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Even if successful in getting him a visa to USA, many Thai boys are miserable, lonely, and depressed to be away from home, family, their own culture, language, etc. Friends are very important for a Thai guy, Thai peer friends. Many older farangs only think about their own happiness and things unravel quickly. So many of us have had the same dream and so few find success. Each of us think this boy is special. We think how can I feel so strongly and he not. This must be real must be true. Alas, most of us only learn from experience and some never learn and keep repeating over and over. No body heeds advice, we ask but don't follow because we know this boy is different and how can I feel so strongly and it not be real, not be mutual . I know 75 y.o+ men who believe their 20 y.o. boyfriend prefer old men in bed..

Carnaval in Rio is really amazing ... I did not realize that there are so many street events ("blocos"). The atmosphere is that of supporters after a soccer game in which their team won the game : jokes, drinks, fun ... but it is in the whole city and during 5 days ! And it is sexy as hell. Lots of good looking boys, wearing only a short skirt and having fun. Many blocos are gay or gay friendly (or is it the ones I went to ?). The bloco of Carmelitas started the ceremonies on friday at 1 pm in Santa Teresa. Saturday, starting at 7 am there was the bloco of amigos da onça (friends of jaguar) on the Flamengo beach. A very good one. Perfect for eye candy. Lots of young men (and women of course) in various stages of undress. Lots of drinks and so many beach vendors. Uninterrupted long line of men pissing in front of the sea or in front of Aterro ... Many couples deep tongue kissing everywhere. There are the couples who came together of course but also boys stopping in front of girls or boys they do not know but like and starting to deep tongue kissing as though the world was soon over. Mainly locals in Flamengo ie very few tourists only coming in small groups with a guide and grabbing their cameras as if they were sure to be robbed soon. 5 pm in Ipanema for Banda de Ipanema. A very famous group active since 50 years. Under rain at the beginning. Many many tourists there of course who attract a lot of pickpockets and boys from favelas. Extreme caution is needed there. Even when I came back at my olace in Botafogo was a local bloco ("pinta mas nao borra") in the streets !

Os amigos da onça. The friends of jaguar. Flamengo beach

Absolutely go (or don't go) wherever you feel comfortable. It's your holiday and you should be comfortable and relaxed. Personally, I have no concerns at all about hanging out in any of the bars (gogo, Hot Male Beer Bar, Telephone, etc.). If someone near me was coughing I would probably notice and move a bit away, but beyond that I am simply following the WHO/CDC suggestions about hand washing and I do wear a mask in the stores and BTS, but just because I think it's expected of us now. By no means a statistician, but my gut - and a considerable gut is is - tells me that when you work through all the numbers and probabilities, the risk from all the passive smoking at those bars is probably greater than getting COVID-19 now. So far not a hint of any cases of transmission in the bar scene. (So far....) Saunas I'll let others who spend time there address.

Hi Schuft, Congratulations and good luck. If you didn't try to achieve this you would always wonder. I went into a similar situation after a long distance relationship. Like you I was aware that he might not adapt to local conditions(which in my case were unfortunately without any thai infrastructure), I was at work every day for long hours etc. But it was fine and we are still together twenty years later, and the large age gap remains a large age gap! So happy I took that risk, and what a fight we had for the early visas. All worth it a hundredfold.

I think about this everyday when we chat, I wonder if he will adapt to life in the US, will he like it here etc. If after all this he can't adapt he goes back and we switch off visiting each other. I certainly wouldnt want to keep him miserable. I've been looking into thai community groups, a Temple for him to goto. All I can do is offer suggestions after all is said and done.

you right, I like Singha or Chang beer better

1st guy on the pic is the cowboy...

I have no plans for him, if he wants to work its up to him. He isnt really a boy, hes 27 turning 28 in April so he is mature enough to make his own decisions. The only thing I told him he can't do is keep livestock in the back yard (he was born and raised in a villige outside Chaing Rai, a Farm boy). We spoke at length and in depth about this last night. I made it clear to him that if he can't adapt he is free to go back and we will keep meeting up every 6 months until I retire. We only have 3 months to get married with the K1 visa, Once we marry I told him he can not leave the US until he gets a green card or advance parole, if he does he can't re-enter the States. I made it clear that if he wants to go back I will not be mad at him and will of course fly him home and then restart the 6 month visit schedule. I have a strong feeling he will adapt to western life, his step dad is english and he and his mom are in the UK 4 or 5 months a year. He knows that he will be around 50-55 when I pass, but be a rich man and go back to Thailand. We have tried to cover everything. I did find 2 Wats and a very large Thai Community group in my area which was surprising to me. Hes excited to come to the US, he's excited about getting married, he's excited about taking care of me tho it will be me taking care of him. In short, Im doing everything I can to make this as painless as I can for his comfort and well being.

So here it is almost 3 years later, I'm still in love with the Boy, I travel to Thailand every 6 months for two weeks to be with him. On my last trip I asked him to marry me, he said yes. I have started the K1 visa app, i hope it goes thru as I want him here with me, everytime I visit I dont want to leave. I have 5 years till retirement so I cant "stay". I will meet the parents in April when we all goto Pattaya. There is exactly a 30 year difference, that may be a problem with the US Immigration tho.

I've also been dragging my feed on this - following story very closely. But I just booked my annual trip for the end of March. Corona be damned!

My first Carnaval in Brazil ! Prices of hotels are much higher than usually, particularly in Copacabana and Ipanema. I will he hosted in Botafogo, close to metro. Somes questions for the one who have already gone to Rio for Carnaval : - Where is it worth going (bars, samba, street events, ...) ? - Is it necessary to buy tickets for Sambadromo ? Where to be positionned ? - When are the best shows at Sambadromo ? Is the final show with the champions (on Saturday February 29th) the best ? - Any other tips ? Thks !

