I really do completely understand that. 100% But, how do you know that the others you hire who do not let their junk hang out online have any more stability? I much prefer the devil I know.
That said, another story for you. I had one of the most amazing escorts known to mankind who worked for me. He developed Parnoid schizophrenia. He went bonkers after doing some drugs and his brain never switched back. I loved him. Literally. He was like my best friend and also the best fuck I had ever experienced. And, when on his meds, he was amazing and intelligent and spoke 5 languages. When off them, you never know what you would get. I thought things were much better and took him to Montreal with me on weekend. We had a 2 bedroom suite and my BF and his BF were there. He and I fucked for a few hours one night and it was just amazing. I was beyond thrilled. After sex, he turned over to me and said, "I know what you did." I asked what? He said, "I know it was you who turned me into the FBI." I was floored and scared shitless. I just had amazing sex with me fucking him and he fucking me and back and forth and I was in a very vulnerable position a time or two.
At that point, I went to the BF's room and told him I could not do this anymore. I packed our bags and left. It was one of my last nights with him. I loved him more than I could imagine but that episode scared me and having fucked tens of guys just out of Rikers, I don't scare easily. So, yes, I understand. But, I don't think an Internet feud would scare me off. I know it would not prohibit me from seeing one or both of them. It is just not a factor for me. But, I understand that others feel differently.
One thing you said was that you did not have patience for that BS. I ran an agency in NYC that was mostly twinks. I have a high tolerance and shitloads of patience.