steveboy

I don't pretend to be instrumental in anything. The cause of your departure only you know. I should not be involved with it, but your mind seems to be doing you something subconscious... You wrote in your very farewell post: "Despite some issues with certain member, I have had a good time here." Isn't this interesting? Why is the "certain member" still so strong in your mind? Is this your DEAD, 6 feet under? Your conscience may not let go of the feeling that you did something wrong to "certain member", LOL! Your conscience is your thing and I don't need to get involved. I have always a good time here, and you have never been a "despite". So your departure is perfectly neutral to me. Perhaps I may read your posts at the Singapore forum blowingwind.org, where I first saw your posts years ago.

I recognize myself in your "some issues with certain member". I never had an issue with you, but you had or have an issue with me for unknown reasons which you don't care to reveal. Your post #95 on this thread was the most insulting I have received in this forum. When I reported it to the moderator something must have happened because you wrote some story about your childhood in post #102 faulting your parents for your behavior. Being a kind person I replied to you in post #105 so you would't feel so bad. You never acknowledged it, you never apologized, but stuck your head in the sand seemingly resentful for my observation. I just read what you wrote to Alizizou in thread "Why do long time and not only short time?" post #69 blaming him for being condescending to old people, and again bashed him again in post #71. This was very hypocritical given the way you treated a senior like me with disrespect and insult. Maybe Alizizou didn't think it through when he wrote what could be socially incorrect, thinking that it was humorous, but this does not make him a bad person. You have little standing to criticize him and your posts must have contributed to the Moderator closing that thread. When I was your age I was the head of a family with children, supporting many people with skillful work. In contrast, you criticize and complain while lazying around in beaches on long vacations. You portray yourself as 'cool' and want to entice with your pictures in a forum where we all have higher standards that can be seen in the thread "Some Model Photoshots". If you are not too old and have an exaggerated opinion of your external beauty this is perfectly acceptable and nobody will challenge you. But some of us have experienced some of your lack of inner beauty. Hopefully as you retire for a while you will reflect on this and return with a nicer attitude. I wish you good luck.

I see your question totally legitimate. I am also curious, mainly because I don't go for massages. I would also get bored lying face down for half an hour. I would not ponder too long but would... turn around and give the boy a smile. And contrary to what forky123 thinks, there are some good muscles accessible at the front: shoulder, pectorals, biceps, triceps, abdominal, lateral, quadriceps, calf, and... the most precious muscle of all. Then I would suggest to the boy that he takes a rest lying naked and relaxed on me.

This is understandable, if they charge by the pound.

My travel laptop fits inside the in-room safe at Babylon. But I never put it there, since I attach it to a cable lock. The small 12 inch Acer is cheaper than any Apple device, and only an inferior robber should be tempted by it. Before reading about here, I had never thought about the liability of having questionable content on the PC, but now I will take precautions. No big thing, have plenty of time in vacation to do some of that.

People with more understanding of probability and statistics will not just close their minds, but will try to eliminate as much risk as possible. We do this in choosing an airline, even if the probability of dying in a plane crash is minuscule. What's so hard in taking precautions against theft? Shouldn't one take precautions against STDs too? Or should we trust our "guardian angels"?

Maybe in the long time facing down you can ask to lie on the naked boy massaging you from underneath?

The only way? I also like morning gymnastics, and try to do it five times a week. I especially enjoy the Sundays at 6AM, driving through deserted streets to the 24-hour-fitness, where I have nearly all the gym to myself to do my leg exercises. I'm afraid that I would also choose the deed, with the happy boy magically vanishing in a cloud after the bedtime exercise without me having to get up again and do small talk to send him away, if this would be possible.

Yes, it was many years since Oscar Wilde was sent to prison for being gay.

Yet... it might be better that the police makes some tea money by looking the other way than churches making donation money by demonizing sex.

You have a point. If I travel half way around the globe to have great sex, why should I pay more for the airfare than I pay for the sex? Maybe Vinapu is right and the best value is to not spend any night alone during the stay.

Agree.

Right. You won't fall in love like that if you love yourself enough.

Age mix from 30 to 70 at Babylon is precisely MY idea of nice. The 30 y.o. don't ask for off fees nor tips. The 50 y.o. to 70 y.o. are the most friendly buddies, especially if you stay at the barracks. And when you see how they get laid too, it gives one a confidence that makes engaging the 30 y.o. very easy.

Indeed. You could not survive one night alone. I remember the same with my one month old grandson at the time.

