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Dominance and submission fantasies are pretty normal and common. The fact that he has this fantasy doesn't mean he has any interest in the reality. If it weirds you out too much, then so be it, but don't presume that because he has a fantasy that he is indulging that he has any issues at all. You may have issues, but that's another story

Absolutely they do. But in reading the article, I read a man who is just tone deaf to what he's saying. He wasn't saying it's ok, just that it's sometimes more complicated than "evil priest molests innocent child." I think he's frustrated as a priest with the demonization of fellow priest whom he knows aren't all the monsters they're painted to be. I also sense, though I may be reading into it, a man who understands that the vast majority of men weren't built for celibacy, and that trying to keep that vow can twist men. (that's one of the reasons I blame the catholic church for much of this. Its twisted teaching on sex is part of what has made such messes of these men that they do these things.) In the current media environment, these just aren't things you can say. The crowd baying for blood wants the matter to be black and white. Grey upsets them.

I had sex with an older man when I was about 14. I wasn't 'abused'. I wanted it and liked it. While it is an unpopular point of view, I think that saying that sex below the age of consent is always horrific is just not real. Most here would shrug their shoulders if an 18year old had sex with a 17 year old, and scream in horror (justifiably) if a 30 year old had sex with a 3 year old. Between those two points is a continuum, not a step function. So while I find the catholic church reprehensible on many levels, I think we here ought to have a better grasp of the truth than most when it comes to older guys sleeping with younger ones. And no, I'm not condoning it, and wouldn't do it, but I'm not going to hang someone who says that these contacts aren't always instantly damaging to the younger male, and that the younger male can, in fact, be the initiator and like it. I did.

She's was a second grade teacher, so the student wasn't hers. Perhaps because of the consent the prosecutor declined to lay charges. I respect age of consent laws, but am a bit leery about them. They lay down black and white lines in a world of grey. I had sex with an older man when I was 14 I think. He didn't take advantage of me, and I'm not 'traumatized' by it or any such nonsense. When you get into pre-teen ages, clearly there's a problem, but I think we need to be careful about how we apply this. There as a guy in Maine who was prosecuted for sleeping with his 16 year old girl friend when he was 18. He ended up on the sex offenders list, and then some nut job decided that he was a child rapist and killed him for it. (didn't know the guy, just found his name on the sex offenders list and in his own twisted way thought he was doing the world a favor). Here in Oregon, the age of consent is 18, which I think is kinda crazy high. So I'd suggest a little more skepticism about whether she deserves jail or not...

I am delighted. I am outraged that this has become a partisan football. If we can afford the most expensive military in the world, we can afford to make sure everybody has basic healthcare.

Don't let truth get in the way of a good story. I like to think that Marky mark was begging me to fuck him all these years.

I'm with you. Sounds like he got talked into jerking off for the photog and now regrets it (maybe). What does that have to do with A&F really? If I were on the Jury, I'd want a complete re-enactment!

That is awesome.

Oscar Wilde - 19th century writer and wit Larry Kramer - Author and founder (with others) of both GHMC and ACTUP Harry Hay - Founder of the Mattachine Society, the first gay rights group in the US and the Radical Faeries (where I met him)

So sorry to hear this, and my heart goes out to you and your nephew. I'm married to my best friend, my soul mate, and my reason for living. If she died, I don't know that I would be capable of going on. I feel very blessed to have her, but also have to admit that the thought of losing her is very, very frightening.

That's some serious Wood(s)!

He told them that he put in the garbage a few blocks away. They think the body is now irrecoverable, unfortunately. Don't understand how someone could do something like that, and don't really want to understand....

What, this mess isn't over yet? Hot boys, but a total mess of a plot.

I like snakes! We pulled up the burlap in the community garden and found two very cute grass snakes. Of course, I don't like spiders, so I do have some sympathy. These kind of fears really aren't rational (well, at least unless you live in a place with some serious poisonous ones.). If I were there, i would have chased 'em off for you!

I would have been ok with 6 months, but a month is nothing.

When they have a funicular car to the top, I'll go. I'm not risking my life for such foolishness.

