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How To Deal With A Houseboy Over the weekend, EXPAT posted a link: http://www.boytoy.com/forums/index.php?/topic/13399-room-for-rent-in-gay-mansion-craigslist-ad/ to a Craigslist ad from a guy who seemed to be really creepy. This guy, who is in his 60s, wants a stable of young men to live in his mansion. But, he has all sorts of crazy rules he wants to put in place. Instead of expressing a desire to get laid, he made it look like he was looking for slaves. And as an added bonus, he comes off as racist. The thing is, there is nothing wrong with what he wants - it's called a houseboy (or houseboys) in his case. But he is going about it the wrong way, and has the wrong attitude towards the houseboy phenomenon. Having one or more houseboys on hand can be a great sexperience but like any other prized possession, they need to be treated with care. With that in mind, we thought that we would spend some time today to talk about houseboys and how to treat them right, so you cum off as a decent dude and not a total Sleazy McCreeperson. First off what is a houseboy? Simply put, a houseboy is a younger man who stays with an older man in a mutually beneficial relationship. It's sort of like getting yourself a male escort, except this one will be around all the time to help make your life a little bit better. Beyond that, houseboys don't only provide you with sex; they'll also do some cooking, cleaning and shopping. It's a mixture of combining a personal assistant with a male escort all in one person. The first thing to understand is that a houseboy is an investment. You can't just be like this Craigslist guy, offering free rent and expecting to have a 21-year-old guy blow you whenever you ask. That's ridiculous - and rude (and the only young guys who would agree to it are guys looking to find ways to rob you). That means that you need to not only put a roof over their heads, but you also need to give them money. You can call it an allowance or a salary or a stipend, but they need to have their own spending money. You don't want them to have to get a job, because you want them to be available for you when you need them, which is work on their part that they deserve to be compensated for. You also need to pay for the groceries, and take them out to dinner once in a while. They are real live human beings, not your own personal sex dolls (though you can role play that with them if you like!). They deserve to feel like independent, free people. You should also cover basic amenities for them, including giving them Internet access and paying for them to have a cell phone. Don't be like this guy and insist that they have to earn the right to go online or use a phone you are not a prison warden, and they are not inmates. Houseboys also need some time off during the week to do their own thing. They have a right to friends and a life outside the houseboy relationship. They are not slaves. You can negotiate with them, either before the arrangement starts or on a week-by-week basis, when their time off will be. It's fairly easy to come to an arrangement to have their time off when you won't be at home to use their services anyway. That way, you may not even notice that they are ever gone! You also need to spell out what will be expected of them before they move in and the houseboy relationship starts. For some guys, having the laundry done and the bed made will be very important. Other guys have an outside cleaning service, but may want all their shopping done for them and their meals prepared. It's up to you as to what non-sexual services you want - if you can afford a houseboy, you'll find one who is able to meet your needs. The houseboy should, of course, take those responsibilities seriously. He is not a slave, but he should have to earn his keep and respect that there are obligations that go along with the lifestyle you are offering him. Your houseboy should also be able to have some of his friends over once in a while. It's totally OK if you would rather not be there (some of us can only handle the youthful energy of one dude) but, again, you can negotiate this. One of the things houseboys love to do is show off the great living arrangement they've managed to score to their friends and, trust me, if you let them show off to the other boys, they will repay you in bed in ways that will blow your mind. You should also provide a clothing stipend for your houseboy. An easy way to do this is to get him a credit card in his name, with a reasonable limit on it. You know you want him to dress hot for you who wants a houseboy in shoddy clothes? and they'll want to shop themselves so they can surprise you with what they bought to please you. It is fair to set some limits in body and appearance. If you start a houseboy relationship with a hot, fit twink, you don't want him to suddenly start packing on the pounds since he has a comfortable relationship. You can dictate how much time you want him to spend in the gym, and create a system where if he doesn't live up to that part of his job, his stipend will be reduced or he will be asked to leave. This does not make you a jerk; you are paying for a pretty package, and you should get what you pay for. If you can follow these simple rules, you may find the houseboy relationship to be one of the most rewarding ones of your life. It can be like having your favorite escort literally on hand whenever you want them. If, however, you do it wrong, you can end up in a bad situation, and look like the type of Craigslist jerk EXPAT was making fun of.

