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Perhaps even worse is when a boy you care about just disappears and you have no idea what happened to him, even after many years have passed. Around 16 years ago I would occasionally go to the up-market Italian restaurant Zanotti on Saladaeng. Sometimes a client would take me. At others I would go with friends. Expensive at evening time, it had a very good set lunch at a very reasonable price. There was one waiter who I found especially attractive. Mid-20s, he came from a town in Isaan. His English was good and his smile virtually to die for. I usually chatted with him. Over time we became friends although he always said he was not gay. As his room was not far from my condo, I invited him round for drinks after work one evening. I was surprised that he came. Soon he would come quite frequently, almost always sleeping overnight on the sofa. For his birthday, I got a cake from the Mandarin Oriental shop and he was so happy. He said he'd never had a birthday cake before! Only on 2 or 3 occasions would he knock on my door and ask to sleep with me. Although i was not in love with him, I loved his company. He could be wonderfully funny and we spent many evenings on the sofa just chatting and laughing. I considered him a lovely close friend. After about a year, he and several other staff left Zanotti following a disagreement with the manager. He told me that of the 10% service charge, the manager kept 8.5% leaving the staff to share just 1.5%. Eventually he told me that he wanted to work overseas. The Mango Tree restaurant (near Tawan Bar) had a namesake in Dubai. He had been offered a job there. I checked the contract with which I told him there were several problems. He tried to bring them up with the manager here but was told it was take it or leave it. So he signed and flew off to Dubai. In several early emails he told me how much he was enjoying the work and being in Dubai. Soon, though, things began to turn sour and he wanted to break his contract and just leave. He did have his passport but no air ticket which he was saving up for. I told him just to get the ticket and I would pay him the balance. Back in Bangkok, he did a couple of part-time restaurant jobs before he was offered a post on one of the Royal Viking Line Cruise ships. Hugely excited, off he went to somewhere in the Baltic. When in ports he would email me saying he loved the job, despite the hard work. Eventually he had some leave coming up. He wrote and asked if he could stay with me in Bangkok. Of course I agreed. Having given me his dates, he said he'd contact me when he got back to Thailand. Sure enough, he mailed me to say he had arrived but would first go to see his family. He'd come to Bangkok after 6 days. That was the last I heard from him! I mailed him several times. They were unanswered. I left sms messages on his phone which was still working. No reply. I called and just got the ring tone. After a couple of months I wrote that I did not care what had happened to him - maybe he'd married, maybe found a long-term boyfriend, maybe been in a bad accident - all I wanted to know was that he was OK and perhaps see him if he came to Bangkok. If he needed help, I was here. Again no reply. I hope he is somewhere and happily settled down with the good job he deserves and a love life that he enjoys. If I could just get one mail saying that, I'd be really happy for him. It would also set my mind at ease. My fear is that something happened when he was back with his family and he died. It's the not knowing that occasionally, even now, gnaws at me.

Surely a key ingredient in enjoying retirement is to be at peace with oneself. However we decide to live out our remaining years, whether short or long, the absence of worry is liberating. Some guys want to be active in pursuing a gay lifestyle and enjoying lfe to the full. Others are unable to do so for one reason or another. I am a firm believer that we all create our own realities. For those who are less than happy, I'd ask you to take time to work out why you feel that way. What specifically creates that unhappiness? What in your view would make you happier (let's leave money out of the discussion as there is often little we can do about that late in life)? That decided, I believe you have no choice. You have to set those demons, fears, worries aside. See a psychiatrist if you think that might help. I fully realise that changing views that have been welded into your brain for decades is far from easy. But the choice is simple. Either continue with those demons etc. and perhaps keep regretting that you did not do this or do that. Or make a conscious decision that now you are in the latter part of your life, this life is for enjoyment and fulfilment. Your enjoyment and fulfilment. You have to make the decisions. They may seem hard, but you'll be surprised how easy they really are once you have made up your mind. Just do it!

