads speak for themselves. Simple and easy. But no, some control-freak queen had to reorganize a closet and build new sub-folders, and force everybody else to succumb to her reorganization effort. That's the way a control freak behaves. In the meantime, she left out Dance: Modern, Ballet, and Jazz. She left out Art, Design, and Architecture. And she left out Books and Music. IMO, she can go fuck herself with her incomplete, amateurish organization skills. Truthfully speaking, some queens can't get enough folder configurations. They like the new forum folders and probably want more. It offers the board addicts more places to play. When it comes to design, I'm a less-is-more kind of guy. Keep things SIMPLE. Too many categories = distracting CLUTTER. I hate a messy house. I understand you may need some categories, but certain boards take their closet clutter too seriously. AdamSmith, isn't that what a personal blog is for? A public forum is not intended to be your personal blog. B cuts a lot of leeway, because he doesn't know how to properly run a successful board. He never has and never will. To run a board successfully, you need to know how to manage personalities. You need moderators you can teach. You need to be willing to put in the work. B has none of the skills required to run a successful board. You get what exists. Period. And numerous queens take advantage of B's incompetence and lazy ways, much like we take advantage of Oz with threads about the "other place." Again, what was your point to clutter a music thread with useless noise and bandwidth waste? B allows this shit, and users get away with it, most of the time. Personally, I think the video clips and the gifs should be kept to a minimum to conserve bandwidth, unless the owner charges a membership fee. They should not be used to clutter the place with noise or used to throw snark at other members. Gifs are for cheap-shooter trolls who think they're clever, entertainment masters. They're not. They're a bunch of lazy pussies, IMO, who can't use their brains to express an original thought. Good luck trying to figure out the "for some strange reason." Control would be my answer. You cluttered your thread with useless, off-topic noise, and some control-freak queen freaked out and went on a cleaning rampage. ("No more wire hangers!") Everyone who follows you, AdamSmith, knows you can be obstinate and button-pushing, among all your finer traits. Throwing more fuel on a fire creates a larger flame. You are an adult and should know this by now. Being banned for a day is a warning: "DON'T FUCK WITH MY CLOSET!" Was it really necessary to get "incensed" over a day's banning? (They used to make me chuckle.) From everything I've seen, I think Cooper is a pussy. Several men have met him off-board and claim to like him. I trust some of these men, and I realize you can't fully judge a man's character by his forum personality. However, what I see is a Republican-voting queen who gets off on sticking dollar bills in male stripper's ass cracks. It's a disturbing vision. Calling B, or anybody, "stupid" is not a smart way to win anyone over to your side of an argument or debate. Again, you surprise me, AdamSmith. B will tolerate a queen's "hot words" up to a point. Like I keep saying over and over again, every queen has her limits. Since your fans know your way with words, AdamSmith, I shudder to think how it must have felt to be on the receiving end of your wrath. I'm sure I would have personally enjoyed your emotionally charged slap-fest with B, but given your verdict, I can only assume B did not. And you got the boot. He showed you who's BOSS of his site. As Lucky and I can reassure you, life goes on after B's rejection. In the scheme of things, it's small potatoes. He's a very small entity. As gay men who enjoy the repartee of other gay men, especially gay men who enjoy the company of escorts, we're never going to be fully satisfied until someone creates a true gentleman's club, owned and operated by a true gentleman. Didn't your mother ever tell you, a good man is hard to find?

Hell no. But I know quality drama when I see it. The self-inflicted kind is so common and tiring among a certain type of queen. That's why you see "NO DRAMA" in so many ads on Craigslist.

That thread is quickly looking like an anti-admin pile-on. Let's not kid ourselves, the owner may have multiple usernames, but there is only one GRINCH, and the Christmas programming has already begun. Some of you queens really love your self-inflicted drama.

I don't view opposing commentary or differing opinion as an argument. IME, three replies does not define promise "over there." I predict the thread will get pulled and you might find out the threshold of your luck.

Many of us are familiar with the "friendly warnings." As I said earlier, possibly on another thread, every queen has her limits. You'll know when the friendly warnings turn into a closed account. Eventually, the outspoken make this discovery.

One has to remember, B is a HUGE fan of RuPaul's Drag Race. No one knows true evil like the evil of a drag queen scorned. Once a drag queen lover, always a drag queen lover. Most wish they could be fabulous drag queens. "Be careful" is good advice.

Wow. I've never heard anyone complain about that before. You must have really put a sledgehammer to his kneecap. From my personal experience with B, once he's finished with you, like Lucky, JD, and me, it's OVAH. Still, if you want to rejoin or just have access to the site, get a new IP address. It's not that difficult. I can totally understand your missing the "bottomless stupidities." I don't miss them.

