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If a straight boy does not deliver what has actually been greed, the appropriate course of action is to return and complain to the mamasan. Withhold a tip if warranted. But the problem in my limited experience is that hardly any customers bother returning to the bar and just chalk problems like this down to experience. In any event, there is presumably little proof re what he was asked and what he said he would do. So if the boy earns cash for the bar, there is little a mamasan is likely to do. The issue often seems to be one of communication - lack of clear communication. I know this is very difficult and perhaps feels awkward for newcomers. But two issues that could have been added to the list of what the customer wanted was no smoking and no phone until after sex. Very difficult to enforce, especially with straight boys who probably need some straight porn to get in some kind of mood to go with a gay guy. It would also be my word against his.  Although I no longer attend bars in Thailand, were I to do so and in the unlikely event I wished to take out a straight guy, based on what I have read in recent years in this forum I'd have on my phone pre-prepared lists of what was expected - one in Thai, one in Vietnamese, one in Lao, one in Cambodian and maybe one in Burmese. These can be done before arrival in the country. That's a big hassle to prepare I know - but what do you want? What you ask for or what happened to the unfortunate poster above? I would have the boy agree this and show it to the mamasan. It's obviously no guarantee, but it surely avoids a good part of the issue of communication difficulties.

PeterRS, the point in this case isn't the "too high tip" or "good or bad service". It's the actual paying a guy who promises and totally doesn't deliver. The result isn't that "those who follow" will b expected to pay more. It's that the guy and others will continue to cheat.

Why? Why is there always someone who moans about tips being too high (however good or bad the service) for the only reason that it queers the pitch for those who follow? A tip is a tip. In my many years of bar hopping and offing, I gave tips which were in line with the service I received, not what others suggested. The guys who gave great service and went beyond what I expected (most of them) would always get more. I never knew about average tips but always had in my mind what I would give for a good time. The only time I had any issue was with a boy from the old Screwboys Bar who, having been given quite a generous tip for lousy service, asked for more! He was out the door quite quickly! Would those who complain suggest to bars that there is a tip sheet with maximum tips obvious to all patrons? Impossible!  (Sorry @vinapu as I am sure you are always fair. But there are equally degrees of fairness. A guy with lots of cash to spend is likely to pay considerably more in a tip whatever anyone suggests to him whereas those on far more modest incomes give less. That's the way of the world!)

Didn't know it was 2027 already. 

If you look through the massive cataolgue of songs, old and not so old, you will find plenty with lyrics which suggest all manner of mental issues. I have no idea why @unicorn reckons this particular one so shocking. As I'm a bit older, I can remember this from Roy Orbison "It's Over". Like @unicorn I rarely paid much attention to the words and did not realise it referred to the break up of a relationship, but the title and the repetition in the second verse of "It's over, it's over. it's over" made the young me think it was about the end of life. What about Bob Dylan's "Knockin' on Heaven's Door"? Mama, put my guns in the ground, I can’t shoot them anymore. That long black cloud is comin’ down. I feel like I’m knockin’ on heaven’s door The pain of lineliness is also expressed in Eric Carmen's "All By Myself" (with the melody stolen from Rachmaninov's Second Piano Concerto)? Most that I can recall refer to an expression of the loss of someone, not the singer. But the effect on the original listeners who rarely if ever considered context was vitually the same. Elton John/Bernie Taupin's original "Candle in the Wind" after the death of Marilyn Monroe Loneliness was tough,The toughest role you ever played, Hollywood created a superstar, And pain was the price you paid. Or Metallica's "Fade to Black"?  I have lost the will to live, Simply nothing more to give, There is nothing more for me, I need the end to set me free But go back in time through the classical canon and you find composers almost preoccupied with songs about death. Bach's cantata "Ich habe genug" meaning essentially "I have had enough and wait to go to my Maker" is probably the most obvious. Just before his death in 1949 Richard Strauss wrote his hauntingly beautiful "Four Last Songs". I adore the third "Beim Schlafengehen" (While Going Too Sleep) which ends - Hands, cease your activity; Head, forget all of your thoughts; all my senses now will sink into slumber. And my soul, unobserved, will float about on untrammelled wings in the enchanted circle of the night, living a thousandfold more deeply.