My oldest friend died a year ago aged seventy-five. I was the only person who knew he was gay apart from a few masseurs in Pattaya to whom I almost dragged him. Even there he was uncomfortable. He was close to his brothers but they didn't know- or at least he hadn't told them. Perhaps they worked it out. I have to say that my siblings hadn't worked me out when I was forty -five and gave them the news about my own sexuality. The funeral provided me with an odd sensation, standing around his grave as eulogies were delivered, knowing that a hugely significant fact about him would be interred with his body. It saddens me to think of what he missed. I said to him, time and time again, "Carpe diem." Cancer had the last laugh. But I'm having my own laugh now, preparing for my second trip to Pattaya and P since Covid. With a third one already booked.

I lost most of my hair in my twenties, but have it all back now with the miracle of a tattoo. I should have done it much earlier. i retired at 57, could have been 55. However I was able to sort of manipulate my job so my pension is about the same as my salary during my working years. I will say I’m more lonely since I’m retired and don’t have the interaction with my coworkers. I will never do any work now, as time is the most valuable commodity. I certainly don’t want to be the richest guy in the cemetery.

Do you sell tickets?

and how do you like there ?

This topic greatly interests me. WBU? My goal is to grow old disgracefully as well. I want to fuck and/or be fucked by as many men as I can find and buy. And perhaps in that journey find one (or two) that I might trust to “care” for me when I become infirm (although I would most like to die suddenly in the middle of an orgasm). When I can’t do it anymore, I can still watch. My dilemma is how and where to do this. I have been to Thailand, loved it, want to go again (but hate the flights). Did 35 days in Medellin/Bogota Colombia this spring and was utterly disgraceful. Want to check out Laos, Cambodia, Thailand, Myanmar, Brazil and the Philippines. Looking for a second home….. I still have a husband; he has no interest in men or travel. I’m recently retired, banging around in the house. He unhappy when I’m here and unhappy when I go. My plan was to move to my condo in FLA, sell the house in PA, and we explore the world. Easy to close the door in the condo and go. Now he does not want to move to FLA. SO, I go on vacations on my own as “I’m not going to sit here and wait to die.” I even went back to work oversea for a year to get out of the house (2020 UAE – covid holiday). My countdown clock is not good. I had 7 bypasses at 47 and 5 more stents at 48. I’m already beating the life expectance odds for patients like me. (Doctor says I’m doing good!) But who knows when the ticker will stop. Go to the gym 5 days a week, walk or treadmill an hour most days, and weights during the week. The dick does not work nearly as good as before… too much porn and meds. So learning to enjoy bottoming too. I don’t want to be in PA for the winter. So southeast Asia is on the flight plan. My goal is December thru April. So that means flying in and out of Thailand to beat the visa issues. Like to experience Songkran… although I read most of you locals hate it. Maybe hit Colombia again on the way back home. Hoping there is some board members who might want to meet and exchange notes over beer or coke in Jomtien. Is anyone using the facebook groups to find men? there are many gay men dating groups with some rent boys... and other looking for partners or sugar daddys...

You need to forget those hetero "friends" and find a bunch of gay friends with whom you will share a lot in common.

Similar case to @floridarob , when I was in my teens an elderly and very glamorous friend of my parents told me that the only regrets in life are the things you didn't do. She appeared to have it all, still stylish approaching 80, in demand at social events, wealth. She had never married because the man she loved had not been good enough for her in her family's eyes and unable to marry the man she wanted without being cut off from the family money, she devoted her life to being an ornament on the social circuit. As she approached 80 it was a decision she very much regretted. Her advice to me was very clear: you have one shot at life, live it for who you are and want to be, don't live it to conform to the expectations of others. Buying a condo in Pattaya suggests to me that you have attempted to start a new life. Why not make a second attempt? Buy a condo somewhere else, away from you new 'hetro friends', and start over with a plan, a clearer vision and determination of who you want to be, who you want your friends to be and what you want to experience in the next phase of your life.

