Recently I finished a smashing book by R. J. Ellory, the famed author of the novel A Quiet Belief in Angels. This one is called A Dark and Broken Heart and is essentially about a man so corrupt, both legally and in his heart, that there seems to be no possibility of redemption for him. Nevertheless, as the father of four children, he hopes, if only for them, that he can one day reach redemption for his evil deeds. The novel is the story of his efforts, and it is indeed a dark story.
In my work as an attorney, I dealt with many people who had done wrong and wanted to make it right. Yet society seemed to lay so many obstacles in their path. It was as if one bad act changed the nature of your life and society's definition of you, and determined the course of what would be made available to you both publicly and privately. You were now branded a criminal, and evading that title was a mind-numbing task. Too many found it easier to just accept the title and live that life.
So, when Totally Oz says he doesn't want to focus on a person's past, I think I do know of where he speaks. And even if speaks not for himself, he raises an interesting point- that we won't let people leave their past behind. This happens in every day life, and it happens most publicly with politicians. There has been some improvement in my lifetime. In many parts of the county, divorce is no longer an automatic bar to public office.Just like gays have had to whittle away at opposition to their rights, so do those with a "past" have to whittle away at both society's bias as well as the bias of individuals who they want to hold important places in their lives. As gays, we can identify with them in many ways, until their past behavior reaches the tips of our own bias, and then we too draw the doors closed on them.
I am not talking here of people with serious deviate behaviors, like killing, rape, and other offenses that hurt or even ruin others lives. I am talking about an otherwise "behaved" individual who has a background that makes it difficult for him to advance his life even though he or she has left that behavior behind and now attempts redemption in the eyes of his or her friends and family, and society as a whole.
We get to face our own biases when voting for public office, but more often in our private lives when we decide whether or not a person's past bars him from participation in our own everyday lives.