WOW, 2 TB may be necessary if one travels with the Library of Congress... More practical is to create a bootable operating system on a cheap, say, 32 GB USB flash drive. This not only can be carried through immigration in a side pocket and thrown away if necessary, but it can convert other PCs into one's own if there is a situation like I had years ago when I forgot my PC at the TSA checking station at my departing airport.

This is not so unbelievable. We don't have a digital display in our forehead that shows our age. If you have taken care of yourself throughout adulthood, it is possible to be more attractive in the 60s and beyond than in the 50s. If you are able to be retired, financially independent, and in proper spirits to be a sex tourist, you probably have a very low level of stress and feel reasonably happy. This is attractive. If you have the discipline to take care of your body by eating well and exercising, you are not doomed to have the shape of a middle-age or old man. If you have the means and pride to help your appearance by coloring your hair, having wrinkles in your face removed by surgery, botox, fillers or whatever, If you can smile widely and show perfect teeth, etc. you can match a decent body with an ageless face where people may be unable to pinpoint how young you are. There is a saying in Spanish: "cuerpo de tentación, cara de arrepentimiento" (body of temptation, face of regret). In today's era of technology and biology, no need to have a "face of regret" and having to hide in the darkest corners.

Yes, I like the idea of the "travel device". I will convert my lightest and smallest laptop to such a device erasing everything that is not relevant to travel, and then load it on vacation by downloading, uploading data from an online backup site. I doubt that security agencies can have access to such data. To begin with, the account on such site is anonymous, and any trace of it can be erased from the browser by clearing the browsing data. About hackers, all the files I download, upload would be encrypted. I can even leave the 'truecrypt' program installed when crossing a border, having the encrypted files away backed up online. About loss of data if the online site crashes, burns, I could lose the little data added on vacation. The important data to have is the historical one, all my emails, favorite sex files and other logs from the last years, which I like to have just in case, and which is already stored at home.

Thanks. I started looking for this book. I suspect that with me it will preach to the choir. I am the foremost defender of the idea that we belong only to ourselves. Not even our children belong to us, they are simply in our custody. My experience is that the open relationship is the way to keep our beloved forever. We should all be available for dating, while our heart is committed to THE ONE.

One major crack in Trump's dominance! Today the House withdrew the "American Healthcare" bill, the recent most anti-American piece of legislation. In the end the House Speaker Paul Ryan was willing to remove all the benefits possible (screwing the American public) to gain acceptance by the more conservative republicans, but a wonderful phenomenon happened in that the most moderate republicans started to oppose his drastic measures. So, he couldn't get majority. This clearly shows what a shameless deception the pathological lies about Obamacare were. For seven years the GOP bashed Obamacare without giving even one glimpse of any better plan, and now that they came to absolute power they were incapable of producing anything decent. This should be enough to expose Trump and Ryan as the bullshitters they are. But it seems that they plan something even more devious: instead of focusing now on doing the necessary revisions, improvements to Obamacare, they want to "sit back and let it totally collapse on its own". If they do this, can this be considered treason against the American people, something they can impeach Trump for and throw him out for good (if they haven't found another reason) ?

One finds online backup places that offer the storage of 5 GB of data for free. It must be hard to generate so much data in a vacation, and even the data one likes to have available, like emails and some questionable pictures, may not reach that amount. So at the destination, one can recover the data stored online, and before returning one backs it up to the online storage and deletes it from the device. With the data on the device, one protects it with password, without it one can leave it unprotected. For more refined security to avoid files left behind hidden by the operating system, one can work within a virtual operating system.

If you have a good monogamous relationship, he should be willing to do what pleases you in sex. But maybe he does not understand it, or, very probably, it is not in his nature to be an overpowering, domineering top. This is the case with me, I am a top (simply because I'm not a bottom) and I have no interest to overpower, domineer anyone. And here is the problem with a monogamous relationship: if you two complement each other perfectly, great! If not, you are out of luck. Add to this the fact that many of us like variety in sex and not be restricted to do it with only one "until death shall us part", and it is logical that most monogamous relationships are short lived. The solution is of course an OPEN relationship, where you are in love exclusively with each other but you are free to have sex with others. Your mutual love includes the desire that each independently enjoys the best sex possible, like you should independently enjoy the best foods according to your taste. Hopefully your BF can understand the situation, and is agreeable to an open relationship, at least one where third parties can join you two to provide the satisfaction you both need.

I have been at Otot2 many times and the only thing I find different from other saunas is that they don't have private rooms. Maybe the lack of rooms keeps them from using condoms because they have to improvise their fucking? But it is up to customers to use condoms or not.

You are talking about an American Daddy.

I just came back from visiting my grandchildren. Two precious little devils