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marcolastrauman, thank you for your support, your encouraging words. I have to confess that my post above was not written with too much seriousness, like the previous post it replies to. All this comes about some discussion a short time ago, when some members strongly criticized others who were not admiring the pictures of big muscle men, but had some criticism for them. The charges were lack of respect for those who enjoy big men, trying to promote one's own taste with disregards for others, etc. I hope that a bit of humor will convince those who want a rigid protocol that this gay forum of limited audience is a good place to discuss what types of boys, men we like and dislike. If not here, where else? Like you, I will dedicate all the desires I have left, which are many, to the narrow selective kind of slim fit young gays I like, and no one has any say in this. People should be free to criticize me for this, make any kind or unkind comment, and I happily will reply in kind. It seems.that it is easier to satisfy our desires for twinks, slim fit young gays than it is to satisfy desires for big guys. Does it seem that only Tawan Bar is a paradise with big guys, while there are tens of places for slim guys to be had? I have a theory: the slim young gays simply appear by the procreative power of nature, but the big muscular guys need gyms with plenty of weights and much sweat to build the muscles. Therefore there are fewer of these.

Alizizou, thank you for your sympathy, it much helps me live with my self-pity. The realization that I am not into big guys has brought me to the edge of suicide. After so many years of lusting intensely for cute twinks and other slim boys with impeccable smooth skin and hairless bodies, of holding them in my arms and cumming all over them feeling like the strong man making love to delicate sensitive creatures I make wild with my love, i realize that I cannot change to an attraction to big bodies with abundance of brawn and ample mass that offer more inertia to my passion and scratch me with some tough hair sticking out of their rough skin. How much I regret not being sufficiently flexible to make love to any warm body in the kingdom of live creatures. I am so picky, so discriminating, so miserable!

I have no interest in the pictures, but I have a question: Can these pictures be any nicer than the pictures Vinapu and others post on the thread "Some Model Photoshots"? These pictures even turn me on, and I'm not into big guys...

I basically agree with your post, and I think that it shows good will. . I also have a few thoughts about it: We have much less knowledge than we usually think we have, and we are outsiders in nearly everything. But I find it too restrictive to limit our opinions to subjects we have much knowledge as insiders. No one is perfect, and often our opinions are wrong. But they are OPINIONS, not impositions, dictates, laws. A forum like this one offers opportunities to discuss the opinions perceived as wrong, and it is not necessary to demonize wrong opinions.but simply argue against them. It is said that from the discussion comes the light If we want to consider inappropriate to jump to conclusions too readily when judging someone's honesty and good faith, this should also apply to the judgement of the honesty and good faith... of the holder of opinions that we think are wrong. And try to keep the conversation civil.

I had sufficient empathy to answer his post right away, 2nd post of the thread, since he said he was suffering. I didn't see it as that either, until he got all upset because I inquired about his Thai boyfriend. He was very happy to receive everyone's sympathy, but my sympathy for his Thai BF he could not tolerate. He should have answered that the BF was OK, taken care of, or whatever. Especially since he said that people here know his Thai BF. I am a stranger in this issue, but... you people were not interested about the fate of him too ??? If you are his friend and you defend him, this is fine. But he is a stranger to me and I don't like to be attacked, especially when I feel that I am doing the right thing. Tell your friend that he should not call other members "trolls" because he is afraid of facing a reasonable post.

Can you please explain why I am "trolling" these forums while you are not ?? What "offensive comments" have I edited out? Why haven't you edited out your "offensive comments" towards me? And you think that this topic of your break up is much fun?? Is it possible that the pain of break up may have blown some fuses in your brain?

Thank you for the warning. I'm not too vulnerable, but if a missile blows me up, not much is lost. I have lived long enough.

Didn't you forget one thing? Asking him why he wants to break up? Moi, I have been together with my dearest for nearly 19 years. I know exactly why he would break up with me. He has told me in many occasions... and I have an ear to listen.

You sound like you could benefit from knowing what can cause a break up with a Thai BF of 5 years, or 9 years. It is always the best to learn from the experience of others, and prevent before having to cure. Don't worry, I take the wrap from Anonone, who does not seem to realize that his experience can benefit others.

Fellow, you should have thought about keeping your breakup confidential before starting this thread. Nobody forced you to do so. But you had to wallow in your self-pity and seek the sympathy of everyone. This was your decision. I doubt that any of us seniors here have gone through life without a serious breakup that broke our heart. I have had one that was much more serious than yours, but I never went crying to nobody for sympathy. This does not mean that you should not do it, but at least be ready to accept some questions without retorting to blind attacks. I still wonder about your ex boyfriend, a person which YOU brought up. If I should not do this, you should have kept your affairs to yourself. You don't have an exclusivity on suffering, so don't come here to make impositions on how you should be treated in yours, which you volunteered. I am not an asshole, but reading your last post I am not sure about you. There is a couple in my neighborhood of an older man married to a much younger Thai woman. I know her, and she cares for her husband, who treats her well (or so it appears), and she would not think of breaking their relationship. She would have too much to lose. They confirm my idea that a relationship between an older person from a rich country with a much younger one from a poor country who can benefit economically and socially is quite a strong one. If something catastrophic would break it, it would be an exception that is worth to know about. Similarly in your case, if something catastrophic happened in your relationship, and you spread out the news in this public forum, don't you think that with the request for sympathy you could also help your fellow posters who are in relationships like yours by telling them what went wrong and how to perhaps avoid it?

