SolaceSoul

You should just give him the URL to this message board.

Is that at once or total in one night?

I am over 40 and don’t refer to sexual partners as boys. Sorry. Also, there is a big difference between someone using the term “boys” with a group of adult guys they are already familiar or friendly with (“hanging out with the boys”, “having drinks with the boys”, etc.”), and staying, in clear language and in print, “having sex with boys”.

“Boys”? I hope you are referring exclusively to young men that are over the age of 18. Because a “boy” is a child. In Brazil, the term “boy” is used (in both its Portuguese “garoto” and the English “boy”) to refer to an adult male who prostitutes himself, whether at a sauna, as a “kept man”, or as a self-contractor through ads or on the streets. I am not familiar with the term “boy” used that way in Spanish-speaking (as is Colombia) or in English-speaking countries. But in the USA, calling a black or brown man a “boy” is considered offensive and can be fighting words. Regarding the question of how many working adult-age MEN (or garotos) I have had in one day in Brazil, my record might be five in one day (separately). Non-working, three.

Seriously. What does he want? Microscopic views of penises and anuses? That’s about the only detail that hasn’t been shared here publicly!

My observations would be that even a younger (or younger-appearing) gringo would not be safe roaming around alone at night in certain areas of the Santo Domingo and the DR. I think what you’re suggesting might be poor advice for the less well-traveled. There are areas in SD like Naco that are like the Dominican Beverly Hills. There are also plenty other areas, especially in SD Este, where going alone and roaming around at night would be AYOR. Again, this is NOT appropriate advice to dispense to readers who are unfamiliar with the city or the island. I would agree that a black man of any age walking around at night in a predominantly black neighborhood south of Grant Park in Atlanta, during pre-gentrification, would not be very problematic at all. However, most readers here aren’t black men in their late 20s (or aren’t even purporting to be). So, their levels of risk — whether real or perceived — would be different from yours. After all, there are posters here who think it’s a grand idea to dress like a New England preppy and flash $5000 watches in the Colonial Zone! You have stated in the past that the rewards of the prison sex trips for you outweighed the risks, and that you also take the risk to get cocaine from locals in foreign countries — so clearly, your levels of risk-taking might be higher than the average reader or traveler here. Just to let you know, even my Dominicano amigos who roll around the city carry pistols for protection. BTW, there is a good reason that those “loud black queens” at Pacos that you discussed in earlier posts are always in a gaggle together. It’s because, even for them, there is safety in numbers. For those of us who often travel solo, we may need to be more circumspect. This isn’t meant to be a personal attack on you at all, in spite of how you may receive it. It’s that, as you said, we clearly have different perspectives and assessments of risk. I’d love to hear the perspective of someone like @paborn on this.

Um, shots fired? Not a white guy here and not yet 50. Does that count? I have been going to both the DR and Brazil regularly for over a decade. I have plenty of friends and colleagues in both places and have stayed in both for extended periods of time — and I have never heard or seen any discussions about being at the beaches in the DR after dark. If you’re staying in Santo Domingo, you’re about 30 minutes from the closest well-attended beach (Boca Chica). The one off El Malecon? My guess would be that cruising that park after dark would be risky. Maybe @paborn could provide more insight on that? My understanding is that any unattended beach (meaning not well-traveled, no vendors) after dark would be high risk. Of course, that does NOT include resort beaches — as they are privatized and monitored. Honestly, if that’s the case, then in that respect, DR beaches and Rio beaches share similar night risks. Regarding ATMs at night in the DR, if you’re referring to Santo Domingo, and more specifically, Zona Colonial, at night, after the stores like the supermarket on the Condé close, there’s only one nearby ATM that remains open — and that’s the one at the bank on the west side of Independence Park, which stays open 24/7 and usually has a security guard. That’s the only reason it is safe to go there. ATMs in Rio — if you find a 24 Horas one, like the ones in Metro stations — are equally as safe. The one thing that ATMs in both countries have is similar risk of use. I would never suggest either is completely safe, as there is risk in both. Quite frankly, venturing out on foot too far outside of certain well-traveled, well-lit, families, common areas in Santo Domingo after dark is a fool’s errand — just as it is in Rio. Your skin complexion may provide you with a bit more protection to venture outside those boundaries, but only so much, if you don’t speak the language fluently, you look out of place (gringos can easily be spotted), and you’re not there with known residents. Zona Colonial is pretty much known as a landing spot for tourists and expats, but even parts within it can be dicey and risky.

It was a topic here a few months ago. The trips were in the DR. Dominican prisons are no safer than Brazilian prisons, and are equally as corrupt and both are run by organized crime / gangs.