The simple answer is no. I've had it explained to me on more than one occasion and my brain can't or won't wrap itself around it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/String_theory The best I can offer is that the very fundamental objects of creation are small 'strings' that are composed together to make all matter. It is a unified theory that explains all of physics. The problem alluded to by hitoallusa is that these strings are so ridiculously beyond anything we can measure that there isn't really anyway to test the theory. It does explain all existing facts, but...

I've met Dr. Hawking a couple of times, including having dinner with him. He said that if he didn't talk over people's heads at least some, they wouldn't think it was worth their time :-). Having heard his lectures, I think anybody who says its easy to understand is full of shit, or trying to pretend they're smarter than they are. I find it quite hard to grasp. I disagree about Hitoallusa on string theory though, having also had dinner with Brian Greene (my job has its occasional perks.). There is a difference in saying we can't prove the theory, and saying there is no scientific basis for it. It may or may not be correct, but it does fit the existing scientific evidence, and so the reason it has its supporters. There are also skeptics, but the jury is out. The challenge is that we're testing the limits of our technology to devise scientific tests that can prove or disprove some of these theories.

I'm underwhelmed with their business model. I have used facebook for years and have never clicked an ad. I don't think I'm unusual. EDIT: and of course, I forgot to mention that all shares don't have the same voting rights. That's always the kiss of death for me. I'm never buying shares to sit in the back of the bus.

Saw it tonight in imax 3d. Am a huge Joss Whedon fan and was not disappointed. If you like these kind of movies, you will LOVE this one.

If you have feedback, give it. If you don't, shut up. Long winded whines about how some nebulous unindentified great wisdom is being ignored is just stupid.

I remember seeing the AIDS quilt on the Washington DC mall one of the last times I think the whole thing was displayed before it got too large. The quilt itself made me sad, but the thing that mad me weep uncontrollably was the reading of the names. They just went on and on and on. A whole generation of us wiped out.

A bit of synchronicity. I was cleaning out my computer files and found this which I wrote a few years after 9/11. My younger brother worked in the towers at the time and was late to work that day. My older brother worked at the pentagon, but fortunately was elsewhere that day. I'm sure others here were even closer to the tragedy. ************ Today, I made the pilgrimage to ground zero. I really should have been doing other things, but I had to go. I can’t say exactly why. So I blew off some work I ought to have been doing, and boarded a downtown train. The train and the station were remarkably clean. The conductor’s announcements, however, were as incomprehensible as ever, sounding like a voice run through a chainsaw. The man next to me met my eyes and laughed. “These are the new trains, too,” he said. This didn’t feel like the city I remembered. I don’t know lower Manhattan particularly well, though you couldn’t get lost walking from the station. There was steady stream of people heading south, following a few signs. The site itself is deceptive. Like nothing more than a construction zone. Even a crane sat there idle. I wept. I didn’t feel American so much as I felt human. Touched by the abiding loss that each of us must face in our own lives. The air around me felt thick. Thick with the choked sobs of grief, and the unheard whispers of ghosts. I wanted to tell the ghosts, “I know. I know,” but I didn’t really. The best I could do was to stand there with them for a moment, companionship separated by an infinite void. It reminded me of Dachau. Years ago, driving across Germany we saw the exit sign for Dachau, one of the first of the concentration camps. My parents did not want to stop, but I insisted. Like Ground Zero, what you saw was unimpressive. Grey buildings against a grey sky. But you could feel the ground groan and weep under the burden of the blood and tears that had been spilled upon it. A wrongness seeped from the stones of the place making you want to scream and tear your hair. Anything to somehow break the relentless pressure of it. But you know nothing can change what was, so you let your tears mix with all the others that have come before, and hope that your grief and tears might wear away a small piece of the cruelty that was done there. It was like that as I walked around St. Paul’s looking at all the offerings to the dead that had been left. The kindergarten class letters. The note from a mother to her son. A daughter to her father. A wife to her husband. A picture with no words. And I thought of Anne Frank who said, “..because I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart.” I think so too, Anne. I think so, too.

Haha! That was brilliant! Thanks for sharing it.

Yes it does. And while it has a stylus, I haven't used it. I just type or use my fingers.