From Coconuts Bangkok Bangkok’s hotels large and small had a resounding message today for guests wanting to blaze up: not here. Though weed is now so legal that its sellers will soon outpace 7-Elevens, tourists flying in to score some ganja could be in for a rude awakening – without the baking – at their hotel of choice. “Absolutely not,” a representative from Novotel Bangkok Siam Square told Coconuts on Friday morning. “While weed isn’t illegal, bringing such drugs is not appropriate for hotels. If the guests are caught smoking, whether cigarettes or weed, they will be reprimanded on a case-by-case basis.” Of 11 hotels contacted, all said they would not allow recreational smoking on their premises, and while some acknowledged it was not illegal, determined smokers could face fines for violating hotel policies. “Here at Banyan Tree, we do not have smoking areas for such activities, therefore weed isn’t allowed on the premises,” a hotel spokesperson said. One major hotel said that it would tolerate a purple haze if it was for a documented medical purpose. “At the moment, we do not allow guests to bring in weed for recreational purposes, but if they have a medical license and require it for their health condition, then we will allow it,” said a rep at Bangkok Marriott Hotel Sukhumvit. But every other hotel was adamant that guests should not 420 in the rooms, on their roofs, or even poolside. “We’re sorry, but we do not allow that,” a receptionist at the Shangri-La Hotel Bangkok said, politely. “It’s a bit of a sensitive topic.” “Our rooms are non-smoking areas, so not only could you not smoke cigarettes or weed as well,” Asai Bangkok’s concierge said. “You’d be given a warning and may be fined if you were caught smoking.” That’s not to say stealth smokers aren’t’ blazing their way, as you read this, through a gram of Gary Payton on some hotel balcony. The Okura Prestige hedged a bit, saying it doesn’t allow smoking ”at this time.” Ibis Bangkok Sathorn gave a firm no, saying that tokin’ was verboten at all its branches. Anantara Riverside, a resort known for decidedly sick riverside views, said it didn’t even want guests to bring in weed. The most lax position wasn’t quite 420-friendly, but not really. So Bangkok, over near Lumphini Park, nixed smoking but said edibles and drinks were fine so long as they were in “accordance with the current laws.” Since weed was decriminalized in June, Thailand has grappled with numerous unanswered questions that hadn’t been considered in its hasty rollout. Fly with buds on domestic flights? You bet. Smoke recreationally? Sure. Licenses required? Kind of but not really. Enthusiasts, cultivators, and retailers are still waiting for passage of the Cannabis Act, which is going through a round of revisions in parliament for clearer rules (any rules, really).

King Bhumibol Adulyadej welcomes Queen Elizabeth to the Kingdom in 1996. Two of the longest serving monarchs in history will be long remembered for service to country above self. (Photo from The Nation)

Cannabis was decriminalised. It's not legal to walk around smoking it. A couple of bars in Jomtien Complex are allowing customers to smoke there. More bars are not allowing it. I have no interest, but others can do as they wish. I smell it everyday now, but I don't worry so much. My only concern is it will attract the wrong type of people.

last thing we need is lingering smell of smoked weed or cigarettes' left by previous occupants in our rooms and corridors, parking lot if any ort street outside is Ok but anywhere indoors to say it politely, :"fuck, no"

And I've have a better decorated house, I don't have that part of the gay gene 😒 Pattaya only exists for 1 reason I've always said, Whoring. If they are there, I'm sure nothing will surprise them, they have probably been with a ladyboy or more.....it's chic to be Bi, test those waters....but in any case, I'm betting they already have a clue.

I agree. The whole storyline/character development is messed up, but the episode 4 brings some very nice flesh scenes: Love in the Air episode 4: https://www.bilibili.tv/en/video/2043183368?bstar_from=bstar-web.search-result.0.0

As we get older and older, there will be more sad moments and grief than happy times. The sad news sometimes come in unexpectedly, this is why I usually book refundable airplane tickets and hotel reservation, in case somebody dies or somethings happen and I have to take care of things, or say good bye to a dying person, or attend a funeral.

check Tawan late in the afternoon before bar opens. During day they have massage boy(s) hoping for custom Somebody substantial like Ten may be on duty

why? , don't take it too personally , Boy 69 may be right. After all there's boy you were interested in , not in that rude answerer

opening one by Korn and Knock in "Together with me "

no, that's absolute novelty for me

Just discovered this thread. too much to read, but have been watching thai filipino Taiwanese BL for some time. Got stuck on KinnPorche. love porsche but didn't like them turning the character from kung fu god in the first episode to whiny bottom. But some good flesh scenes. Currently watching KinnPorsche, Love Mechanics and Check out What is the best flesh scene you guys have seen? this is my favorite, I want to mount rambo likethis as well. Favorite actor Ohm Pawat Chittsawangdee. loved him in Bad Buddies and with Singto in he's coming to me