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Since I am still down and out with the flu, I thought you might like to see some photos from my Facebook page from one of the saunas in Fortaleza, California Thermas.

Day 8 The cost for my camera to be repaired is 450 USD. It is not worth that so I declined. It is just not something I am willing to pay for. I had lunch at the mall and met my "date" from last night for lunch. It was enjoyable to see him but he spent over an hour talking to me and as he was working does that mean that Brazilians get more than 1 hour for lunch? I don't know and I didn't ask, I just hope he didn't get in trouble for this. I went back to Lagoa tonight and had a blast. When I walked in, I had about 6 young twinks come over to me and tell them they wanted to do a 3 way. I guess word got out that I liked 3 ways with the 2 boys from the last 2 nights and that I tipped them really well. I found the entire scene tonight comical as no one seemed interested in having sex with me but with me and another boy. LOL That would never happen in Thailand as the boys there are not great with 3 ways. But, the Brazilians lads are fantastic with them. I picked one guy I saw a few nights back and he and I chatted and he told me he was versatile and I was happy with that. He then called his friend over (without me asking him to) and said they would be "muito bon". I laughed and as I found them both adorable, I said OK. We got Room 24 again. I like it as the shower is a bit larger than the other rooms and the bedroom his a bit more comfortable and the TV is very nice. We went in and they turned porn on the TV but as they were both gay boys, they turned the channel to the gay porn instead of the straight stuff a lot of the boys pick. Again, the sex was fantastic. I loved it and they were both fabulous. They are 2 of the best kissers I have had here and they were also good at everything else. Both also came and both were really fun to be with. As I know many of you are more visual, I did take a photo with my shitty Sony that doesn't work properly. I can't do video or change any settings as the back screen needs to be replaced. But, even worst, I had my finger in the photo. But, hope you enjoy anyway!

I had a Yellow Lab like that once but, unlike Tomcal, she wasn't averse to letting a few dogs get into the rotation. Nor did they ever take her home to meet the family.

Day 7 Today was my date day. I decided it would not be good to go to the mall today so I had lunch at the Mercado Municipal again. Once again, I loved it. I had the shrimp pocket and an orange juice. I also headed back over to Lagoa today and found my two boys from the previous night. It took me less than 10 min to find them, get everything arranged and get the suite. Suite 24 was available and I much prefer that one. So, we went for it. I was back to the hotel before 8PM and had time to shower and relax a bit. My date picked me up around 10 and we went to dinner. It was fun and he picked the place. It was very cheap but it was one of those all you can meat places. It was not a tourist place and very local. We ate full dinner and drinks for less than 70R. and he offered to pay. WHAT? I was surprised. I guess he doesn't know I am here for the saunas and I didn't tell him and he never asked. He then took me to his apartment and we chatted and had a great time. He pays 3k R for a nice 2 bedroom apartment. 5 people share the apartment so it makes it very reasonable for them. It it in a very nice area but the space is pretty small. I met 2 of his roommates and they were also nice but not great at English. I stayed with him for a long time and then he took me back to my place. If I were living here, he would be boyfriend material for sure. Smart, intelligent and a great conversationalist. Plus, a super sweet guy!