Great good wishes...it’s your life, live it in your way!

See you next week, can’t wait to have fun with you @pauleiro

I enjoyed it greatly. It’s delicious ‘froth’ and very entertaining. David Corenswet is good eye-candy.

As I've said many times here, The golden days of hot Havana guys have been long gone, can find an occasional diamond in the rough, but not so common these days

this we don't know but what we know is that he is handsomeboy for sure

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I assume you know what you are doing and took all the difficulties into consideration . Sadly my personal experience and others with Thai boys was a disaster and I am so happy for your successful love, that proves that true love can be stronger than big age gap and culture difference .

Now that this thread has turned into a political rag of bandwidth horror, perhaps it's time for some levity. This gem ended up in my NewTumbl feed yesterday, which is very odd considering 99.9% of my Feed features variations on hard cock. Upon closer inspection, I got a serious chuckle. I admit to having some Photoshop talent, but this is pure genius:

take comfort knowing you are not alone

I find the reactions and comments to this post as interesting as the topic itself. After three years and repeat visits and time together, I assumed that the OP had sufficient mental capacity to think about whether his guy is right for the long haul before asking him to marry. There are good points about finding some cultural support groups. Certainly in the U.S. there are in many places significant Laos and Thai communities. I have a home in the middle of nowhere in a town with 9,000 people and there's a Thai wat with three monks 12 minutes drive away. His guy - who is likely not an entirely passive participant in this process - may also know, or be Facebook friends with, people who have gone to the U.S. Pretty much all over Thailand and adjoining countries there are people from the village who have moved to the States or Europe. Sources for shared experiences and advice. If his guy wants to give the U.S. a shot - I say go for it. I happen to know and staying regular contact with several guys right now from Laos and Vietnam who are in the States, going to school and adapting (plus of course occasional bouts of homesickness). For some it's like going to the "show" from minor league baseball. But nice to see so much of the sort of condescension and pedantry I usually think of as my bailiwick.

I read this thread with interest and thank you for coming back to update us all. Delighted to hear that things worked out for you. I feel that you need to be brutally honest with yourself and your read of the situation. Take off those rose tinted glasses and assess if he is really with you for the long haul. If he is, as khaolakguy says, then nothing ventured nothing gained. This could possibly be something worth fighting for. Just don’t set yourself up for more than you have to lose. a few things to consider 1. Are you very sure he has never been a money boy or in any type of rental situation? This could very well be the defining factor that sets your relationship up for success. 2. A little caution about the Thai university setting. It’s a good suggestion but keep in mind many thai students abroad (even if they don’t appear so) are from hi-so and upper middle class families, they may very well look down on him if he is not as well educated / from a similar background / especially being in a relationship with a much older farang. Thai society is a complicated beast. It would be depressing for him to arrive in a foreign country and still be discriminated against by his fellow countrymen. 3. suggestion to locate Thai temple is a good one as I assume their community would be more inclusive. Also the Thais who arrive to work in service industries and run restaurants are far less discriminatory than millennials from good families. 4. When he first arrives, buy him a plane ticket for a home visit in two or three months. If he does not settle in immediately, it will help him to know that he will go home for a visit during a visible future date and he will focus instead on acquiring new skills and interests that he can show off to his family. 5. do you plan to have him work or enroll him in some courses to start off?

https://thanksamillion.sg/thailand-situation-update-on-coronavirus-disease-2019-covid-19-22-february-2020/

I have an upcoming trip to BKK which was booked 2 months ago. I guess I will probably do ahead, but most likely I would avoid the crowded places like bars and saunas.

What happened in south korea can actually happen anywhere really. It takes just one selfish individual to refuse being tested for the virus and starts a chain spreading where she went to few more services and infected hundreds more. But yeah, im not sure why the authority there allows for people to refuse being tested, when the virus is just waiting for a breakout. Other than china, we have seen local breakouts in singapore, italy, iran, as well as the cruise ship diamond princess. I foresee we will not see the end of this anytime soon, and travel restriction has been ineffective anyway. So i dont think basing decision to travel or not to a place where local cluster transmission has not been observed is justifiable. Keep abreast with the news and keep practising good hygene practices and if you show symptoms, wear a mask and get to a clinic asap.

One question you might want to explore: is there a Thai community anywhere in your vicinity? Sometimes they can be found around large universities or in major cities. Being able to talk Thai with those who share his cultural heritage would be a big help in adjusting to a strange environment. Best of luck to both of you.

Congratulations! It may take a while with US Immigration, and I know of at least one situations where it took a couple of tries, so don't get discouraged. All the best wishes!

Rio. Very hot. Since I met a friend in the afternoon, I went late to 117. Many boys but none new to my liking. 117 is having special shows for Carnaval. I expect new faces to be seen !

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Agreed, yet we're also not swimming in guys needing to pay rent each month, at least not in any venue I know of. I would think we'd be the first to know if all the cute young counter clerks got desperate...

Hahaha ... good catch, thanks. Mea maxima culpa. Two possible explanations: One, I am dealing in COP for a trip to Bogotá mid-September, and will purchase an initial batch this week. Two, a uniform fantasy subliminally on my mind.

My only fear or more a concern if i do catch it, ill have to let the authority do a check on my travel history and i really dont want to tell the world what ive been doing, who ive met, and wher ive been when i am in thailand lol. I believe that should be private matter but the fear of this covid-19 does mean you will have to be transparent about it or it might lead to another breakout. I really dont want the news to be "gay sex tourist amongst the latest confirmed case of covid-19, and he has been with multiple guys at a gay sauna party of 300+ people". And they will definitely contact all your family and friends of recent contacts too, within 14 days or so, which might include co-workers etc. Imagine the nightmare itll bring lol