In case some posters here, after reading some recent posts about Latin American prison sex trips, might be thinking, “gee, maybe someone can set up a visit to a Brazilian prison so I can get a good romp!” You might want to rethink that idea! (Note: it’s really not a good idea in any LATAM jail / prison, anyway — in case you don’t get sarcasm). https://www.cbsnews.com/news/brazil-prison-riot-dozens-dead-and-16-decapitated-alatmira-prison-para-state-2019-07-30/?ftag=CNM-00-10aag7e

SmartFit is a nice commercial gym (with great equipment and nice eye candy). But if you want a free gym / workout experience overlooking the beach / ocean (with just as much eye candy potential), simply go to the outdoor gym at Arpoador (edge of Copacabana and Ipanema, near Posto 7). I call it “The Flintstones Gym” because all of the weights are made of concrete. There are also a free beach gym at Posto 12 in Leblon

Gringo Cafe in Ipanema is great! It was right down the street from my last few apartments. It is one of the few places in Rio that actually gets American comfort food right. The TV is always on an American station. And the piped-in 80s music is the best! It’s not a common place for brasileiros, however. You’ll find many expats eating there, plus foreigners who have visited or lived in USA and a handful of tourists. I often try to take my favorite Brazilian boyfriends there to give them a taste of well-prepared American comfort food (which, believe it or not, many have never before experienced). But I try not to go there too much, because when I travel abroad, I aim to immerse myself in their culture. But yes, introducing Brazilians to (a good part of) American culture can be exhilarating as well!

This isn’t foolproof. When I have booked through AirBnB recently in Ipanema and Copa near Ipanema Beach, I encountered quite a few listings that restricted visitors. Of course, I did not stay at any of those places! The best advice is to, before booking: (1) review the house rules of each rental, and (2) contact the host to confirm the visitor policy. My personal policy is that if the visitor policy is not liberal enough for me, I won’t book.

Mondays at 202 are equal to or better than Wednesdays, and it’s been that way for a few years. It may have been that when Meio Mundo was open, the clients that liked less muscular guys (boy next door types, and twinks) would go there on Mondays instead. 202 has for years gotten the 117 crowd that day (since 117 is closed on Mondays), and has had some spill over with both garotos and clients. I suppose it’s up for debate if Monday or Wednesday is better at 202. Both nights offer free rooms. It will certainly be interesting to see if the new Lions Club can change — or add to — this weekly schedule.

Bluto. I’d hit that! That fug toothpick Olive Oyl had a voice that could remove chrome from a bumper.

As usual, you need to work on your deductional reasoning abilities, Gabby. I wouldn’t be caught dead vacationing in, much less living in, Florida. I’m not one of those New York snowbirds.

No need to be so coy and shy, Rioblather. By “seasoned readers”, you’re only referring to yourself and Lucky. You two are the only sensitive hit dogs that holler whenever the subject of garotos being attracted to the money not the man holding it pops up.

And as a side note, how TF did that fug greasy bag of bones Olive Oyl always get two men to physically fight for her affection? Popeye AND Brutus / Bluto? That purse must’ve had some serious gold coins.

Big problem in Honduras as well. If you’re connected, there are plenty of men to fuck or who will get fucked — but too many danger and too much murder.

Oh, dear. It wasn’t meant as an attack on you, but it sure says a lot that you took it that way. Enjoy your marriage.

This is very common and should be nothing to be alarmed about. In most cases, the garotos are not as upset about clients seeing other garotos in the sauna as they would have you think. They know it’s part of the routine — and in most cases, are hoping that their passionate show of displeasure or jealousy will convince a client to believe they are into them far more than they really are, and they will eventually get back the business. It’s part of the sell. No one’s going to fight over you like some scene out of an old Popeye cartoon.

If you take the steps that you laid out, and only bring one guest back to your place at a time, you should be fine. I say “should” because nothing is foolproof. On your first trip, as a pasty white gringo, even with a little Spanish on your tongue, you’re probably much safer at one of the hotels that is accustomed to sex tourists in the Colonial Zone (the Romas, Discovery, etc.) than an apartment. These hotels also take copies of or keep the cedulas while the visitor is in the room. In most cases, as an added safety precaution, you can tell the front desk not to return the ID until you come down with the visitor for him to retrieve it.

This is probably a universally safe approach to taking tricks back to your hotel room / apartment.

Oh well, I tried. As my late grandmother always said, “advice is what people hear when they end up doing what they want to do, anyway”. Enjoy continuing your life of misery.

As usual, Rioblather, you’re overthinking the problem. Relax, relate, release!

Usual blathering pomposity aside, your reasoning here seems ridiculous to me. If a provider doesn’t bring you something you like, tell him so and be specific. In most cases, he will try harder to bring someone who meets your needs (unless your needs are unreasonable). And if he cannot find what you like, find another service provider. My first procurer in the DR was Freddy, more than a few years back. Nice enough guy for a first-time visitor on a short trip. His first few introductions were on point for me. However, after a while, for me, he ran out of steam. I soon determined that what he specializes in just ain’t my type. And that’s OK. He’d be great for plenty of others — he seems to be an endless source of young twinkle types. But after a few initial intros to great muscley guys, all he brought me were Twinkletoes, in spite of my direct requests. That was the end of our business dealings. No hard feelings.