In Thailand I know a few that have died. One recently that used to message me occasionally and I knew he was the suicidal type, and that's how he died. I'm sad, but not surprised. In life, drugs have taken many friends as well as suicide. Some had warning signs....some, no idea what was going on in their head. Before I couldn't fathom how someone could kill themselves....these days, I kind of understand. It's not something that someone wakes up one day and suddenly decides to do it.....it's demos they've dealt with or something they have thought about for some time. I see friends that I've known since childhood, but don't recognize them because of the drugs they've been doing, it's very sad. I feel fortunate that I never fell into doing drugs....other vices are enough without having drugs involved. Everyone is responsible for their own path they take, drugs is an escape for some...and most don't realize that that escape could become permanent. I try to lecture, without lecturing when I run into a drug user, whether they are using at the moment or not. Usually falls on deaf ears....sadly.

You still talking about wine, or did it drift into sexual territory......😳 it's 2022...most hetero guys don't care, might have other gay friends. I have lot's of straight friends that know I'm gay, as long as you don't go into detail about sex, they're generally cool with everything. And if they aren't....they weren't really your friends. Gays can be more judgmental than straights....not to mention catty and dramatic, lol

I think it's more like miscommunication between you two,maybe the one who replied was offended by mistaken him as the mamasan ,sometimes through the translation what you meant is not what's was the translator did exactly.

Maybe it's time to stop worrying about what others may think - unless you want your life to continue being unhappy. If it were me and I came out to my friends, but they refuse to understand, then I'd say they were never real friends in the first place. If that happens, why not just drop them and move on to the life you really want. That's what I did and I've never regretted it. Some understood and we remain friends to this day. Others, to hell with them. I would do it again without hesitation. I hope you'll do the same.

Of course there is a countdown to life. But none of us really know when that will be unless we have an untreatable illness. Why do you assume that lifespan will end at 82 - 84. For many it will, but for others it won't. I would hate to live feeliing that I had to pack everything into life before I am 84. One day I will not be alive. I'll leave it to fate to decide when that will be. The main thing for me is that I have wills and executors and know that whatever I leave will go to those I wish to have it. Am I living life to the fullest? The answer is definitely yes. I am well over 60. Having retired from my main job, I still work part-time as I have always loved the work I do and cannot imagine life without some involvement in it. Prior to covid, I travelled quite extensively and will definitely continue to do so as barriers to travel break down. I already have four trips planned and tickets booked for one. Again, I cannot imagine life without travel to those places I enjoy and meeting the friends I have made there. The one limiting factor may be travel insurance as I gave up my annual policy 3 years ago. But one of my credit cards offers good travel insurance on a per trip basis which is fine for me. As for sex, I have a partner and am very happy in Bangkok. It is some years since I was a regular at gay venues. On my trips, though, if my partner can not join me because of his job, I have more freedom to meet guys if I wish. I do and have rarely had a problem meeting up with nice guys. My partner and I discussed this and he is not concerned about it. But I always tell him about my adventures on my return. We go out to various types of restaurant quite regularly and enjoy meeting up with our friends (who are mostly gay). The thought that I might have to countdown to a definite ending date horrifies me!

You would have to know the exact time of your death to do a countdown. I am not quite "senior" yet. My dad died at 81. My mom is still kicking at 83. Neither of them in great shape in their latter years though. So I expect that as long as I don't get hit by a bus I should make it well into my 80s or 90s. My current plan is to retire at 60. According to my financial planner's calculations my money should well outlast me. So that's all good news. My current plan is to devote myself to getting into as good of a physical condition as I can in retirement when I will have plenty of free time. I am glad that I've been traveling quite a lot over the past 30 years. Doing it while I was young enough to really enjoy it was a good thing. But it's a big world out there so I expect to keep traveling as long as it's possible. Of course who knows what the state of the world is going to be over the next 40 years. So I guess enjoying things while you still can is wise. There's a YouTube channel I watch from time to time called notime2bsad. The creator is an American guy who documents his daily life with his Thai wife, family and friends. It's a nice slice of life and it's always enjoyable to see Thailand. They live in Isaan but travel around a lot. He retired relatively young. As a military veteran I presume he gets a pretty good pension which I am sure helps. His whole ethos is to not worry about the things you can't control and enjoy your life. I don't agree with him on some things (I believe he's fairly conservative) but his overall philosophy is a good one. Personally I find it impossible to ignore all of the things happening in the world and feel like burying your head in the sand might be good for you on a personal level, but it's not great for the world at large. But I agree that a positive attitude is essential. Nobody wants to be a nasty old curmudgeon.