Day 6: Karma is a Bitch I went to the mall again today to eat lunch and met a really sweet guy at a store there. He spoke perfect English and his uncle lives in Toronto and he has visited there several times. He seem to not want me to leave his store and he had about 4 others in the store listening to us but I don't think they understood anything as they don't speak English. It was great to chat with someone so smart and sweet. After I chatted with him, I headed up for lunch. I decided on the por kilo place again and I was much more careful this time to pick only what I was going to eat as opposed to what I wanted to taste. After about 5 minutes, Ferris walked over to may table and asked to join me. I said of course and we had a really nice lunch. We chatted and laughed about the prices in Brazil for goods and the cost he experienced in Toronto. He asked for my email and I gave it to him and we said goodbye. It was such a lovely chat and I had such a nice time talking to him. I headed to Fragata. I had decided that my demigod that asked 300 from Lagoa was not worth my time to ride all the way over there again and so I was going to go to Fragata Sauna. We were less than 10 blocks from my hotel in massive traffic when guess who I saw walking down the street? Yes, my demigod from Lagoa. I looked over and over again to be sure but it was him. I rolled my window down and shouted, "hello." He looked at me kindly oddly (like he didn't recognize me) and kept walking. I honestly thought of jumping out of the taxi and running after him like a dog in heat but: 1. I didn't want to embarrass my self and 2. I wasn't sure if he wanted to chat outside the sauna. I was so excited to see him that I knew it was destiny. But, I also knew that he would not be at Lagoa tonight as he was a LONG way away. I got to Fragata with my demigod on my mind. The place had a very nice crowd. Tons of boys and tons of clients. There were several I wanted in the place but I decided to get a massage from the massagista. He was great and it was very needed but at the end he tried to give me a good blow job but I didn't want to waste my cum on someone my own age. So, I thanked him and left. I got in the taxi to go to the hotel but the Demigod was on my mind so I headed to Lagoa just in case. Lagoa was also very busy. There was a slew of guys and customers. I have to say that this crowd was better looking than the one from the same sauna on Friday night or Monday night. There were tons of cute twinks there but my future husband was not there. I decided I was not going to do anything there tonight when one of the cute twinks started licking his lips and I smiled and he came over to me. He went to get his phone to translate which I thought was cute and his friend also sat down next to me. He said in translate, "I want to fuck you so much that your cum shoots into the next room." well, I wasn't sure if that is what he meant or did the mean that he wanted sex with the guy in the next room and not me? But, he was fun to play with and he told me that he was a great top and bottom and he would suck me dry. I laughed again as he was just too funny. His friend was next to us and also fun to chat with. One was from Fortaleza and one was from Sao Paulo. Both were 19. Both said they were bi. But, the one from Fortaleza was totally gay and I doubt could get it up for girl. Anyway, I asked them if we all three went together would they be OK to fuck each other. They both jumped at the idea and said yes. I asked how much and they didn't care so I said 100R each and they said yes. We got a room. I had asked for Suite 24 which is the larger room but it was booked and we took another suite. HOLY SHIT. This was the best 3way I have had in 8 years. These two twinks were amazing. They both were amazing kissers, great orally, and wonderful bottoms. The one from Fortaleza had such a great ass. The three of us did everything possible with everyone possible. I came twice in the hour and both of them shot loads that were amazing. I never asked them to cum but they both wanted to and they both wanted to be sure they fucked each other and they took turns going back and forth. I loved the guy from Fortaleza getting fucked as he obviously loved it. It is such a great three way experience. I had an amazing time. I gave them both a nice tip to which they were both happy and wanted to know if they can go to hotel with me. LOL Sex once per day is enough for me but this much sex was enough to last for the week and honestly, if I have no more sex in Sao Paulo, I will be happy with my experiences here. When I got to the hotel, I had an email waiting for me asking me to do to dinner with the guy I met at the mall today. I told him today was not possible but asked about tomorrow. He agreed. So, I have a date with a really cute boy tomorrow and I am sure that if he puts out, the dinner will cost me more than the fantastic 3 way I just had. But, life must be lived and enjoyed and in Brazil, you just go with the flow. Did I say how much I enjoyed my 2 twinks today? HOLY SHIT! I even forgot about my demigod. Well, almost,but not quite.