I thought this post was about the massage site. I just tried the "other site" and it seems to be working OK. Others have figured that out already. I think it may be more than fifteen years, and I'm glad you're not in denial about your feelings. It's good that you seem to be willing to talk about them. It seems to me, the owner of the "other site" is a fairly reasonable guy with a ton of patience (on a day when he's not on-the-rag). Ask Lucky. B has forgiven a ton of nasty trolls through the years, including the current plague. He has forgiven some more than once. I should know, I was banned at least three times before it became permanent. Is your ban permanent? My goodness, he forgave Rick Munroe after that fiasco he caused. I've heard, all you have to do is write him and sound contrite, which is not something I could ever do, but others don't seem to have a problem. I can't imagine what you did to deserve the boot, but was it so bad you can't be forgiven? One of my bans lasted a year, but I didn't care. Unlike certain trolls, I don't get addicted to anything. If you miss the site as much as you say, then why not join all the others who simply created a new username? Your voice is yours and I believe it has respect, I see no need to disguise or silence it. My gut is telling me you're clever enough to create another clever username. Or do you enjoy feeling sorry for yourself?

AdamSmith, I have no idea what you're smoking these days. I hope B didn't zap your keen sense of humor by giving you the cane, and I hope all is OK in your life. Come to think of it, if the memory still works, I think B is a fan of the sci-fi genre. Seems like the two of you could have been sisters.

If we do anymore "ignoring" around here, the site will be on life-support with Oz chatting with a troll. Um, wait a minute...

You got that right.

Just goes to show how out of the loop I am on the "forum" scene. I had no idea you went missing from "over there." I confess, my forum reading has lessened. Too busy doing other fun and outrageous things. I certainly know what it's like to force B to blow a gasket, when he'd rather be blowing JD. I can't imagine what you did, AdamSmith, to bring on the Lucky treatment. Are you saying you did nothing to deserve the rhinestoned Las Vegas boot up your ass? No responsibility at all? I seriously pushed the old, fat, broke girl to her limit. Everyone has a limit, and we gays often like to test it. Madonna is certainly testing hers by launching a new cosmetic company, MDMA, and looking totally ridiculous in the process. She's had two facelifts and still has a face bursting with Botox and fillers. Who wants to wear make-up created by an old woman with too much cosmetic surgery? She's almost as scary as Cher, but you don't see Cher desperate enough to hawk one more make-up line that nobody needs. Getting back on topic... Frankly, I'm surprised B had as much patience for me as she exhibited. Had I been the owner of the "other site," I would have banned me years earlier. Perhaps it's weird, but I can't help but admire the guy for doing something I had been begging him to do for so long: clean up his board before the TROLL behavior destroys it. Still, AdamSmith, I've never been much for vindictiveness. I'm a let-bygones-be-bygones kind of gal. That's why Lucky and I are such good friends after all the ugly, cunt-like barbs that bitch has hurled my way. I think vindictiveness is unattractive in a man. You, sir, surprised me.

Many of us did behave differently before Anita Hill. I've always worked in the presence of horny gay men, and most of us viewed "touching" as a special right, being members of an exclusive club. As a successful businessman, I've always been in a position of power. I was never predatory, and no one ever lost his job because he rejected my advances. The thought never occurred to me. I never took my power or sex that seriously. Most of the guys I "touched" (and touched me back) were around my age. But I certainly did things in my 20's and 30's, on the job, that would not be done today. Now, gay men have to be very careful in a business setting. It will get more restrictive moving forward. The "special club" from my past may no longer exist.

He's looking more and more like Tommy Tune. Aging is so unkind to most of us.

Adam Smith, your lack of discretion is surprising. Posting the WhoIs info seems extraordinarily vindictive. Was not aware that you held such contempt for B. On the other hand, if he had a little more money, maybe he could afford a "private" ICANN listing. Or perhaps he views the WhoIs as a form of advertising for his LLC. I wonder if anyone has ever tried to call the Admin Phone Number? Perhaps JD would answer.

The photo you posted is a bit provocative. It's especially enticing for those of us who enjoy an armpit licking fantasy. You can almost imagine someone below licking River's ass as the camera's shutter clicked. The photo sort of reminds me of early 80's porn, perhaps conjuring William Higgins. When I lived in L.A., it seems this look was a dime a dozen on Santa Monica Boulevard. Since blonds were always my thing, I have fond memories of sharing my convertible with a few of these guys back then.

Sorry, I somehow missed that disclaimer. I confess, I often overlook other posts. There tends to be a lot of noise over here, so I sometimes scroll too fast. Sort of like walking through a bed of hot coals. It's too bad Kevin had to take such a hard fall, but it was just a matter of time before one of the Hollywood gays would take a serious hit. Staying tuned...