Part 10: Last evening in Bangkok (for now...) Yesterday was my last evening in Bangkok. I will go travels around Thailand now for a few week (up north, Pattaya, Phuket...) and will be back on Bangkok on September 23 for 5 more night before I fly home. The evening didn't start well... It was raining hard, the roads flooded. And the hourly forecast didn't look good either. But after about 1hr the rain stopped and it was "safe" to head out to the bars. I had some unfinished business to take care of before leaving Bangkok tomorrow... First of all there is the guy on Grindr who is for days already stalking me. He works in Freshboys. Don't wanna just ignore or block him because I want to be able to go to Freshboys again without "losing face". He looks nice and sweet, not sure if he will be my type in real life. So didn't want to invite him to my room without seeing him in the bar first. But he kept trying. Even on his day off. Decided to go for a drink in Freshboys first and buying the boy a drink too. So at least I've shown him my good heart. Lol Gave him besides a drink an extra 100 baht bill and told him I had to leave to Tawan because I needed to show my friend that place. Which was actually true as I met up with another solo traveler and we agreed to go to Freshboys en Tawan together that night. Because of the rain, the steps at Freshboys was wet and slippery. The guy I was with slipped and felt down, taking me with him in his fall as I was walking in front of him. I had a soft landing, on top of him. He took a harder hit on the concrete stairs. But was also fine. Thank god. He was even laughing saying that cracked his back without having to pay for a massage... But let this be a warning whenever around in rain: stairs can be slippery! We arrived at Tawan around 11pm. The show didn't start yet. When we looked around we found out why: we were the only customers... All the rest (around 20 boys again, same like the day before) were Tawan staff. We had our drinks, talked to the (I suppose) manager and I off course invited 6pack guy (see report part 8 in this post about one day earlier in Tawan) to come and sit with me. "I take care of you tonight?" he asked. Oh yes you can! Understandable, with no other customers in the bar, Tawan decided not to have a show that night. I was entertained by 6pack guy who took my hands and placed them all over his muscles body so I could feel everything... He was placing his own hand on my shorts while feeling what was hidden inside... This is even better than the show. Lol No show this night, only guys doing some posing on stage like in this picture from Tawan twitter account. In the meantime I had some conversation with the guy I was with. He decided to move on to soi 4 to see if, despite the heavy rain earlier, things were happening there. And I took 6pack guy back to Tarntawan. 2500 for the boy, 500 for the bar. More expensive than the average off fee in the boybars. But I wanted to have a Tawan expierence... And it turned out better than expected. One day earlier when I also was in Tawan, 6pack guy already told me "everything" is possible, except that he doesn't want to get fucked. He spoke good English so I had no reason to think things went lost in translation. Possibilities from his side and expectations from mine were clear. He had to leave his id card at reception of the hotel. In my room the muscle worshipping that started in the bar continued. And as promised he kissed, sucked my dick... And even more: he licked my balls and ass. Was very nice to feel his tongue go there... After this all came to a (my) climax, 6pack guy gave me a short mini massage. I felt his strong hands over my body and feet. After 6pack guy left, hotel reception called me to check everything was oke before they gave his id card back. To be honest, I didn't expect much from a Tawan guy. I was thinking maximum you could get was touching his muscles and sucking HIS cock. The expierence I had with 6pack guy was so much better than that...! Let's see what adventures the rest of Thailand will have for me in the next weeks...

Hey all, I’ll be visiting Bangkok for the first time next week, was hoping for some recommendations for either massage places that have bearish or larger therapists or if you’ve had experience with a therapist like that somewhere? everything I’ve read so far sounds like most guys are either twink-ish or muscular, which are both fine of course, just interested in seeing what’s out there. Thanks!

