Lucky

RockHard's user name seems like a play on a penis, but more likely it is his heart that is rock hard! He has zero compassion for anyone other than himself. Of course, Rock Hard could mean a solid stone for a brain! It's only capable of insults.

RockHard, nothing is stopping you from giving Oz money for each new username approval!

Heidi has been such a mainstay of the gay community and done so much for us that it's great to see a whole thread in her honor right here on boytoy.

We have people posting here who dress in drag? I didn't know that.

Has it not occurred to you that I just wanted to know? Why assume nefarious motives?

So some will not find reconciliation with what happened. I don't really expect everyone to as some really arbitrary things did happen. Just last week Latbear4blk got a timeout for reasons which escape me. (But then, he plans to return to posting there.) So I guess for those of you are not moving on, we should have a Daddy Box like the Sand Box where people can complain ad infinitum about Daddy...or even daddy!

There is more going on here than Daddy saying All Lives Matter. You guys seem to have years of built up contempt for the things that happened when you posted on his site. Naturally I think timeouts are not deserved for pointing out someone else's attacks. I also had my share of timeouts. But am I going to carry that with me going forward? How long? When we see people trying to bring others together to understand that Black Lives Matter, it seems we need to bring ourselves together as well. Rock Hard accurately points out that some pretty bitter exchanges occurred in earlier days. But either you devote yourself to this site going forward, or you try to reconcile past grievances with the other site. Options beyond that? I am all ears.

Is that supposed to be a response to my question?

Did the guy actually have a police scanner in his possession, or is that fake news?

Personal attacks on you for your politics, race, etc. are all unwarranted. Moderators need to be aware, but isn't it your job to make sure they are? I think Oz has a policy that the smeared individual must make the complaint, or else he won't entertain it. The idea being that if the smeared individual isn't concerned, why should anyone else be? I don't agree with that, and Oz may not either. It's something I think he expressed once. I would certainly not mind being corrected. This is an instance, or series of instances, where all of us should speak up.

So there are two areas of complaint here? I know you will let me know if I am wrong... 1) Daddy posted that all lives matter. That's an opinion, one most of us find to be uneducated. He does not seem to appreciate that black lives matter less in many contexts. because of racism and police oppression. One wonders where he has been. Were there no blacks in Seattle; Vegas? If anything, the widespread, world-wide protests should have sparked some curiosity in him as to why we say Black Lives Matter. Does having this opinion make him a bad person? By itself, I don't think so. When I hear All Lives Matter, I hear someone crying out to be educated. Hopefully they want justice for all lives, and it's black lives that are suffering in the precincts of justice, and have been for decades. 2) Our white privilege has seen protests before. We might make some noise about justice, but for the most part whites have been content to let life settle back into its old norms once the protest ends. The challenge now is to prevent that. Many of us need to be educated on white privilege, or helped to see it in our lives. For my thinking, this movement is the strongest one I have seen in my life. There is a real chance for change. It's world-wide. It may be younger people who move it forward, but we all have to make some effort. We can write people in power to keep the movement going, not to let down. We can remain vocal, and we can try to identify how we indulge our privilege. We must learn to share privilege with everyone. IMHO, Daddy just needs some educating. Calling him names or mocking his looks detracts from any sincere effort to move him forward on this topic. I assume that he doesn't want to be guided by old-fashioned views. He needs to show a willingness to open his mind and listen. But then, don't we all?

Like who?

Don't try this at home! A penis cannot charge your phone! https://nypost.com/2020/06/09/indian-man-undergoes-surgery-after-inserting-phone-charger-into-penis/ No photo is available. Would you actually want to see it? Actually, I googled it, and there definitely are photos. Hard to look at though.

Wow! Those of us feeling deprived because Bangkok is closed to tourists can take delight in this wonderful report from Totally Oz. Thanks joshhartz123 for resurrecting it! And, of course, thanks to Oz for writing something in 2004 that would be such a satisfying pandemic read!

Would that not be the question? I dunno. You tell me!

Another topic for another thread! As a blogger, you will find the story interesting.

Latbear4blk, don't be too hard on yourself. You made the effort, you engaged the discussion. What I think is different this time is the very thing you brought up early on- white privilege. I think many white people are finally seeing for the first time what a role that privilege plays in keeping things from improving. Just today I got an email challenging me, and others, to determine what practical steps we can take to make sure real change happens now. Partly because of disgust with Trump, people see things in the US as at a critical stage. Act now. Maybe it will be the children like you saw rally today that lead us, but there will be leadership, and, I think, real change.

Absent your acceptance of my truce offer, there is no truce.

Poor RockHard. He couldn't win me over as an ally, and he cannot support his argument that I am unpopular. Let's face it.In over 20 years of posting one is bound to ruffle feathers, and I have. Yet most of those folks continue to either like me or tolerate me. Some don't. There is no continuing animosity among board veterans still posting except for RockHard. He doesn't seem to like anyone whom he cannot dominate. RockHard is a smart guy. He can make some great arguments and I often agree with him. But he loves to insult and loves to tell others what to do. Years ago, he and I were on friendly terms. I visit New York often and offered more than once to get together with him. He hemmed and hawed, and once even said his son didn't think it was a good idea. I suggested maybe I should meet his son to show him how harmless I am. There was no sexual connotation to it. I don't know if he even has a son. I don't even know if he lives in New York. I don't know if he actually has any connection to Hollywood, even on the fringes. He has built a character here without any real proof that he is telling the truth. I do believe that he masturbates a lot on Newtumbl.com, and I believe that he takes vacations to Sardinia or wherever in Italy he says. He has actually posted pix of that. Because I have met almost 100 men who post on the boards, people do know me for better or worse. I started the Palm Springs Weekend and people came. Oliver later helped turn it into an even bigger event. So knowing who I am as Lucky is easy. Like me or not, I am here to entertain myself, not you or RockHard. Finally, in a time of pandemic and systemic oppression of people of color, a time when whites are finally beginning to cope with the idea of white privilege and how it is used to prevent change, it seems odd to have a petty squabble with a poster here. I offer a truce to RockHard, in the spirit of the times and because there are just so many more important things to talk about.

That's why, in reality and where possible, it is best to go to a place where you can meet and interact with the guy first. A sauna or strip club usually did the job.

I went to that website to see this for myself. Wow! It's pretty outrageous to single out the guy leading the argument against your point and tell him to give it a rest. Why? What was "Guy" worried about- that he is losing the argument. Speaking of arguments, there is an old saying in the courtroom. "When the facts are on your side, argue the facts. When the law is on your side, argue the law. When neither is on your side, pound the table." Nowhere is insulting your opponent considered a good argument.

Was there a time when one could call an agency, tell them what kind of guy you liked, and he would appear shortly after at your door? Wow!

Can't imagine why Oz would want the story of his head out the window being relegated to the Sand Box! Think of it- a good fuck and a great view!

You first!

Queen hypocrite would be you BigEgo. You say you don't support discriminating against people because of the color of their skin, but you have no problem being hateful toward a man because of the condition of his skin. Hypocrite! You claim that you have fat friends, but scorn the idea of them as sexual beings. Hypocrite! You pretend to ignore me, but you don't miss a word I write. Hypocrite!