LOL! You dirty old men... Maybe karma could punish you by making you fall in love? Use condoms for protection, and also put one on your heart to protect your and your offeds' feelings

As soon as you published your breakup I emphasized right away (2nd post in the thread) and wrote down some suggestions to ease your pain, and in a later post I asked about your BF. Neither in your posts nor in the chorus of responses with much pity and consolations that there are still many Thai warm bodies to be had, does one find one word of sympathy or any other thought for the other part in the breakup, your former Thai boyfriend. He has no voice in this forum, and we won't hear his side of the story from him. It is like he is not a person. We all know that in Thailand the market of boyfriends is such that the offer widely exceeds the demand. So it is strange that a fortunate Thai who has found his farang and kept him for 5 years would renounce to his happiness so suddenly. Should we keep pouring all the pity and consolations exclusively on you?

Maybe you should be in my prayers, victim of the fools rushing in, silently invading/inviting themselves into your life. anonone: "Without sounding too much like a driveling idiot, I had never experienced the happiness that my life with BF brought me...which is why it hurts so much now, I guess. But I know myself well enough to understand that I am happiest when I am in a relationship. So yes, I will get back in the game in due course. " What about BF? Is he OK? Or was he nothing but a worthless instrument of destiny that gave you so much happiness only to then take it away from you?

It is very sad to read what you wrote. But like it happens with the body, emotional injuries heal with time. Keep thinking highly of yourself. The biggest loss is if you lose yourself. Take one day at a time. Keep life on hold for a while for recovery. Practice the feeling of unconditional happiness (the one that does not need reasons).

I also like the Dalai Lama and think that he is a positive leader. Same with Pope Francis. Hopefully he can improve his church.

Yes, the same old problem... Making love, it's difficult to keep it as sex only and not get other feelings involved. And we cannot shut down our conscience. Maybe there is something good to polygamy. Each trip you bring back a new boy into your harem. And the boys you have already there would like that too. A win-win situation...

You keep blabbering the same accusations over and over. You never asked me to prove that the Catholic church makes money off the weddings and funerals. Instead you went straight into calling it "false". Well sir, now it behooves you to prove that my assertion was false, that the church DOES NOT profit from weddings and funerals. One note of caution: the prohibition of simony (the buying or selling of sacred things) is not proof that they don't make a profit, which is made in the name of "standard donations".

ChristianFPC: "Religion is like a penis. It's a perfectly fine thing for one to have and take pride in, but when one takes it out and waves it my face we have a problem." This is brilliant! The analogy is perfect! I wish I could use your quotation in a discussion on a religious forum, but I'm afraid it would be too strong for the old ladies...

Why were you in trouble? Did the love in the air never precipitate? Or was your Burmese boy too frigid?

My preference when traveling overseas is to take cash with me and two credit cards. Hotel and any larger expenses I pay with a credit card that does not charge exchange fees, and everything else I pay cash. For a two week stay I take about 2,000 USD in shiny $100 bills carried in the deep pockets of my jeans where they are safe, and as soon as I arrive at the hotel they go into the safe in my room together with my passport. I usually bring also some 10,000 baht that I brought back in previous trips. So far I have had no problems.

z909, I fully share your position in this matter. Like many others, I was born gay by no fault of my own, in a predominantly Catholic country where homosexuality was condemned mainly because of the position of the Catholic church. This position reflects its dogma, based on a phrase in the Old Testament and some writings by Apostle Paul in the New Testament. As a result I was not free to live according to my nature as a young person, and it took me many years to overcome this negative from my original society and religion. However I feel fortunate to be gay. This gives me a first hand, irrefutable proof from personal experience that there is nothing wrong with homosexuality. Thus that part of the Catholic dogma must be false. And here is the important conclusion: since a true religion cannot have parts that are false, this is one proof that the whole doctrine must be false. This is a happy confirmation that my comfortable position of agnostic is correct. I don't have to worry about hell ! It has been tradition that good manners impose a ban on discussions about religion. The alleged reason is that any criticism of religion can hurt the feelings of believers. On the other hand, believers are free to express their faith with confidence that it will be received with respect, with atheists and agnostics be dammed, forced to keep their mouths shut. I do my best to make the above tradition obsolete, and I am not the only one. Fair reciprocity requires that both the praise and criticism of religion (and any other topic) have the same standing. So when some intolerant individuals complain that I say something that is not flattering of religion, like Bob does here, they only get me started.... I really think that my insignificant opinions about religion are a contribution to the progressive movement in this era of enlightenment that will put religious fantasies in the place they deserve. And so, like you wrote, it's a matter of following one's conscience.

The blind leading the blind... This is absolutely true only when the path is in the supernatural, like with theology. In subjects of this world, the blind have other senses and sensors that allow them to lead (like the white cane of the guide detecting the hole in your cute picture )

Surely everyone in this forum agrees that everybody is entitled to their beliefs, whichever they are. So, why you bring this up if not as a preamble to becoming argumentative? You have no basis to argue that the Church does not profit from weddings and funerals. Of course they do. And your use of "to rail against" for what is simply a factual observation seems to be your way of blowing things out of proportion. Churches need to profit from their religious services because their God does not send them money from above, and they have bills to pay. So it is undeniable that they need to, and in fact do, make profits. Is this what you don't like to be observed? For me, the problem is not with making (reasonable) money from their services, but the compulsion to force these services for the sole purpose of control. Marriage in particular is an agreement between the couple that should not involve religion. People don't marry Jesus Christ or Virgin Mary.

The Catholic church has created several markets with the invention of its sacraments. With these they have infiltrated our lives for power and profit. We all die. Most of us get married. But this does not mean that a church should get involved in our private affairs. Since churches have been losing their power today, this is less important today as it was in the past. Yet I think it is worth of criticism. Without criticism of the churches we would not have legal same-sex marriage today.

It simply means that they profit from a market they themselves create. This is not different from any other business, except that they are supposed to be spiritual institutions. If the probability of success of a marriage would rise with the money spent on the wedding, or the fate of the diseased would benefit from the money spent on the funeral, all this would make more sense.