For those of you over 60 as a gay man how is your lifestyle now? Obviously your life goals change as you get older over 75 etc when your lifespan becomes around 5-7 years left ? Are you living life to the fullest ,travel,sex etc I ask this because I realised as we get older there is a countdown to life Some of us may prefer to be retired ,others to work full or part time . Others to be unfit ,others to go to the gym But the question is ,are you wasting your next years left ? I don't know how to define the term wasting your life because my late mother preferred to stay home and read books and watch inspector Frost reruns whilst my father done gardening everyday so everyone is different To me I'm planning the countdown to death ,some days I don't have the motivation even for sex though . But I'm not one now to waste time working continually for money my goal this year starting from October 1st to December 31 is to suck as many cocks , and be fucked . Im changing my attitude goal , and starting to think positive instead of negative, in the last few days walking to the shopping areas in my area I noticed African guys looking at me whilst walking past , unfortunately I didn't stop and talk to them kept walking,my ass was aching afterwards dreaming of the African dick I could of had , I told a friend later in the cafe about both days I had African guys looking at me and how my butt was aching thinking about them and my regret and not stopping to talk to them, unfortunately he is a old negative man who told me he didnt think they were looking for sex but talked negative ,I will avoid talking subjects like that with him in future Secondary I'm not going to allow "drama" into my life ,we all won't be here in 30 years time ,stop letting little things concern you ,get out there and enjoy what you have left ! I plan to grow old disgracefully wbu ?

Hi everybody! I am in RJ for three months, but now I just wanted to comment that I visited Belem, state of Pará. Belem is an interesting city with excellent Amazonian gastronomy. A three days visit is enough, though. There is the Paradise sauna, with some very friendly GPs. The price difference with RJ is remarkable (100 BRS). Best greetings, Epi

It's like my friends that have drug, money, alcohol problems.....gotta want to help yourself before anyone else can.

I don't "act" gay, as far as I know and I've been told by people they can't believe I'm gay. I live my life, as I want. Don't advertise it but when I have been asked, I reply "why, are you interested, what you want to do?" I have straight friends from high school that I'm still in touch with, they never ask and I never bring it up, but without a doubt they know....just isn't part of our conversations, we talk about their kids and I talk about my dog or my travels. Couldn't imagine being afraid of enjoying my life as I want, I'm not 18 & confused.

either that, or they don't even think about your sex life, because THEY ARE IN PATTAYA and they're thinking about theirs, lol

Wtfool, you seem to lack a proper understanding of what a friend is. Most important of all, a true friend is someone who is there to support you in all situations. So if they turn on you because you are gay, how can you consider them to be friends?

I don't watch TV for generation, for news I read magazines where news are already digested and better presented than on the spot clunk. Only social media if you can call them that I participate is this forum ,e-bay , Grindr and Line, last two for sinister reasons obviously. I did not notice I'm worse informed about world issues than anybody around and as for friends they are already asking me if I throw my annual party at end Nov and I can afford to tell them ' who told you you will be invited ? " and we still laugh. I think those Instagram seniors ( and not only them ) you mentioned have serious problem with low self-esteem

Not sure about that... Depression can be insidious and the sufferer may be unaware of it, or so demotivated they don't seek help. I don't see "some guy on the internet knows better" but "some guy on the internet suggests you might consider getting professional advice".

most likely shortest commercial flight by that aircraft ever

I don’t, have met them in the States and in my travels.

The way you describe those nuts 🤣

I love good wine as do many of my friends, but not sweet wines!

I think the vast majority of people don't think about you at all. That is to say if you're out with some cute Thai boy most of the people you encounter won't care because they have their own lives to worry about. Maybe some will give you the side eye, but you'll never see them again so who cares what they think? I don't say it to criticize but you might want to consider therapy to help you get over all of these internalized issues. It couldn't hurt and quite likely would help you a great deal. You may also have undiagnosed depression or other mental health issues that can be treated either with medication or other therapy.

