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There’s lots of good advice here from various posters. But I want to applaud @likeohmygod for taking the time to detail his experience and to acknowledge openly how easily things can go wrong. It’s good to remind us all that bad things can happen to good guys. My guess is that almost all of us (with a certain experience of hiring companions in various places over the years) will have had something similar occur.

Full of himself, cocky and rude...would about cover it. I don't know him personally but I have several Brazilian friends (1 actor, 5 models and personal trainers) who work full-time. I was with a group of them, having a good time over drinks, when I met him. I didn't recognise him until I was told his name, and then I remembered him as a young man. I can read Portuguese but I cannot follow it when spoken, so I have to rely on what 2 of my friends said. To be precise, one friend commented on how casually insulting EN was and I later confirmed this with the other friend. His casual remarks or insult centred on my being an old man and so the friend I'm close to must be a whore, sucking my cock for my money etc. My friend countered that he enjoyed being with me and that he had stayed with me in Europe on holiday. I had the impression that this exacerbated matters and that EN was simply jealous of the success of some of my friends. AFAIK, EN is still in Brazil and gets little work as a model.

I saw EN a few (maybe 5) years ago. He's filled out now, so no longer lean and ripped, but he's muscled up. He's no longer built to my taste but many would consider him attractive still. What I found unattractive about him was his obnoxious attitude - two Brazilian friends confirmed that he was similar when younger but then he hid it better

Have you registered with the site? And logged in correctly? AFAIK if you're not logged in and are a casual visitor, you are only not able to see the Photos aka Porn forum

I take issue with what you wrote @trencherman ‘de mortuis nihil nisi bonum’ Of course, you may not be aware that Roberto died in a domestic accident a few years ago. He was always a good friend to me - keeping in touch between my visits to Argentina, giving dinner parties for me when I was there, introducing me to his friends etc - and I was happy to reciprocate when he visited Europe. AFAIK Roberto did not cease to be a friend when Tri “lost everything” (as you put it). Rather he never considered Tri to be a friend. Tri was merely an acquaintance, and made use of Roberto’s contacts in Buenos Aires. Roberto commented that he never understood Tri and what he did, and he assured me that he had seriously warned Tri about getting involved with the young Brazilian. Roberto related a number of incidents that had convinced him the young man was only there to make use of Tri and, what were to a dirt-poor Brazilian, his economic advantages.

You’re right @Walker but I would add ice-cubes to the list of things to avoid.

As usual @Tomcal hits the nail on the head. Roberto of Buenos Aires and I were friends. He knew all the details (as Tri considered him a friend, tho Roberto told me they were not) and he was scathing about what he considered to be the folly on Tri’s part. Even before the break-up, he told me the Brazilian had met a German (IIRC) in Rio; the German was enamoured of him and took him on vacation in Europe. I know of a similar folly. A retired Army officer went on holiday to Rio and came back with a slim young man (some 25-30 years younger). Installed in a comfortable home in Europe and taken care of, the young man indulged in all the desserts, cake and ice-cream he’d never had as a child. It took less than 2 years for the slim young man to turn into a blob, and that killed the retired older man’s desire for him.

This is not a scientific survey, but... I was in Berlin for a week in August. For a large capital city in Summer, I was surprised that there were so few attractive young men. Only a couple of men could be considered physically splendid. Most young men were simply not in shape. Somehow I had thought that I'd see many guys with the same level of physical fitness and beauty as is usual in London, LA and Sydney.

Thanks for taking the time to report @Badboy81 . I found your observations and comments interesting. Where do you feel you might prefer to stay on your next trip to Rio?

Sorry to hear of your medical problem @Tomcal and I hope you are feeling much better now. It's a very common condition if you're over 50. I too was diagnosed with it early this year. You're right in that if surgery is needed, it's minimally invasive. In my case, the hernia (or opening) is so tiny that it's below the minimum size for the operation. I control the symptom of heartburn by diet (no fatty/fried/spicy foods, less alcohol, no citrus etc) and that seems to work for me. The Mayo Clinic website is very helpful. And one last comment on your observation about comparative healthcare costs: in the UK, I saw my family Dr on a Friday morning and had the gastroscopy in a central London hospital on the Tuesday afternoon; including the final discussion with the specialist consultant on how to manage the condition, it was 2 hours in the hospital; total cost NIL.

@marylander1940 Where do you plan to spend the Southern Hemisphere winters? I enjoy Jose Ignacio very much in the Summer as it is both very relaxed and highly social...depending on what you want. I don't care for Punta del Este otherwise very much, although there is good shopping. FWIW I found Montevideo dull on a brief visit a few years ago. I was told good and bad reports. Local gay friends have told me it's easy to meet young men if you are generous and sociable. The bad news came from the BBC correspondent in Uruguay whose parents live in Montevideo; she informed me that there was an increasing level of street crime and domestic burglaries.

I entirely agree with you @tassojunior I still recall how shocked I was when I met Tim Hamilton in London years ago; with his flabby belly and thinning hair, he was not the blond Adonis of the films.

On the two holiday trips I know about, Dolph was very gay-friendly and flying solo; the fiance was left at home.

I agree that it's a wonderful film. I said so on the other site when I saw it some months ago on general release in the UK. I think the sex scenes are particularly realistic. It should be borne in mind that it's an independent film made in the UK on a very limited budget.

Given the difficulties I've endured with some taxi-drivers in various countries when travelling around the world, I find Uber a godsend.

While Dolph Lambert has his (female) fiance and spends his holidays visiting Elton John in the South of France ;-)

Where in Rio are you staying @caeron?

I'm bemused that Bar Fama Inflama has a Facebook page where it is described as follows "CASA NOTURNA LGBT LOCAL FREQUENTADO POR ESCORT BOYS COM SHOWS VARIADOS DE GOGOS, DRAGS, TRANSFORMISTAS,CARICATAS"

That seems grotesque to me. Having played over the years with numerous handsome and fit-bodied young men, I'm quite sure that there is no correlation between the intensity of the pleasurable encounter and the price paid.

Times are changing: I can think immediately of 5 male models who offer sex-for-pay discreetly and also of 2 fashion models who performed in gay porn movies.

FWIW my approach with meetings/dates was always to specify a time and emphasise I meant "la hora britanica". This term is widely understood in Brazil and Argentina to convey that they had to be punctual. For first-time meetings in a public place, I'd also specify that I would wait no more than 10minutes. Generally speaking, guys arrived more or less on time.

Thank you @Latbear4blk for your detailed and interesting reports. May I ask you to comment on the crime situation (or "insecurity" as locals termed it) in Buenos Aires. When I was last there on a long visit several years ago, crime had escalated and spread into good areas. Women were having their handbags snatched in broad daylight in the exclusive zone of Avenida Alvear; there were muggings at knife-point in Recoleta during the day (I saw two); and there were armed robberies at night of apartments in very good areas (I know of 2 families robbed in this way). Couples and families were even going out to dinner earlier to avoid problems later. At that time, I was advised never to take public transport as pickpocketing was rife on the 'subte' or metro. I appreciate that you do not stand out from locals and you speak the language, but I wonder how you think foreign visitors would fare currently.

He certainly looks hot in those briefs. If @Tomcal comments positively on the young man's attitude towards customer-service and willingness to please, I guess he may do rather well in Europe ;-)

I don't know @caeron if you've spent time in South Africa before. It's a great country and I visited many times in more than 20 years, but the staggering beauty is only matched by the high level of crime that is ferociously violent. Please stay alert, take good care and enjoy your visit.

It seems rather subversive. I like the idea it’s promoting - that real men inhale deeply the smell of a jockstrap