All Americans (and people in most of the western world) have access to social welfare if they are below poverty line, that is the safety net. Social welfare pay for medical care, senior housing, nursing home stay(if it is determined you can not take care of yourself). There are case managers who can coordinate everything for you if you don't have family. All you need to do is to wait to die. I prefer living in the U.S. in my dying old age after I have spent all my money enjoying a good life. I pay tax while working, and I will be happy to get those tax back through social welfare. But my best scenario is to die right after I have run out of my fund. If I have a terminal disease and in suffering, I will certainly pursuit euthanasia. Almost all Asian countries including Thailand and Philippines have no such social safety net, and the older people there have to have money saved for their own senior lives, and be very careful of evil scammers and relatives. (or produce next generation and train them to respect and take care of older people, this is the core value of Confucius teaching that spread in most Asian countries)

I got kicked out of my last job for the criminal offence of being gay, though a great lawyer friend fought for me for free and got me a whole year's salary to go quietly. I was 53 when I gave up looking for another job, took my small pension, sold my lovely flat which still had a big mortgage on it, and moved to live in Thailand, and that was eleven years ago. Since the UK pound is so weak my income is a lot worse now, but life is still fine. I live alone, pay for sex when I want it, enjoy some good food, swim every day for exercise, have a few good friends. Not a bad life, if not exactly what I had planned.

Very well said. My experience with apps is very limited ( just 5 cases, in 3 I contacted guy, in two they found me) and while service side was from acceptable to outstanding, looks wise I'd grade from not-impressive to quite acceptable i.e . if I saw those guys in bar most likely I'd overlook them , in one case with great loss to me.

It's clear that punters haven't lost their interest in cruising. Cruising offers something the apps can't: an in your face, three-dimensional experience. It can happen anywhere and requires no other device but your eyes. It almost always involves other solo men, so that helps refine the search. And we all know what it is we're looking for. That bit of eye contact--sometimes obvious but often furtive. On the best of occasions, the guy may physically approach us and make clear his intentions as we've read above. It's just a matter of ignoring your phone and allowing your eyes to do your talking. Nothing's guaranteed but anything is possible.

correct, out of mercy for other, uninterested readers

I guess that’s why he went platinum blond and changed his name to Tyler

Part 5: Re-discovering Bangkok's touristic hotspots (... Because Bangkok has much more to offer than boys alone, right?) As I’ve written earlier, I was a yearly visitor of Bangkok since 2012. Off course I’ve been to all the famous tourist places over the years. Grand Palace, What Po… But as I’ve heard that tourist numbers still are so much lower than before covid9, I figured out it might be nice to re-visit some of these places again but now without it being too crowded. No crowds at Grand Palace today I’ve read that the 11 million Chinese travelers that arrived in airports in Thailand in 2019 made up more than 25 per cent of the Thai tourist industry for that year (there was a total of 39 million visitors in 2019). For Thailand I wish soon much more tourists will find their way to the Kingdom again. But it is actually nice for me to now take advantage of the lack of tourists in places that were over-crowded before covid19. With the Chinese still almost not traveling to Thailand yet, I was looking forward re-exploring Bangkok without the big Chinese tourist groups around. I took the advice from this forum to download the Bolt taxi app. As Bolt should be cheaper than Grab. For my trip from Le Méridien hotel in Silom to Gran Palace I looked up the prices: Bolt: 87 baht, 17 minutes waiting time Grab: 177 baht, 8 minutes waiting time So I thinks it's all about how much you want to pay and if you're in a hurry or are oke with a little longer wait... 🚕 Not busy at all in Wat Pho today It was indeed not as busy at Grand Palace and Wat Pho as I remember from my previous visits. Was nice after all these years to see those places again. And because not so many people around, beautiful opportunities to make some great pictures. I recommend to do the same if you're lucky to get to Bangkok somewhere in the next months. We can't be chasing boys all day and all night, can we...? Lol To conclude this posting; when I went to the atm it was asking me like always if I wanted to wish to proceed with the transaction with the conversion rate the machine was offering. I always wondered what was best to do. I always declined so my bank would just use the daily exchange rate. But some friends told me I better use the conversion option on the atm. Well... Happy I never listened to them. As conversion via atm would have cost met just over 300 euro. 💸 I just checked my digital account and my bank only charged me 286 euro... Good to know.

New upcoming series Bad Buddy with the duper sexy actor Ohm